Why You Should ‘Suffer’ From Post-Traumatic GROWTH

Why You Should ‘Suffer’ From Post-Traumatic GROWTH

When you talk about the weight room to a self-proclaimed intellectual, their eyes gloss over. When you say it parallels for much of what we can learn from life, they snicker. (read: Be Conquering or Get Conquered)

But that’s exactly what it can be. It’s a powerful teacher whose lessons align with life’s, and whose benefits apply to everyone, not just those after abs or shoulders or a nice big butt.

Whatever you want from working out requires pain and discomfort. You grow from destruction of the muscle by placing more weight on it than you’re currently adapted to push, pull, or lift. (read: How to Stop Comparing and Start Winning)

In the gym, you need pain to grow.

Post-Traumatic GROWTH

You’ve heard of post-traumatic stress disorder, we all have. It’s a psychological response to intense stress or a stressful event where we react negatively to said event.

Well, there’s also a phenomenon called post-traumatic growth in which people harmed by past events outgrow themselves (read Antifragile by Nassim Taleb).

That’s essentially what we get from strength training, too, we grow because we put our body through stress.

Our lives should yield the same response, we grow because of stressful events, not because of an absence of stress, harm, pain, and the like.

What you’ll find in this article is the means by which you grow one rep, one task, one mission objective at a time, and leave the rest to God, fate, or whatever you need to leave it to.

Growing From Pain – Being Antifragile

Humans are antifragile. Our species has thrived because it demanded we evolve and innovate. Innovation doesn’t occur under perfect circumstances, it’s most often born out of necessity – think the wheel, printing press, and religion – which, as much as anything, helped us manage unity in greater numbers.

Just like a muscle will atrophy without use, humans devolve amidst ease. We’re creatures that need struggle.

In an individual sense, we adapt to our routine, we adapt to our goals, and we adapt to who we’re surrounded by.

If we surround ourselves with alcoholics and losers, odds are that we’ll adapt to fit in. We’re better off to try to fit in with a crowd that we have to struggle to adapt to. We grow from stress, we evolve in turbulence.

It’s the theory that you rise to the challenge, or that the greater the stressor, the greater the growth.

If you shoot for the moon and miss, at least you will land among the stars. It is true. If you aim higher, if you allow your reach to exceed your grasp thereby bringing on more stress, you will likely grow more than you would if you only challenged yourself a little.

Stress, however, isn’t something we appreciate as a gift but something we try to avoid, not use.

What’s Next?

We live in a world with far too many options. We once passed our genetics on by being the best, the strongest, warrior, hunter, provider, and leader. Today we can, essentially, be fat, lazy, weak, and still get by, passing on that material because we – or someone else – has settled.

You don’t have to be the best, or the best at anything, to carry on your name. (read: 12 Rules for Life for My Unborn Son)

We don’t want to be the latter, of course, but we’re also not called to a specific action.

We’re not in a small hunting tribe or group of warriors where our clear purpose is to protect the women and children and provide for them, and possibly expand our territory. Yet, our DNA hasn’t changed enough for us to not need that singular purpose, however.

With a sea of options of what to do with our life or even what to do in the run of a day, we’re given too many options when we’re genetically programmed to focus on one.

For the first time in 3 years, I’m single. I recently had to break up with the woman I was engaged to, the woman that was to be my wife. The term, ‘had to’ is true, but that in no way makes it easier or easy at all. I’m now faced daily with solitude, without a woman I truly loved to communicate with, to enjoy, to simply be with.

The options of what to do are endless, which isn’t good.

The options of what to think or what thought process to follow or what to remember about what we had are also endless. Again, not good.

I have to not only simplify my overall goal so as to focus, something I’d have to do anyway, but now I really have to do what’s next, and nothing else.

That is, do a task, then do the next one.

Reach a marker, then focus on reaching the next one.

We get outside of ourselves and knocked off our path almost routinely. We wander. We tread water wondering if the move we’re about to make is the right one. It’s paralysis by analysis and we’re all doing it.

