Self-doubt grips us all.
My job is to provide advice. I spend my time figuring out the best way to get shit done, to become more disciplined, to get in shape, to boost testosterone levels, and so forth.
Of course, there are thoughts running through my mind telling me that no one will listen to what I have to say or that I’m not worthy of giving advice in the first place.
We all have self-doubt.
Here are 5 things you need to understand if you’re going to overcome it, put yourself out there, and take action on the things you need to take action on to live a good, flourishing life.
1. Understand that it’s a lie
Self-Doubt isn’t true. It’s not a voice of reality, but a voice of weakness and deceit. That voice telling you that you’re not good enough or that you’re unworthy isn’t true, and you need to recognize it.
When the voice starts up, as it begins to rationalize and tear you down, call it out. It’s a liar, and it’s the last voice you should be listening to.
2. Write down a logical conclusion – not your fear
Alright, so you’re about to attempt something, to put yourself out there in a big way, and that little voice is telling you that you’re not going to succeed because you’re not good enough.
You know that you are good enough, but you’re still not convinced.
So, write down the worst thing that can happen, and then think about whether or not it’s really that bad.
Let’s say you’re going to throw a live event. You book the room. You put the invite out. The worst thing that can happen is that no one shows up. Not a single human.
Do you really care?
It’ll suck, yes, but you’ll live to fight another day. It’s not the end of the world. It’s never the end of the world.
Now, is that really likely? Probably not. Your worst fear rarely is. And when you write it down, it’s not even that scary.
3. Write down the worst case scenario
Now, use your imagination.
What’s this deepest, darkest fear you’re worrying about?
Forget logic. Write down this illogical conclusion that’s preventing you from taking action.
Writing it down will show you how stupid it is.
4. Solve the source of the doubt – man up and get better
The best way to overcome self-doubt is to simply get better. Practice. Improve. Win.
Self-doubt is a lie. Yet, the only way to truly overcome it is to prove it wrong.
Work harder. Create a practice routine. Make more money. Win more battles. Do whatever you need to do to show yourself that you’re worthy. The more you win, the less self doubt you’ll have.
5. Understand that people don’t care, they’re not watching you, their opinions don’t matter.
Sometimes self-doubt is rooted not in our fear that we’re inadequate, but in our fear of what others will think, say, or do.
They’re so insignificant to who you want to become and what you’re trying to do that they really don’t deserve your time, energy, or thoughts.
On top of that, people don’t really care. They have their own shit to deal with, their own insecurities to overcome and conquer. Help them out. Lead the way by taking action, by being the man, by winning daily and winning consistently.
Define the one thing you have the most self-doubt about.
Maybe it’s public speaking or you’re not confident that you can start your own business. Whatever it is, write it down, and take one action step TODAY toward the thing you’ve been putting off for far too long…
… Or don’t.
Don’t write it down. Don’t take an action step.
Stay as you are right now, small and insignificant in your own eyes, when you have the potential to be so much more.
Rise, from Average to Alpha.
Get after it.
About The Author
Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.