Be a better man, daily. No wish, no dream, follow the plan in this article and simply, be a better man day in and day out.
“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” ― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
We want to be better men, we all do. Few, however, have a plan to carry it out. Just like few men have a plan for power or wealth even though they dream about it nightly.
What follows are 9 action steps that you can take this week that’ll help you be a better man, but also become better at being a man, that is, the core, the base of what masculinity is, utilitarian above all else.
You’re here to serve a purpose. You’re here to win. You are not here to fill a clog, to fit into a puzzle, to exist.
A woman is born. A man is made. (read: The Manliness Checklist)
Manhood is something to aspire toward. It’s a goal, something to achieve, it isn’t something that occurs when you reach puberty or buy a house or even get married.
It’s something you win. People around you know when you’re there. They know they can count on your for all kinds of things that they maybe once couldn’t.
They know you’ll lead them in the right direction and for the right reasons and they’re glad to follow.
The Romans called manliness, excellence in all things. And it is. Excellence isn’t born, but crafted over time, as is manliness.
1. Do what you say you’re going to do.
A man is no better or worse than his word. Yet, we lie to ourselves every day. We say we’ll do this, act like this, achieve that, and we never do.
If we’d only do what we say we’re going to do in business and in life we would be able to look back at our lives with a pride rarely felt in the course of humanity. (read: what it means to be a man)
Intentions are like buttholes… You know where the line goes.
They’re shitty and everyone has them.
Accomplishments, well, they’re rare. They’re a big part of why we’re here. We’re not here to want to do something, intend to do something, or wish we could do something. We’re here to achieve. From big to small, do what you say you’re going to do, whether you say it to yourself silently or aloud to others. Get it done.
2. Do what you don’t feel like doing.
One of the best barometers of whether you should do something or not, is that you don’t feel like doing it.
Try this for a day. Most people, men especially these days, avoid doing things simply because they don’t feel like doing it.
When you have that moment of not feeling like doing something, do it. Sometimes you’ll have to avoid something because it doesn’t stick with the plan, but the point is to do those things you initially set out to do but now don’t feel like doing at all.
Try it out. You will be a better man because of it. You’ll end the day having lived, achieved, and won. If you stack up enough days like that you’ll live a great, truly great, life.
3. Don’t get too low, or too high.
Enjoy your victories, celebrate them. We don’t do enough celebrating these days. That said, don’t get too high when nothing seems to go wrong, and definitely don’t get too low when it seems like everything is going wrong.
That’s nice to say, it’s a good piece of advice, but how do you actually achieve it, namely not getting too low?
You have to have a plan for your life and for your day, and you have to follow that plan regardless of how you feel.
Action is an antidepressant. Being static and stationary will make you even more depressed. I’ve been through this, recently actually.
I had every opportunity to get really low, down, and depressed. It was staring me in the face every day, and the only thing that prevented it was action.
I set out every day to not stop until 8pm, regardless of how I felt.
I had a bunch of work to get done, yardwork, I had the gun range, the archery club, cigars, and books.
I wouldn’t stop until the day was done and it was time to wind down. That’s how you avoid being too low, you’re too busy to be low.
There’s a reason why I smoke cigars and it has nothing to do with aesthetics or taking pictures and all that nonsense. Cigars are meditation for men.
I’ll smoke one every second day or something like that. It’s an hour or so of meditation, of thinking, of putting things into perspective, putting the pieces of the puzzle together for life and business and even relationships.
Do it however you need to do it, but men need that moment in a day, whether by stogie or pipe or book, where they have silence to get their mind right.
It will help you become a better man.
5. Read more than you watch.
TV can be good. It can be a winding down, you can get inspired from it and even learn from it. More often than not, however, it’s useless, and people watch far too much of it.
Spend at least an hour a day reading, and less time than that watching TV.
As a man, you need to be smart. You need to be able to strategize and plan, to dissect situations and to not allow your emotions cloud important decisions. Reading will help you become a smarter man. A smarter version of yourself is undoubtedly a better version of yourself.
6. Be dangerous.
Better dictates you’re better at being what men should be, a protector and provider. The fact that you have the capacity to be dangerous means you’re at least the former.
The reality is that there are bad people out there, and as a man, you have to be better at being dangerous than those bad people. This means you know how to fight, that you’ve trained to do so, that you’ve strengthened your body so as to be successful at fighting, and, well, you know how to use a gun. (read: how to be an alpha male)
The ignorance that guns are bad can stand between not having one when a bad guy does have one. They’re a tool, like a hammer or a knife and they’re a much more effective tool in certain circumstances when your family’s safety is on the line.
Be as dangerous as you can possibly be.
This is what being a good man requires. We’re utilitarian beings. We’re here to serve some purpose and protection is definitely one of those purposes.
7. Plan how to be successful.
Success isn’t something you wish would happen, but something you’re strategically creating. The more money you make, the bigger your impact can be. Money isn’t the be all end all, it’s a tool, a gauge you can judge how good you are at what you do – one of many.
Up until a certain time in life, boys dream about success, they wish it and pray for it, but men plan for it.
Until it’s a plan, it remains a wish. Have a plan to achieve power and success, and then do whatever you have to do to create it.
8. Be stoic.
Stoicism is a lot of things, it’s a way to live and think and how to see things. It’s an understanding that the event isn’t as important as your reaction to it.
You have complete power and control over how you see things, tragedy, victory, betrayal, the absurdly unfairness of life. Most things are not a part of you. They do not wish to harm you, they simply are.
Read Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and Epictetus to know how to live. Read Proverbs, anything by or about Theodore Roosevelt or George Washington, and learn to deal with the worst and the best like a man. Read Man’s Search for Meaning as well.
9. Take care of yourself first.
This goes against what most of us think is ‘good’, but it’s the truth. This does not in any way mean you buck responsibilities, but you put the oxygen mask over your mouth before you put it over your kid’s.
If you suck, their lives suck.
If you’re unsuccessful, weak, fat, depressed, sad, down in the dumps, their lives are negatively impacted.
You have to be at your best for their lives to be at their best. You’re their foundation. So, take care of your shit. Get your money right. Get your mind right. Get your body right.
Have the things in your life you need to do to put wind in your sails. It could be hiking, hunting, shooting, reading, smoking a stogie every day, having beers with your pals once a week. Whatever you need to get yourself right, have it in your routine and don’t compromise.