I have to not only endure a difficult time, but grow from it.

I have to outgrow myself because of it.

None of what we face today is simple, which is why we have to work as hard at simplifying as we do at working. Simplification can take a second, but it often starts with a lot of contemplation, reading, and thinking.

To make the simple, simpler, focus only on what has to be now, and then what has to be done next.

In everyone’s life this exists. There is always a thing we should do now, and a thing we should do next. It’s the clarity, the ‘living in the moment’ you will need to create post-traumatic growth and antifragility (the latter isn’t just enduring pain and tragedy, but growing because of it and not in spite of it).

Resilience

Eric Greitens wrote a great book called Resilience. In it he focuses a fair bit on warriors returning home and, for the first time in a long time, not having a clearly defined mission.

We all need a plan, a mission, and the steps we need to carry it out, or the markers we need to hit to achieve it.

In the book he talks about running he’d do as a Navy SEAL. They were trained to not focus on the entirety of the run, but the next marker they had to hit.

I really run into trouble with this. I focus on the entirety of everything and where I am in relation to where I want to end up; it’s simply the wrong way to think.

When you focus on the next marker, the next article you have to write, the next video you have to make, sale you have to make, page you have to read, you end up doing a hell of a lot more than you would if you were stuck thinking about the confusing, unfocused bigger picture.

Life is judged by what you do, not by what you intend to do or the ambitions you had, and especially not by the talent and potential you had that could have resulted in great things.

If you and I would just do what we say we’re going to do we wouldn’t be able to stop eventual success – success defined by achievement and by who we become.

Do what you say you’re going to do. Do it in everything. It doesn’t matter if you say it to someone else, but better yet, do what you say you’re going to do when you say it to yourself.

If you have a list of things you have to do in a day, do them all, and always do them all.

That’s how you pull yourself out of a pit, out of uncertainty, and into success, happiness, and most importantly of all, meaning, something we often lack or are ignorant of amidst a painful circumstance.

Grow From the Only Thing We CAN Grow From

Doctors tend to focus on the negative. They want to solve something through medication or surgery, thus, post-traumatic GROWTH isn’t talked about and it sure isn’t funded.

You’d think that if there’s a positive response to the same thing that there’s a very negative response to, we’d be studying what makes the response and the outcome positive, alas, we depend on men like Taleb to do such things.

The growth response is a choice.

It’s a choice to detach and to learn from what we’re going through or have gone through.

It’s a choice to focus on the micro and trust in the macro.

If the micro is taken care of the macro will be won because it’s won by smaller, daily victories in the seeming minutia of our daily tasks.

Why write this article, for instance?

It seems small in comparison to where I want to go and what I want to become, you know, the macro.

Will this propel my business forward?

Will it get me what I want overall?

Nope.

Does it have the potential to reach a single person, to strengthen a bond with a customer, and to maybe even help my brand by strengthening a connection with one individual?

Yes, it has that potential.

It’s a focus on the micro. We have to focus on the micro, to do the micro. Making your bed will have a profound effect on how you see yourself and what you’re able to give to the world and the quality of human you’re able to live as.

This article is also an exercise in clarity. It’s strengthened my own views of how to win from stress, not necessarily by writing it but definitely by reading what I needed to read to be able to write it.

We do have a choice, then.

We can choose the path of growth.

We can give the macro to God, to the universe, to fate, to faith, to whatever your beliefs dictate you ought to give it to, and to do our best with the seemingly little things that have to be completed regardless.

We can take the pain, we can absorb it, we can learn from it, we can become antifragile because of it.

We can win because of the pain we go through, not in spite of it and not being destroyed because of it.

Pain, stress, catastrophes are a part of life and an inevitable aspect of your story.

Being that they’re inevitable should lead us to choose to use them, even trying to appreciate them for what can be gained because of them or in response to them.

It isn’t an easy or common response. Self-pity is much easier and much more common. But what’s easy is rarely what’s good, and it’s often the most destructive path one can take, ending any opportunity for growth and guaranteeing dependence all at the same time.

How to Look More Manly (9 steps)

How to Look More Manly (9 steps)

Image is everything. Okay, that’s not true, who you are and what you achieve is far more important than how you look. That said, you want to put the best version of yourself out there visually, because people do judge on appearance. If you look successful and manly you’re going to have that effect on others, which is what you want. (Read: 5 Steps to Be a Better Man)

You want to both look like the man and be the man.

Yet, style is trending toward the feminine. Men today are told to groom and pluck their face and chest and tighten their jeans and soften their skin.

In short, men are being pushed to look more feminine. Look at razor commercials or body spray commercials and you’ll see a slew of ‘somewhere in between’ looking humans, not men.

Men are also not being raised by men like they once were. What man knows how to fix his own truck, build his own fence, or fix the plumbing when it runs awry? Whether you want to look more manly in a suit or in jeans, in the boardroom or in the yard, I’ll show you 5 steps that’ll help you do that.

  1. Get in the gym!

You’re not trying to merely look ‘manly’, you want to both be the man and look like the man. You need to look like you command some damn respect and fear. You need to both be and look dangerous. Men, at their core, are just that, dangerous.

You’re technically a useless man if you don’t have the capacity to be a dangerous man. You’re useless to your community, your tribe, your family. If you can’t protect, you can’t do the thing that’s fundamental to masculinity.

And by gym, I don’t mean doing curls in the mirror with a tanned and hairless body. That ain’t how men workout. I mean join a boxing gym and learn how to fight. Join a crossfit gym and get your ass kicked. Get real world strong and athletic, not consumed by the aesthetic. (Read: Testosterone Supplements (what works and what doesn’t)

  1. Work with your hands.

Don’t wear lifting gloves, you’re not a woman. One of the biggest discrepancies between modern, soft men, and those from past generations, is their hands.

Men once worked with their hands, whether it was doing masculine work or working on their houses, you know, fixing things as men do.

Today we moisturize, we wear workout gloves, we use our hands to type and text not to hammer and shovel and bail. Popeye was created as a masculine figure, as was his arch enemy, both had massive forearms.

When you train your hands and your grip strength, you develop your forearms, and big forearms are very masculine. Call it ‘man cleavage’, because that’s the effect it has on women.

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  1. Trim but don’t go too far.

Masculinity is wild, or it has that capacity. You have to actually have the goods. Today the most popular videos and articles are those that focus on the things, the details, but not the foundation. You actually have to have what it takes. You have to be dangerous.

While masculinity is wild, if you want to look more manly today it’s also about success. You can’t look like a homeless fella. Get your hair cut every two weeks. Have a beard, I do, but keep it relatively trimmed.

Just don’t do all the eyebrows, manicures, pedicures, and the feminine things that men do these days. Look successful, not metrosexual.

Some easy archetypes would be Theodore Roosevelt, with his well-kept mustache, Tom Selleck, Sean Connery with his sometimes beard,

  1. Dress simpler.

Don’t be a fancy pants. Don’t be a peacock. Be a man. Dress like a man. That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to dress down, you just don’t need all of the bracelets and fancy accessories that have become the norm these days.

Simpler is better if you’re trying to look masculine. If you want to look like something in between a real man and a fairy, then adorn yourself with every kind of accessory you can.

A man should wear a watch, always a watch, a gold chain if he wants, a good belt, but no bracelets, no rings other than the wedding one. Forget about the fancy sox. Forget about the wallet chain or whatever they’re called. And don’t jazz up your belt, simple leather.

  1. Loosen them jeans.

No man should ever wear anything resembling a skinny jean. Get real jeans. If you’re jacked they’ll inevitably be a little tight around the quads, but they’ll be broken in. This goes for all pants, don’t wear skinny pants. Women, by God, keep wearing them, but it’s feminine to wear skinny jeans.

It’s better to wear whatever the hell your old man wears than to adopt that silly style.