Do the things on this list, most of them should be routine.
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I’m willing to bet that if you aren’t paying close attention, there’s something you’re snacking on that’s filling your body with estrogen… which is a major problem for men because the higher your estrogen levels are, the lower your testosterone levels will be. (read: 13 Most Powerful Testosterone-Booster Foods on Planet Earth)
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Wheat & Other Grains
A sandwich packed with carved turkey and bacon and fresh cooked wild game sounds good, doesn’t it? Well it is—but not if it’s piled in between two slices of bread. Because those slices of bread could be filled with estrogen and lowering your testosterone levels.
- A study conducted in Brazil found tested the grains in more than 5,000 mixed cereals and found that 32% of the cereals contained a grain with an attached fungus called zearalenone, which increases estrogen production in the body. The researchers insist there’s no way of knowing for sure if a loaf of bread, box of rice or any other grain contains or doesn’t contain zearalenone, and that you should avoid wheat and other grains if you want to avoid possible estrogen contamination.
- A study published in the journal Cell Chemical Biology found that exposure to xenoestrogens in wheat and grains are powerful enough to reverse the effects of anti-estrogen treatments. This is a taste of the anti-testosterone and pro-estrogen effect they can have if you eat them.
There’s no reason you should be eating soy. There are plenty of excellent protein sources out there to choose from… that will boost your testosterone levels—not put them in the pits like soy will.
- In a study from South Korea, researchers have found that a high intake of soy (even if it’s coming through a low-isoflavone soy protein extract—so basically even small traces of soy) can suppress both; testosterone and DHT. That’s a huge problem for men because DHT is the most powerful form of testosterone in the body. Yet, soy will shrink it to almost nothing.
- The only positive effect of soy consumption seems to be the fact that it’s relatively high in protein. Because soy is a plant, this is good news for vegans/vegetarians. However, you should know that according to a study from Cambridge University, animal protein is superior to plant protein when it comes to boosting testosterone.
- Because of the high amount of phyto-estrogenic isoflavones (genistein, daidzein, glycitein) present in soybeans, researchers have found that although having a significantly lower affinity for the receptors than that of estrogen itself, isoflavones can activate the estrogen receptors and minimize the effect of androgen receptors (where your testosterone binds with muscle tissue). Also bad news—soy is considered to be highly “goitrogenic”, meaning that it can disrupt the production of thyroid hormones by interfering with iodine uptake in the thyroid gland. The suppressed activity of the thyroid is considered to be one of the leading causes of low testosterone levels in men…
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On the surface, chewing gum seems like a great option, doesn’t it? You can chew on it to keep from overeating. It makes your breath smell fresh. Your jaw gets a good workout… But don’t be fooled. Every time you chomp down on mint gum, you’re raising estrogen and lowering your testosterone.
- Much of the research about peppermint and spearmint on male testosterone levels comes from male Wistar rat studies… One Turkish study divided 48 rats into 4 groups: Group one received drinking water. Group two received 20g/L peppermint tea. Group three got 20g/L spearmint tea. Group four got 40g/L spearmint tea. Compared to the water group, the peppermint tea at 20g/L group saw a 23% decrease in testosterone and the spearmint tea at 20g/L group saw a 51% decrease in testosterone. I know they’re rat studies, but that could be a huge price to pay just to chew gum or sip on mint tea.
- An Indian study showed that spearmint suppressed testosterone production… and was essentially an anti-androgen in male rats. The researchers concluded that spearmint increases oxidative stress in the hypothalamus, which lowers T synthesis in the balls.
- In one study done at the School of Medicine at a university in Turkey, researchers found that spearmint doesn’t only lower testosterone levels, but it also increases estradiol—a form of estrogen.
Listen man… PUFAs are everywhere. And there raising your estrogen levels and lowering your testosterone…
PUFA stands for Polyunsaturated fatty acid. And they’re most commonly found in walnuts, sunflower seeds, flax seeds and any kind of vegetable oil (corn oil, soybean oil, safflower oil). And even if you don’t think you eat any of those foods, just know that most restaurants use vegetable oil to cook their food in.
Here’s the damage:
- One study from Lleida University in Spain found that PUFAs increase oxidative damage in the body. For men like you and me that means PUFAs will increase out cortisol levels. That’s bad news because, not only does cortisol lower testosterone… but it also shortens your life span.
- A study from Quebec Canada found that a PUFA heavy diet will lead to increases in a glycoprotein called sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG). SHBG attaches itself to your testosterone and makes it ineffective in the body, so that even if you have a decent amount of testosterone flowing through your veins, SHBG makes sure it doesn’t do anything you need it to do for you, like build muscle, burn fat, or boost your sex drive.
- A study published in American Chemical Society found that vegetable oils are preserved with a propyl gallate—which is used to keep the oil from going bad, yet also increases estrogen in the body. It’s only one of many xenoestrogens out there and for men, should be avoided at all costs.
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Factory Farm Meats/Dairy
Here me clearly… I’m not talking about organic dairy or meat products. But man, you need to be careful of those meats and dairy products packaged at the grocery store. A few lean bison patties may scream “testosterone” to the naked eye…
But a closer look may reveal that it’s actually packed with estrogen…
- There was growing concern in the 50s and 60s about meat and dairy products being pumped with estrogen. Typically, farmers plant a pellet in the ear of cows that pump their bodies full of estrogen because the boost in estrogen will lead to an increase in milk production. That estrogen pumped milk goes right to the shelves of your local grocery store.
- One Iranian study revealed that hormones and antibiotics used in the meat and dairy industry are packed with estrogen. The study found that nearly all store packaged meat contains estradiol. Also, these animals are commonly fed soybean, which then enters in their blood stream (and we get a cut of the estrogen when we eat the meat). I hate to break it to you, but you’ll never look at packaged meat the same again… Start hunting your own wild game or Get This Natural Estrogen Defense Shield.
So there you have it man…
5 estrogen increasing foods you must stay away from. And listen up, that’s just five. There’s plenty more where that came from…
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When you talk about the weight room to a self-proclaimed intellectual, their eyes gloss over. When you say it parallels for much of what we can learn from life, they snicker. (read: Be Conquering or Get Conquered)
But that’s exactly what it can be. It’s a powerful teacher whose lessons align with life’s, and whose benefits apply to everyone, not just those after abs or shoulders or a nice big butt.