  1. Increase Your Testosterone Levels!

When we look at masculine traits, Psychology Today has an interesting point in an article I came across:

“The majority masculine traits are directly or indirectly related to the amount of testosterone available in a person’s body. On average, men’s testosterone levels are ten to forty-five times higher than women’s.” (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/my-brothers-keeper/201410/the-stigma-masculinity)

Testosterone is what makes men, men, and low testosterone will send your masculine traits plummeting.

The big problem is that testosterone is on the decline with men, so we have to take this not only more seriously, but into our own hands as well.

The higher your testosterone levels, the more masculine you will be and appear.

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  1. Be more competitive.

Today we’re told that being competitive is a bad thing, which makes absolutely no sense, but that’s what we’re told. We’re told that it’s destructive, along with other male traits like aggression, dominance, and stoicism.

The truth is that there’s something very inate in men that makes us want to be better than the next guy. That’s not something to be ashamed of or to hide from, it simply is. Thus, being a part of your nature, you should fuel that fire because being competitive will be an asset in life.

It will lead to more success, more meaning, happiness, and achievement.

Foster that competitive nature within yourself. Don’t run from it. (Read: How to Develop an Iron Will)

  1. Be more stoic.

Stoicism is a choice, but the American Psychological Association listed it among the things that makes masculinity ‘toxic’.

Stoicism is good, 100% good, and those that practice it become powerful, not victims to events or a bad state of mind, but able to understand that it’s not the thing that matters, but how we choose to react to it that matters most of all.

There can’t be anything bad about that, and it’s something you, too, should aim to become, a stoic.

You can’t see yourself as a victim as a stoic. You won’t feel sorry for yourself, you won’t allow yourself to feel down, you will only do what you have to do and what you must do to win in life.

  1. Be rough around the edges.

Today we teach manners before manhood. That’s an ass-backward approach to teaching boys how to be men.

Be a man before you aim to be a gentleman. Don’t fret over style, accessories, or aesthetics if you haven’t the barbarian virtues won.

Theodore Roosevelt put it best when talking about his nation on the whole, but it applies to the individual as well:

“Over-sentimentality, over-softness, in fact washiness and mushiness are the great dangers of this age and of this people. Unless we keep the barbarian virtues, gaining the civilized ones will be of little avail.”

If a man isn’t dangerous enough to easily defeat bad men who are dangerous, then the ease, the softness, the emotion of human relationships, the civility we enjoy in our society, is lost.

It’s not enough for a man to know how to dial 9-1-1 and to wait for a cop to come to his rescue. By all means dial the number, but in the 15-minutes it takes for them to get there you’d better be able to successfully take matters into your own hands.

Be good at being a man before you even think about being a gentleman.

If you take that to heart, if you get in touch with who you are as a man, remove any feminine aspects from your personality, forge the barbarian virtues that are masculinity, and then polish it up with good, simple style.

You have to be a man before you can even think about being a gentleman. We’re lacking that

How to Look More Manly

The easiest way to look more manly is to be more manly. What’s being more manly? For that, you have to go back to its base, to be better at being a man not just merely good. Men are utilitarian.

We need to be able to protect our family, our women, our tribe, so get good at protecting, be a good fighter, warrior, learn to use guns and so forth. Learn how to fix things around your house. Become more successful, be the provider, the protector, not the fella wasting his money on clothes he can’t afford, looking silly in the process.

Adjust who you look to for style tips.

Look to Frank Sinatra, John Wayne, and Teddy, not the latest celebrity with estrogen-filled veins.

What’s Difficult Should Be What’s Common

What’s Difficult Should Be What’s Common

What’s easy is usually what’s bad for us, and what’s difficult is typically what’s good for us.

Today we have the option to choose, there was a time, however, when we didn’t.

Survival was success, and survival demanded we take risks.

We had to put ourselves in danger to get food. We had to come close to death to create the death that would feed our families.

Today, we can survive with ease.

With the click of a mouse we can have food delivered, be entertained, even earn enough to feed our family.