Whatever you want from working out requires pain and discomfort. You grow from destruction of the muscle by placing more weight on it than you’re currently adapted to push, pull, or lift. (read: How to Stop Comparing and Start Winning)
In the gym, you need pain to grow.
You’ve heard of post-traumatic stress disorder, we all have. It’s a psychological response to intense stress or a stressful event where we react negatively to said event.
Well, there’s also a phenomenon called post-traumatic growth in which people harmed by past events outgrow themselves (read Antifragile by Nassim Taleb).
That’s essentially what we get from strength training, too, we grow because we put our body through stress.
Our lives should yield the same response, we grow because of stressful events, not because of an absence of stress, harm, pain, and the like.
What you’ll find in this article is the means by which you grow one rep, one task, one mission objective at a time, and leave the rest to God, fate, or whatever you need to leave it to.
Growing From Pain – Being Antifragile
Humans are antifragile. Our species has thrived because it demanded we evolve and innovate. Innovation doesn’t occur under perfect circumstances, it’s most often born out of necessity – think the wheel, printing press, and religion – which, as much as anything, helped us manage unity in greater numbers.
Just like a muscle will atrophy without use, humans devolve amidst ease. We’re creatures that need struggle.
In an individual sense, we adapt to our routine, we adapt to our goals, and we adapt to who we’re surrounded by.
If we surround ourselves with alcoholics and losers, odds are that we’ll adapt to fit in. We’re better off to try to fit in with a crowd that we have to struggle to adapt to. We grow from stress, we evolve in turbulence.
It’s the theory that you rise to the challenge, or that the greater the stressor, the greater the growth.
If you shoot for the moon and miss, at least you will land among the stars. It is true. If you aim higher, if you allow your reach to exceed your grasp thereby bringing on more stress, you will likely grow more than you would if you only challenged yourself a little.
Stress, however, isn’t something we appreciate as a gift but something we try to avoid, not use.
We live in a world with far too many options. We once passed our genetics on by being the best, the strongest, warrior, hunter, provider, and leader. Today we can, essentially, be fat, lazy, weak, and still get by, passing on that material because we – or someone else – has settled.
You don’t have to be the best, or the best at anything, to carry on your name. (read: 12 Rules for Life for My Unborn Son)
We don’t want to be the latter, of course, but we’re also not called to a specific action.
We’re not in a small hunting tribe or group of warriors where our clear purpose is to protect the women and children and provide for them, and possibly expand our territory. Yet, our DNA hasn’t changed enough for us to not need that singular purpose, however.
With a sea of options of what to do with our life or even what to do in the run of a day, we’re given too many options when we’re genetically programmed to focus on one.
For the first time in 3 years, I’m single. I recently had to break up with the woman I was engaged to, the woman that was to be my wife. The term, ‘had to’ is true, but that in no way makes it easier or easy at all. I’m now faced daily with solitude, without a woman I truly loved to communicate with, to enjoy, to simply be with.
The options of what to do are endless, which isn’t good.
The options of what to think or what thought process to follow or what to remember about what we had are also endless. Again, not good.
I have to not only simplify my overall goal so as to focus, something I’d have to do anyway, but now I really have to do what’s next, and nothing else.
That is, do a task, then do the next one.
Reach a marker, then focus on reaching the next one.
We get outside of ourselves and knocked off our path almost routinely. We wander. We tread water wondering if the move we’re about to make is the right one. It’s paralysis by analysis and we’re all doing it.
I have to not only endure a difficult time, but grow from it.
I have to outgrow myself because of it.
None of what we face today is simple, which is why we have to work as hard at simplifying as we do at working. Simplification can take a second, but it often starts with a lot of contemplation, reading, and thinking.
To make the simple, simpler, focus only on what has to be now, and then what has to be done next.
In everyone’s life this exists. There is always a thing we should do now, and a thing we should do next. It’s the clarity, the ‘living in the moment’ you will need to create post-traumatic growth and antifragility (the latter isn’t just enduring pain and tragedy, but growing because of it and not in spite of it).
Eric Greitens wrote a great book called Resilience. In it he focuses a fair bit on warriors returning home and, for the first time in a long time, not having a clearly defined mission.
We all need a plan, a mission, and the steps we need to carry it out, or the markers we need to hit to achieve it.
In the book he talks about running he’d do as a Navy SEAL. They were trained to not focus on the entirety of the run, but the next marker they had to hit.
I really run into trouble with this. I focus on the entirety of everything and where I am in relation to where I want to end up; it’s simply the wrong way to think.
When you focus on the next marker, the next article you have to write, the next video you have to make, sale you have to make, page you have to read, you end up doing a hell of a lot more than you would if you were stuck thinking about the confusing, unfocused bigger picture.
Life is judged by what you do, not by what you intend to do or the ambitions you had, and especially not by the talent and potential you had that could have resulted in great things.
If you and I would just do what we say we’re going to do we wouldn’t be able to stop eventual success – success defined by achievement and by who we become.
Do what you say you’re going to do. Do it in everything. It doesn’t matter if you say it to someone else, but better yet, do what you say you’re going to do when you say it to yourself.
If you have a list of things you have to do in a day, do them all, and always do them all.
That’s how you pull yourself out of a pit, out of uncertainty, and into success, happiness, and most importantly of all, meaning, something we often lack or are ignorant of amidst a painful circumstance.
Grow From the Only Thing We CAN Grow From
Doctors tend to focus on the negative. They want to solve something through medication or surgery, thus, post-traumatic GROWTH isn’t talked about and it sure isn’t funded.
You’d think that if there’s a positive response to the same thing that there’s a very negative response to, we’d be studying what makes the response and the outcome positive, alas, we depend on men like Taleb to do such things.
The growth response is a choice.
It’s a choice to detach and to learn from what we’re going through or have gone through.
It’s a choice to focus on the micro and trust in the macro.
If the micro is taken care of the macro will be won because it’s won by smaller, daily victories in the seeming minutia of our daily tasks.
Why write this article, for instance?
It seems small in comparison to where I want to go and what I want to become, you know, the macro.
Will this propel my business forward?
Will it get me what I want overall?
Does it have the potential to reach a single person, to strengthen a bond with a customer, and to maybe even help my brand by strengthening a connection with one individual?
Yes, it has that potential.
It’s a focus on the micro. We have to focus on the micro, to do the micro. Making your bed will have a profound effect on how you see yourself and what you’re able to give to the world and the quality of human you’re able to live as.
This article is also an exercise in clarity. It’s strengthened my own views of how to win from stress, not necessarily by writing it but definitely by reading what I needed to read to be able to write it.
We do have a choice, then.
We can choose the path of growth.
We can give the macro to God, to the universe, to fate, to faith, to whatever your beliefs dictate you ought to give it to, and to do our best with the seemingly little things that have to be completed regardless.
We can take the pain, we can absorb it, we can learn from it, we can become antifragile because of it.
We can win because of the pain we go through, not in spite of it and not being destroyed because of it.
Pain, stress, catastrophes are a part of life and an inevitable aspect of your story.
Being that they’re inevitable should lead us to choose to use them, even trying to appreciate them for what can be gained because of them or in response to them.
It isn’t an easy or common response. Self-pity is much easier and much more common. But what’s easy is rarely what’s good, and it’s often the most destructive path one can take, ending any opportunity for growth and guaranteeing dependence all at the same time.
Image is everything. Okay, that’s not true, who you are and what you achieve is far more important than how you look. That said, you want to put the best version of yourself out there visually, because people do judge on appearance. If you look successful and manly you’re going to have that effect on others, which is what you want. (Read: 5 Steps to Be a Better Man)
You want to both look like the man and be the man.
Yet, style is trending toward the feminine. Men today are told to groom and pluck their face and chest and tighten their jeans and soften their skin.
In short, men are being pushed to look more feminine. Look at razor commercials or body spray commercials and you’ll see a slew of ‘somewhere in between’ looking humans, not men.
Men are also not being raised by men like they once were. What man knows how to fix his own truck, build his own fence, or fix the plumbing when it runs awry? Whether you want to look more manly in a suit or in jeans, in the boardroom or in the yard, I’ll show you 5 steps that’ll help you do that.
- Get in the gym!
You’re not trying to merely look ‘manly’, you want to both be the man and look like the man. You need to look like you command some damn respect and fear. You need to both be and look dangerous. Men, at their core, are just that, dangerous.
You’re technically a useless man if you don’t have the capacity to be a dangerous man. You’re useless to your community, your tribe, your family. If you can’t protect, you can’t do the thing that’s fundamental to masculinity.
And by gym, I don’t mean doing curls in the mirror with a tanned and hairless body. That ain’t how men workout. I mean join a boxing gym and learn how to fight. Join a crossfit gym and get your ass kicked. Get real world strong and athletic, not consumed by the aesthetic. (Read: Testosterone Supplements (what works and what doesn’t)
- Work with your hands.
Don’t wear lifting gloves, you’re not a woman. One of the biggest discrepancies between modern, soft men, and those from past generations, is their hands.
Men once worked with their hands, whether it was doing masculine work or working on their houses, you know, fixing things as men do.
Today we moisturize, we wear workout gloves, we use our hands to type and text not to hammer and shovel and bail. Popeye was created as a masculine figure, as was his arch enemy, both had massive forearms.
When you train your hands and your grip strength, you develop your forearms, and big forearms are very masculine. Call it ‘man cleavage’, because that’s the effect it has on women.
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- Trim but don’t go too far.
Masculinity is wild, or it has that capacity. You have to actually have the goods. Today the most popular videos and articles are those that focus on the things, the details, but not the foundation. You actually have to have what it takes. You have to be dangerous.
While masculinity is wild, if you want to look more manly today it’s also about success. You can’t look like a homeless fella. Get your hair cut every two weeks. Have a beard, I do, but keep it relatively trimmed.
Just don’t do all the eyebrows, manicures, pedicures, and the feminine things that men do these days. Look successful, not metrosexual.
Some easy archetypes would be Theodore Roosevelt, with his well-kept mustache, Tom Selleck, Sean Connery with his sometimes beard,
- Dress simpler.
Don’t be a fancy pants. Don’t be a peacock. Be a man. Dress like a man. That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to dress down, you just don’t need all of the bracelets and fancy accessories that have become the norm these days.
Simpler is better if you’re trying to look masculine. If you want to look like something in between a real man and a fairy, then adorn yourself with every kind of accessory you can.
A man should wear a watch, always a watch, a gold chain if he wants, a good belt, but no bracelets, no rings other than the wedding one. Forget about the fancy sox. Forget about the wallet chain or whatever they’re called. And don’t jazz up your belt, simple leather.
- Loosen them jeans.
No man should ever wear anything resembling a skinny jean. Get real jeans. If you’re jacked they’ll inevitably be a little tight around the quads, but they’ll be broken in. This goes for all pants, don’t wear skinny pants. Women, by God, keep wearing them, but it’s feminine to wear skinny jeans.
It’s better to wear whatever the hell your old man wears than to adopt that silly style.
- Increase Your Testosterone Levels!
When we look at masculine traits, Psychology Today has an interesting point in an article I came across:
“The majority masculine traits are directly or indirectly related to the amount of testosterone available in a person’s body. On average, men’s testosterone levels are ten to forty-five times higher than women’s.” (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/my-brothers-keeper/201410/the-stigma-masculinity)
Testosterone is what makes men, men, and low testosterone will send your masculine traits plummeting.
The big problem is that testosterone is on the decline with men, so we have to take this not only more seriously, but into our own hands as well.
The higher your testosterone levels, the more masculine you will be and appear.
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- Be more competitive.
Today we’re told that being competitive is a bad thing, which makes absolutely no sense, but that’s what we’re told. We’re told that it’s destructive, along with other male traits like aggression, dominance, and stoicism.
The truth is that there’s something very inate in men that makes us want to be better than the next guy. That’s not something to be ashamed of or to hide from, it simply is. Thus, being a part of your nature, you should fuel that fire because being competitive will be an asset in life.
It will lead to more success, more meaning, happiness, and achievement.
Foster that competitive nature within yourself. Don’t run from it. (Read: How to Develop an Iron Will)
- Be more stoic.
Stoicism is a choice, but the American Psychological Association listed it among the things that makes masculinity ‘toxic’.
Stoicism is good, 100% good, and those that practice it become powerful, not victims to events or a bad state of mind, but able to understand that it’s not the thing that matters, but how we choose to react to it that matters most of all.
There can’t be anything bad about that, and it’s something you, too, should aim to become, a stoic.