Success has many definitions today beyond survival.

Success can be monetary, physical, relational, spiritual.

Success for you and I has to be different than success for the masses.

It has to be multidimensional, encompassing every area of our lives.

If you’re like me, you want greatness. You want power. You want happiness and meaning and love and pride and a legacy.

In that case, what’s difficult has to be the norm.

Success is not just what we get but who we become, and it’s who we become that will get us what we ideally want.

If success is not just about the attainment of something, be it wealth, family, a wife, a ranch, whatever, but about the man we become, then we have very clear instructions as to how we must act.

The attainment of something can be blurry. We may think we know the path to our goal, but it’s primarily a matter of course correction…

We try something, fail, course correct, and try another thing or that same thing in another manner. After years of this we learn how to win in a given field.

When success is about who we are, what’s difficult becomes what’s necessary.

We have to be at our best physically, so we train early and often. Our workouts are tough because we’re not just training the body but the mind, we’re toughening who we are because a tougher version of who we are is a MUCH better version of who we are.

We read often and early as well. The more we know the different ways we can think, the differing perspectives we can hold at the same time, the better we are.

It’s not just about doing, but avoiding.

The more we avoid booze and bad foods, the better we are. The more we avoid porn and partying, the better we are (though fellas need time with booze and other fellas, along with stogies, it does bring wind to one’s sails).

The more we avoid excess foods, the better we are, along with useless spending and giving into what we want now at the detriment of what we want most.

On top of all of this, if we become better by doing what’s difficult, by folding clothes instead of dropping them on the floor, by making our bed instead of leaving it because we’ll inevitably mess it up again the following day, by keeping our yard, taking pride in our home, we will become more successful, no matter the barometer.

By making difficulty routine, we make victory routine.

By focusing on becoming better, we will inevitably make our lives better, and the lives of those around us better.

I know it’s what we’re essentially all doing, trying to be better, but by in large we’re not doing enough, nor are we accepting of the fact that what’s difficult is literally what’s better.

Pain is good.

Discipline is great.

Focus is best.

Persistence is vital.

Rise early. Train early. Read early. Focus on one thing at a time. Abstain from anything that degrades you, while at the same time enjoying life and having fun.

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The Best Herbs for Libido

The Best Herbs for Libido

Struggling to get it up in the morning?

Facing the embarrassment and the stress that comes with not being able to get your soldier to stand at attention when you’re about to get frisky with your lady?

The market for libido boosters us growing rapidly, and men of younger and younger ages are getting hooked on those expensive and often unhealthy blue pills.

Are there natural, scientifically proven ways to increase blood-flow to that region (which is all that those blue pills do)?

On top of that, are there natural, scientifically proven ways to increase sex drive, independent of improving sexual function?

Sometimes it’s not merely a matter of not getting enough blood-flow, but of not having enough drive.

In this article you’ll learn about the perfect, natural, proven libido-boosting cocktail that includes a primary ingredient in those blue pills, which made the makers of Viagra furious when they found out they couldn’t patten this ingredient because it was found to be in high levels in a single herb found in nature.

You’ll also learn how much you need of each to be effective, and where to get them at a very inexpensive price.

Listen, just because you’re having trouble getting it up or your drive is low, it doesn’t mean that this has to be your plight in life, there’s A LOT you can do, and a lot you can do naturally, starting with these 3 potent herbs and vegetables.

The 3 Most Potent Libido Boosters Nature Can Provide

Beet Root: the Best Nitric Oxide Booster

Beets are the blood flow superfood. Packed with nitratines that help increase blood flow – which is vital for athletic and sexual performance.

The more you consume nitrates, the more nitric oxide is released into your blood, which not only helps with erectile dysfunction, but will increase muscle pumps and aid in workout recovery.

How often do you eat beets?

Rarely, I presume. And beet root?

I’m guessing not at all.

On top of that, powder form gets these benefits to your bloodstream fast and effectively. Get 1 gram a day.