You can’t see yourself as a victim as a stoic. You won’t feel sorry for yourself, you won’t allow yourself to feel down, you will only do what you have to do and what you must do to win in life.
- Be rough around the edges.
Today we teach manners before manhood. That’s an ass-backward approach to teaching boys how to be men.
Be a man before you aim to be a gentleman. Don’t fret over style, accessories, or aesthetics if you haven’t the barbarian virtues won.
Theodore Roosevelt put it best when talking about his nation on the whole, but it applies to the individual as well:
“Over-sentimentality, over-softness, in fact washiness and mushiness are the great dangers of this age and of this people. Unless we keep the barbarian virtues, gaining the civilized ones will be of little avail.”
If a man isn’t dangerous enough to easily defeat bad men who are dangerous, then the ease, the softness, the emotion of human relationships, the civility we enjoy in our society, is lost.
It’s not enough for a man to know how to dial 9-1-1 and to wait for a cop to come to his rescue. By all means dial the number, but in the 15-minutes it takes for them to get there you’d better be able to successfully take matters into your own hands.
Be good at being a man before you even think about being a gentleman.
If you take that to heart, if you get in touch with who you are as a man, remove any feminine aspects from your personality, forge the barbarian virtues that are masculinity, and then polish it up with good, simple style.
You have to be a man before you can even think about being a gentleman. We’re lacking that
How to Look More Manly
The easiest way to look more manly is to be more manly. What’s being more manly? For that, you have to go back to its base, to be better at being a man not just merely good. Men are utilitarian.
We need to be able to protect our family, our women, our tribe, so get good at protecting, be a good fighter, warrior, learn to use guns and so forth. Learn how to fix things around your house. Become more successful, be the provider, the protector, not the fella wasting his money on clothes he can’t afford, looking silly in the process.
Adjust who you look to for style tips.
Look to Frank Sinatra, John Wayne, and Teddy, not the latest celebrity with estrogen-filled veins.
What’s easy is usually what’s bad for us, and what’s difficult is typically what’s good for us.
Today we have the option to choose, there was a time, however, when we didn’t.
Survival was success, and survival demanded we take risks.
We had to put ourselves in danger to get food. We had to come close to death to create the death that would feed our families.
Today, we can survive with ease.
With the click of a mouse we can have food delivered, be entertained, even earn enough to feed our family.
Success has many definitions today beyond survival.
Success can be monetary, physical, relational, spiritual.
Success for you and I has to be different than success for the masses.
It has to be multidimensional, encompassing every area of our lives.
If you’re like me, you want greatness. You want power. You want happiness and meaning and love and pride and a legacy.
In that case, what’s difficult has to be the norm.
Success is not just what we get but who we become, and it’s who we become that will get us what we ideally want.
If success is not just about the attainment of something, be it wealth, family, a wife, a ranch, whatever, but about the man we become, then we have very clear instructions as to how we must act.
The attainment of something can be blurry. We may think we know the path to our goal, but it’s primarily a matter of course correction…
We try something, fail, course correct, and try another thing or that same thing in another manner. After years of this we learn how to win in a given field.
When success is about who we are, what’s difficult becomes what’s necessary.
We have to be at our best physically, so we train early and often. Our workouts are tough because we’re not just training the body but the mind, we’re toughening who we are because a tougher version of who we are is a MUCH better version of who we are.
We read often and early as well. The more we know the different ways we can think, the differing perspectives we can hold at the same time, the better we are.
It’s not just about doing, but avoiding.
The more we avoid booze and bad foods, the better we are. The more we avoid porn and partying, the better we are (though fellas need time with booze and other fellas, along with stogies, it does bring wind to one’s sails).
The more we avoid excess foods, the better we are, along with useless spending and giving into what we want now at the detriment of what we want most.
On top of all of this, if we become better by doing what’s difficult, by folding clothes instead of dropping them on the floor, by making our bed instead of leaving it because we’ll inevitably mess it up again the following day, by keeping our yard, taking pride in our home, we will become more successful, no matter the barometer.
By making difficulty routine, we make victory routine.
By focusing on becoming better, we will inevitably make our lives better, and the lives of those around us better.
I know it’s what we’re essentially all doing, trying to be better, but by in large we’re not doing enough, nor are we accepting of the fact that what’s difficult is literally what’s better.
Pain is good.
Discipline is great.
Focus is best.
Persistence is vital.
Rise early. Train early. Read early. Focus on one thing at a time. Abstain from anything that degrades you, while at the same time enjoying life and having fun.
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Every guy asks the questions at least once in their life…
Is there a magic formula I can take to boost my testosterone?
It’s not a surprise because we know that testosterone is the most important hormone for men. It regulates your sex drive, helps you build muscle with ease, reduces body fat, boosts energy levels and much more. And the more testosterone you have, the more manly (from a physiological standpoint) you’ll be. Ideally, this physiological boost in testosterone will make you a better man all the way around… in the gym, the boardroom and the bedroom.
So, is there a magic formula, pill, powder, or something like it that’ll boost your testosterone?
I think you’ll be shocked by the answer… and you don’t want to miss it.
Let’s take a look:
OTC Testosterone Pills
You’ve probably seen them at your local drug store… right next to the condoms and stuff like that.
But when looking to increase your testosterone, you shouldn’t rely on these OTC pills. First, because they’re chock full of filler ingredients. And some of them use “proprietary blends” to hide what they’ve really got inside each pill—which is commonly cheap and ineffective ingredients or doses that are too small to increase your testosterone in any meaningful way.
- A Harvard study found that OTC testosterone pills can do harm like cause sleep apnea, increase risk of heart attacks, strokes and death. They can also lead to other more embarrassing side effects like shrunken testicles, acne, balding and mood swings.
- To be fair, I want to note that some OTC testosterone boosters are shown to increase testosterone levels by between 20% and 50%, which is a pretty decent boost (not as big as the natural 540% increase you can check out HERE). You should note that most OTC testosterone pills do not significantly increase your levels above the normal baseline of 400 ng/dL They also don’t help your body get into the natural rhythm of producing testosterone on its own. So at best these testosterone pills may provide a short-term boost in testosterone, but not a long-term boost that can effectively ward off related health problems or improve your performance for the long haul.
- OTC testosterone supplements contain ingredients and nutrients that have been both directly and indirectly linked to higher testosterone. For example, some boosters contain zinc and magnesium. However, you need to keep in mind that this kind of supplementation can only take your testosterone levels to the normal baseline, but not any higher—because all you’re doing is adding ingredients that your body is missing already (if you’re deficient in them).
Pass Or Fail: FAIL
Ashwagandha is known as an adaptogen, which is a fancy term that meals, it helps your body achieve hormonal balance.
Basically, what ashwagandha does is reduce stress hormone (cortisol), and as a result, it increases your testosterone levels. See, your cortisol and testosterone levels work like a seesaw. When one goes up, the other goes down. And studies show that ashwagandha actively reduces your cortisol levels (no matter how stressed you are) and boosts testosterone as a result.
- In a 2012 study published in the Indian Journal of Psychological Medicine, researchers gathered 64 test subjects with a history of chronic stress to measure the effects of ashwagandha on serum cortisol levels and stress-assessment tests. One group was given a placebo while the other was given ashwagandha. Both groups were asked to take their supplement twice a day for 60 days. The outcome was the ashwagandha group had an overall reduction in cortisol levels by 27%. They also reported a 69% average reduction in both anxiety and insomnia. As a result of cortisol reduction, testosterone levels in this group increased by 15%, proving the powerful adaptogenic effects of ashwagandha.
- A recent 8-week study published in The Journal of International Society of Sports Nutrition, researchers tested the effects of ashwagandha on strength training and muscle growth in men ages 18-50-years old. In this study, 57 men were divided in 2 groups: one group received 300 mg of ashwagandha twice daily, while the other received a placebo. Compared to the placebo group, those given ashwagandha saw significant increases in strength on both the bench press and leg press, overall muscle mass, and a reduction in exercise-induced muscle damage. They also say a decrease in body fat, and a 20% increase in testosterone levels.
- I’m sure you can already guess that an herb which boosts testosterone will also improve your sex life. And the studies back up that claim. According to a 2003 study in Life Sciences, ashwagandha increases nitric oxide production in your body, which as a result, causes greater blood flow to your erections, which makes them harder and gives you the ability to last longer in bed.
Pass Or Fail: PASS
Tribulus Terrestris is one of the most popular “testosterone boosting” ingredients on the market today. And sure, there have been some studies that show tribulus terrestris increases testosterone in animals… but not in humans. Check out the following studies:
- One Bulgarian analysis study sifted through the results from 12 major studies on the tribulus terrestris’ effects in men and women aged 14–60. The group of studies lasted from 2–90 days, and both healthy people and those experiencing sexual problems were included. After comparing all the data, the researchers found that this supplement did not increase testosterone.
- Even though Tribulus Terrestris hasn’t been shown to boost testosterone levels, it has been shown to boost libido. However, another Bulgarian study found when men with reduced sex drives consumed 750–1,500 mg of Tribulus terrestris daily for two months, their desire for sex increased by 79%.
- With that in mind, it’s important to note other studies have been mixed on whether or not tribulus terrestris can treat erectile dysfunction. Research out of Brazil shows that taking 800 mg of this supplement per day may increase sexual desire, but it won’t effectively treat erectile dysfunction (which is what really counts). However, another study showed significant improvements in erections and sexual satisfaction with a 1,500 mg dose per day.
Pass Or Fail: FAIL
Horny Goat Weed
Horny goat weed has an interesting name. And it’s not “click bait” Horney goat weed actually does what the name implies—it enhances your sex life. And it does more than that, too. Because this ancient herb also boosts testosterone. Check out the studies:
- This rat study found out an 80 mg/kg dose was able to triple testosterone levels in rats without changing luteinizing hormone (LH) or follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) levels. The researchers claim that horny goat weed doesn’t stimulate the hypothalamus-pituitary-testicles axis like most of the herbal testosterone boosters to do, but it works as a testosterone mimetic inside the testicles and doesn’t change the levels of LH and FSH because of it.
- Other studies also found that the active ingredient of horny goat weed—icariin—stimulates nitric oxide production, increases NO levels, and improves blood flow in the body (study, study). This increase in nitric oxide, combined with the inhibition of PDE-5 (the same formula for Viagra, except completely natural) means that horny goat weed definitely has some pro-erectile benefits. And one study even found horny goat weed increases blood flow specifically in the pelvic region.
- This study from the University of California San Francisco found that icariin is one of the few known natural PDE-5 inhibitors, and thus could be used as a natural erectile dysfunction relief. The same study was used as evidence to overturn a patent made by Viagra stating that their formula was the only source of icariin in the world.
So the bottom line—get horny goat weed, not Viagra… And if you want a supplement that contains horny goat weed, ashwagandha and more scientifically proven herbal testosterone boosters, CHECK THIS OUT.
Pass Or Fail: PASS
You could call forskolin the best kept secret for high testosterone levels. Forskolin is a rare supplement you’ll almost never find in your traditional testosterone booster… However, it’s one of the most powerful on the planet because it increases androgen receptors (testosterone binding sites) in the body.
The more androgen receptors you have in the body, the higher your testosterone levels will be. Here’s what the studies say:
- A study done at the University of Berlin found that forskolin increases the levels of cAMP in cells and tissue (cAMP is a physiological messenger that transports signals between cells and hormones). Increased cAMP levels increase the sensitivity, amount, and activity of hormones, including testosterone, all over the body.
- A study published in the Journal of Cellular Biochemistry found forskolin was able to raise testosterone levels by almost 200% in isolated rat Leydig cells. It’s not a direct human study—however, many scientists use forskolin in cell studies because it has positive testosterone stimulating effect on testicular Leydig cells. In other words, scientists think of forskolin as a “sure thing” for amping up testosterone.
- Another study published in the North American Association for the Study of Obesity divided 30 obese male subjects into two groups—the forskolin group, and the placebo group. The forskolin group received 250 mgs of 10% forskolin extract twice a day for 12 weeks, and the other group got a placebo. At the end of the 12-week period, the forskolin group had a 33% increase in testosterone when compared to placebo.
Pass Or Fail: PASS
- OTC testosterone boosters and tribulus terrestris won’t boost your testosterone levels in any meaningful way now or in the long run.
- The best testosterone boosting ingredients are from natural herbs that improve multiple male functions in the body like increased testosterone production, improved libido, improved blood flow, increased sexual desire, better performance and more.
- Combining natural testosterone boosting ingredients can add up to an even greater testosterone lift.