Maca: Nature’s Most Potent Libido Booster

Maca has a long and rich history in ancient Peru where it was used by the Incan’s to improve libido, mood, and well-being.

Since being re-discovered by German scientists studying ‘lost Incan herbs’, it’s been more widely studied and shown to:

  • Improve sexual function and boost libido in men
  • Improves sperm production and health
  • Improves joint health
  • Reduces feelings of anxiety, improves sense of well being, and may reduce depression

With sexual function and libido being so closely linked to testosterone, and low testosterone often lowering a man’s libido and sex drive, you’d think that with its ability to increase libido and sexual function, maca would also help improve testosterone in men, but it doesn’t.

It’s often marketed as a magical testosterone booster because you can feel it working, but that’s not what it does.

It does, however, provide huge boost in libido, and is nature’s most potent libido booster. It’s also not something you’re going to consume very often in your diet (if ever).

Take it in powder form of 1.5 grams a day.

Horny Goat Weed

I was very skeptical about Horny Goat Weed simply because of its name. It sounds like a cheap marketing ploy designed to make money. Then, however, I dug into the research and found that Horny Goat Weed has not only been used for thousands of years, but it also has a very important ingredient that helps men both improve their testosterone levels, but also acts as a pro-erectile agent much in the same way that viagra does, albeit without any synthetic ingredients.

That ingredient is called icariin. Icariin inhibits the PDE-5 enzyme, which is also what viagra and cialis do with synthetic agents, while also increasing nitric oxide, which helps improve blood flow to that region.

One study on horny goat weed was used to overturn a patent made by the Viagra company stating that their formula was the only source of icariin in the world.

On top if this, other studies have shown that icariin has mimetic properties, and is able to mimic testosterone in the testes.

The benefits of Horny Goat Weed, however, don’t stop with libido and testosterone. Goat Weed is also a very healthy sounds of  37 different flavonoids while also being a very strong antioxidant.

It’s rare, and it doesn’t taste good, so take in powder form at 200 mg.

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Don’t be Good; Be a Man

Don’t be Good; Be a Man

Being good isn’t something to hang your hat on.

It’s nothing, really.

I’ve known men who pride themselves on being good, yet can’t provide for their family, they’re against guns because guns are bad and can’t protect their family as a result.

Goodness is often uselessness, and today we have a society that looks down on those they see as not ‘being good’.

We cannot talk about facts if feelings are caught in the crossfire.

To compound that, if one group or one individual somehow sees you as ‘not good’, they feel they have the right to spit on you, kick you, or call you any one of their go to names all in an effort to not prove you wrong, but to dehumanize you.

What’s ‘good’ today isn’t actually good – not to most people at least.

Being good should come secondary and only after we learn truths about the world.

You cannot understand goodness if you don’t understand responsibility, self-reliance, the family, economics, and success.

You’ll see evil in victory and righteousness in victimhood.

Men throughout history haven’t had that luxury. We had to learn about life before we could completely understand reality.

First we learned about responsibility, then duty, then those formed our idea of goodness.

Today there are only the victims and the oppressors and this is what most base their idea of morality on.

Decades ago ‘men’ of 15 or 16 or 17 lied about their age so they could travel across the world and defeat evil.

They did so out of duty and honor, not goodness or even morality, not because of a bleeding heart or a deep sorrow felt for victims, but because of duty.

They marched forward, toward the screaming bullets, through the minefields, into no-man’s land, into certain death because their sense of duty demanded they do so.

Forget about being good, for a second, and be a man.

They did what they felt their manhood called them to do. Our history is filled with such tales, of men doing what they had to do without complaint. Not whining about the difficulty of it, the unfairness of it, or even the absurdity and horror of it.

Would you rather be the Wolverine or Xavier? Trump or Jimmy Carter? Conan the Barbarian or the Pope?

Forget about goodness, our idea of goodness is false if it’s not upheld by duty, honor, and skill.

And that has been completely lost on our society.