Listen man, having healthy testosterone levels is one of the most important aspects of being a man—because when used rightly, it’ll make you a better man 100% of the time.
So let’s answer the question from the top of this post… Is there such thing as a “magic formula” to take your testosterone to the next level?
I told you, you’d be shocked. Because the answer is YES. And I have the formula for you. It’s called Man Greens…
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Get after it,
Struggling to get it up in the morning?
Facing the embarrassment and the stress that comes with not being able to get your soldier to stand at attention when you’re about to get frisky with your lady?
The market for libido boosters us growing rapidly, and men of younger and younger ages are getting hooked on those expensive and often unhealthy blue pills.
Are there natural, scientifically proven ways to increase blood-flow to that region (which is all that those blue pills do)?
On top of that, are there natural, scientifically proven ways to increase sex drive, independent of improving sexual function?
Sometimes it’s not merely a matter of not getting enough blood-flow, but of not having enough drive.
In this article you’ll learn about the perfect, natural, proven libido-boosting cocktail that includes a primary ingredient in those blue pills, which made the makers of Viagra furious when they found out they couldn’t patten this ingredient because it was found to be in high levels in a single herb found in nature.
You’ll also learn how much you need of each to be effective, and where to get them at a very inexpensive price.
Listen, just because you’re having trouble getting it up or your drive is low, it doesn’t mean that this has to be your plight in life, there’s A LOT you can do, and a lot you can do naturally, starting with these 3 potent herbs and vegetables.
The 3 Most Potent Libido Boosters Nature Can Provide
Beet Root: the Best Nitric Oxide Booster
Beets are the blood flow superfood. Packed with nitratines that help increase blood flow – which is vital for athletic and sexual performance.
The more you consume nitrates, the more nitric oxide is released into your blood, which not only helps with erectile dysfunction, but will increase muscle pumps and aid in workout recovery.
How often do you eat beets?
Rarely, I presume. And beet root?
I’m guessing not at all.
On top of that, powder form gets these benefits to your bloodstream fast and effectively. Get 1 gram a day.
Maca: Nature’s Most Potent Libido Booster
Maca has a long and rich history in ancient Peru where it was used by the Incan’s to improve libido, mood, and well-being.
Since being re-discovered by German scientists studying ‘lost Incan herbs’, it’s been more widely studied and shown to:
- Improve sexual function and boost libido in men
- Improves sperm production and health
- Improves joint health
- Reduces feelings of anxiety, improves sense of well being, and may reduce depression
With sexual function and libido being so closely linked to testosterone, and low testosterone often lowering a man’s libido and sex drive, you’d think that with its ability to increase libido and sexual function, maca would also help improve testosterone in men, but it doesn’t.
It’s often marketed as a magical testosterone booster because you can feel it working, but that’s not what it does.
It does, however, provide huge boost in libido, and is nature’s most potent libido booster. It’s also not something you’re going to consume very often in your diet (if ever).
Take it in powder form of 1.5 grams a day.
Horny Goat Weed
I was very skeptical about Horny Goat Weed simply because of its name. It sounds like a cheap marketing ploy designed to make money. Then, however, I dug into the research and found that Horny Goat Weed has not only been used for thousands of years, but it also has a very important ingredient that helps men both improve their testosterone levels, but also acts as a pro-erectile agent much in the same way that viagra does, albeit without any synthetic ingredients.
That ingredient is called icariin. Icariin inhibits the PDE-5 enzyme, which is also what viagra and cialis do with synthetic agents, while also increasing nitric oxide, which helps improve blood flow to that region.
One study on horny goat weed was used to overturn a patent made by the Viagra company stating that their formula was the only source of icariin in the world.
On top if this, other studies have shown that icariin has mimetic properties, and is able to mimic testosterone in the testes.
The benefits of Horny Goat Weed, however, don’t stop with libido and testosterone. Goat Weed is also a very healthy sounds of 37 different flavonoids while also being a very strong antioxidant.
It’s rare, and it doesn’t taste good, so take in powder form at 200 mg.
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Being good isn’t something to hang your hat on.
It’s nothing, really.
I’ve known men who pride themselves on being good, yet can’t provide for their family, they’re against guns because guns are bad and can’t protect their family as a result.
Goodness is often uselessness, and today we have a society that looks down on those they see as not ‘being good’.
We cannot talk about facts if feelings are caught in the crossfire.
To compound that, if one group or one individual somehow sees you as ‘not good’, they feel they have the right to spit on you, kick you, or call you any one of their go to names all in an effort to not prove you wrong, but to dehumanize you.
What’s ‘good’ today isn’t actually good – not to most people at least.
Being good should come secondary and only after we learn truths about the world.
You cannot understand goodness if you don’t understand responsibility, self-reliance, the family, economics, and success.
You’ll see evil in victory and righteousness in victimhood.
Men throughout history haven’t had that luxury. We had to learn about life before we could completely understand reality.
First we learned about responsibility, then duty, then those formed our idea of goodness.
Today there are only the victims and the oppressors and this is what most base their idea of morality on.
Decades ago ‘men’ of 15 or 16 or 17 lied about their age so they could travel across the world and defeat evil.
They did so out of duty and honor, not goodness or even morality, not because of a bleeding heart or a deep sorrow felt for victims, but because of duty.
They marched forward, toward the screaming bullets, through the minefields, into no-man’s land, into certain death because their sense of duty demanded they do so.
Forget about being good, for a second, and be a man.
They did what they felt their manhood called them to do. Our history is filled with such tales, of men doing what they had to do without complaint. Not whining about the difficulty of it, the unfairness of it, or even the absurdity and horror of it.
Would you rather be the Wolverine or Xavier? Trump or Jimmy Carter? Conan the Barbarian or the Pope?
Forget about goodness, our idea of goodness is false if it’s not upheld by duty, honor, and skill.
And that has been completely lost on our society.
We want achievement, we all do, but we’ve been taught that goodness comes before manliness, and it never has.
To be good and useless is to be unable to act on your goodness.
Be a man, in the most dangerous and barbaric and brutish sense, before you think of goodness.
Society has skipped this necessary step, so we have virtue signalling, pussified, sensitive, snowflakes who tell others how to live, what is good, what’s evil, how they’re evil, and they almost always see success as some form of robbery.
“If I can’t do it, no one can do it,” is usually their line of thinking.
You, I, basically all of us missed that first step.