We want achievement, we all do, but we’ve been taught that goodness comes before manliness, and it never has.

To be good and useless is to be unable to act on your goodness.

Be a man, in the most dangerous and barbaric and brutish sense, before you think of goodness.

Society has skipped this necessary step, so we have virtue signalling, pussified, sensitive, snowflakes who tell others how to live, what is good, what’s evil, how they’re evil, and they almost always see success as some form of robbery.

“If I can’t do it, no one can do it,” is usually their line of thinking.

You, I, basically all of us missed that first step.

We may have had great fathers or grandfathers or even great coaches, but society failed us in making manliness come as the first virtue a boy must learn, and not only that, but going further and demonizing what masculinity is entirely.

So, we (myself included) need to go back and learn, which is why I created the Barbarian Virtues – a course in being a man at the core of what that is, in opposition to what society is trying to make it.

Join us, because you’re not going to find those lessons and challenges from a pussified society trying to soften us daily.

Man up. Take action.

Be Legendary,

Chad Howse

Be Conquering or Be Conquered

Be Conquering or Be Conquered

They took down Rome…

I’ve been to Rome a few times now, spending a month there a handful of years ago. Every time I go I visit the Colosseum and I’m told the same story.

The impressive building is riddled with holes from Barbarian Tribes removing the metals contained within the stone to make weapons. (read: we have a crisis of purpose)

You see the building, the audacity of it, the power of it, and you think, Who could take down the people that built this?

If Rome can fall, so can you, so can I, so can we.

The simple truth is that Rome was destroyed, defeated, and conquered by a harder, tougher people. (read: 15 signs you’re an alpha male)

Rome ruled the world for a thousand years because, for a long time, not only were they smarter, but tougher. They were killers, rulers, dominated other cultures that simply didn’t have their shh together.

Then, however, Rome changed.

They become soft, tolerant, morally loose. They stood for nothing. They stood for excess, slothfulness, and desire, not the strength and honor that was their culture.

History not only repeats itself on a grand scale, but we can learn from such a long, slow rise and fall and apply it to our own lives.

We get soft, we will be conquered.

To be very blunt, another fella who’s driven, who’s getting after it can come take your lady…

Another fella who’s getting after it and not being a victim can come and take your job…

More likely…

We get soft, we’re not conquered by another, but by a sad state, one of victimhood, of failure, or of mediocrity.

Just like with Rome, the fall can happen slowly, it can start with a single habit and end in utter failure.

What should Rome have done? It’s the same thing we must do.

Get hard. Get tough. Be Barbaric.

In our lives, our purpose, as men, is to work, to provide and to protect.

We take on more, not less. We work longer hours, not fewer. We set higher goals, we do not relent.

Life is not easy. Defending the city gates has never been easy.

It doesn’t stop, either. We win one battle and it’s immediately onto the next.

Rather than comparing out lot to another, our path to that of another, rather than wishing and whining that we are not where we want to be, that we are not who we want to be, we have to accept that it’s only through struggle, through brutal effort and relentless work that we get what we want.

And it takes a long time.

There are examples to the contrary. Examples of quick success, but they’re few. Rome wasn’t built in a day, nor was this life you need to live to feel like you were here for a reason.

Don’t ever get soft.

Society, is. It’s weak. It’s too tolerant, too accepting, to accommodating and rather than helping it will hurt the lot of us.

Humans are a resilient species. We’ve evolved over thousands of years by facing hardship, harsh climates, real life monsters and disease and famine.

That blood that withstood battle in the past, that conquered and killed, that dominated and destroyed, runs through your veins.

Being weak and fat are unnatural human conditions.

Being a victim is no way for a man to live.

Rise and do the work of a man. Rise and work without complaint. Rise and dominate the few moments you have while you’re here.

Let others rest, soften, weaken. Let them think they’re enjoying life, that they’re living in the moment, and know that moments are not merely to be enjoyed, but to be won.

Never give in. Be a Barbarian.

Be Legendary,
Chad Howse