We may have had great fathers or grandfathers or even great coaches, but society failed us in making manliness come as the first virtue a boy must learn, and not only that, but going further and demonizing what masculinity is entirely.
So, we (myself included) need to go back and learn, which is why I created the Barbarian Virtues – a course in being a man at the core of what that is, in opposition to what society is trying to make it.
Join us, because you’re not going to find those lessons and challenges from a pussified society trying to soften us daily.
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They took down Rome…
I’ve been to Rome a few times now, spending a month there a handful of years ago. Every time I go I visit the Colosseum and I’m told the same story.
The impressive building is riddled with holes from Barbarian Tribes removing the metals contained within the stone to make weapons. (read: we have a crisis of purpose)
You see the building, the audacity of it, the power of it, and you think, Who could take down the people that built this?
If Rome can fall, so can you, so can I, so can we.
The simple truth is that Rome was destroyed, defeated, and conquered by a harder, tougher people. (read: 15 signs you’re an alpha male)
Rome ruled the world for a thousand years because, for a long time, not only were they smarter, but tougher. They were killers, rulers, dominated other cultures that simply didn’t have their shh together.
Then, however, Rome changed.
They become soft, tolerant, morally loose. They stood for nothing. They stood for excess, slothfulness, and desire, not the strength and honor that was their culture.
History not only repeats itself on a grand scale, but we can learn from such a long, slow rise and fall and apply it to our own lives.
We get soft, we will be conquered.
To be very blunt, another fella who’s driven, who’s getting after it can come take your lady…
Another fella who’s getting after it and not being a victim can come and take your job…
We get soft, we’re not conquered by another, but by a sad state, one of victimhood, of failure, or of mediocrity.
Just like with Rome, the fall can happen slowly, it can start with a single habit and end in utter failure.
What should Rome have done? It’s the same thing we must do.
Get hard. Get tough. Be Barbaric.
In our lives, our purpose, as men, is to work, to provide and to protect.
We take on more, not less. We work longer hours, not fewer. We set higher goals, we do not relent.
Life is not easy. Defending the city gates has never been easy.
It doesn’t stop, either. We win one battle and it’s immediately onto the next.
Rather than comparing out lot to another, our path to that of another, rather than wishing and whining that we are not where we want to be, that we are not who we want to be, we have to accept that it’s only through struggle, through brutal effort and relentless work that we get what we want.
And it takes a long time.
There are examples to the contrary. Examples of quick success, but they’re few. Rome wasn’t built in a day, nor was this life you need to live to feel like you were here for a reason.
Don’t ever get soft.
Society, is. It’s weak. It’s too tolerant, too accepting, to accommodating and rather than helping it will hurt the lot of us.
Humans are a resilient species. We’ve evolved over thousands of years by facing hardship, harsh climates, real life monsters and disease and famine.
That blood that withstood battle in the past, that conquered and killed, that dominated and destroyed, runs through your veins.
Being weak and fat are unnatural human conditions.
Being a victim is no way for a man to live.
Rise and do the work of a man. Rise and work without complaint. Rise and dominate the few moments you have while you’re here.
Let others rest, soften, weaken. Let them think they’re enjoying life, that they’re living in the moment, and know that moments are not merely to be enjoyed, but to be won.
Never give in. Be a Barbarian.
Every man needs to possess the ability to do what he needs to do, when he needs to do it, whether he feels like it or not.
In the same manner, if a man simply does what he intends to do, he will be successful beyond his wildest dreams.
That’s the essence of what an iron will is.
More than talent, luck, fortune, or ‘blessings’, an iron will or a lack of one will determine how well you live in the form of success, happiness, meaning, and even power.
You’re powerless if you see yourself as a victim, and powerful if you see the truth; that you can overcome anything put in front of you.
This isn’t motivational nonsense, but fact, and it’s been proven in nearly every case of achievement (likely actually in every case).
An iron will makes success inevitable, because no obstacle will stand for too long, no failure will last, no down period will endure longer than you will.
Call it by whatever name you want, success, achievement, happiness, freedom, men need power.
We get power by being powerful.
An iron will won’t make your life easier. Life is not easy. Man, there’s just horrible things that happen, things that you never expected to happen. That’s life.
I’m with you in this. They happen to us all. They aren’t fair, but they are, and we can’t label them or paint them with the vail of emotion because that does no good.
An iron will is deciding to be indestructible, persistent, driven, and successful, and there are things you can do to make this possible.
Even if you feel weak, down, out of control, like a weed being tossed around by the ocean’s waves, you can develop an iron will.
To start, buy An Iron Will, by Orison Swett Marden.
Second, understand that greatness, be it modern or historic, has always been a matter of doing what you must, regardless of how you feel.
99.9999% of the humans on this planet do not do this. They rationalize inaction, rest, TV, and so on. It’s really simple, but it’s difficult to create the habit, as I’m sure you know.
How to Develop an Iron Will…
1. Do fewer things.
Do things once. Most worry about things, do them, then worry about them afterward. Just do the thing. Don’t worry about anything, just do the task, then move to the next thing.
2. Determine what you need to stop doing.
Remove the unnecessary from your life.
3. Be focused, intentioned, obsessed.
This doesn’t mean you have to do one thing and not live your life. But, you do have to put the vast majority of your energy into one thing. Buffett and Gates both said their ability to focus was the reason for their success.
Whatever you want in life takes energy. Focus on the right things, don’t give attention to the wrong things.
4. Get stronger from challenges.
The wind extinguishes a candle but fuels a fire. Challenges are that wind. Step up to them and use them. Also, read Antifragile by Nicolas Nassim Taleb. Don’t be fragile, be antifragile.
My own personal way to develop an iron will…
This is more stoic, but when I think about the totality of it all, of life, and when I lay out expectations for how it will go, should go, or even how I want it to go while I’m in the midst of tragedy, can be overwhelming.
Let’s say you expected to be married and with kids, and you go through a break up, or you expected to have a certain house while you’re struggling to pay the mortgage on the one you own.
Those expectations are not your reality, and to focus on them is detrimental at the moment.
Don’t expect things to go a certain way, just do the best with what you have and with where you are.
You have to focus on the moment and the work that has to be done now, regardless of how you feel.
Daydreaming and wishing things were different will send you crashing down, while removing those expectations and simply doing the work will lead you to success.
In theory it’s an easy choice, but to actually put it into practice is difficult, but it can be done.
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