A lack of decisiveness is what’s wrong with a lot of young men. They wander. They’re not assertive. They lack focus and drive and persistence. It’s an offset of society, we’ve become one where instant gratification is supreme, so we follow every desire we have. (Read This: How to Fight Your Desires)
To get what you want in life, and that’s damn well important, you have to be decisive about every little action you take. You need an overall direction and purpose to your actions, and then the little things you do in the run of a day have to align with that purpose.
Clarity is king.
When you know who you are, what your values are, what you stand for and where you’re headed, being decisive is simple, even easy.
In this article we’ll go through the 7 ways to be a more decisive man…
… And this is important not just to live a great life, but to be the man for your lady.
Let’s get into it.
1. Practice quick decision-making in the short term, for small things.
While being more decisive in the grand scheme is what you want, being more decisive and assertive in the immediate minutia is where you’ll hone this necessary skill. Practice making fast decisions.
Decide what you want to eat, quickly. Decide what movie you want to watch or what clothes you want to wear. This will actually have another effect…
Our brains only have the capacity to make a certain amount of decisions in the run of a day properly and optimally, after we reach our capacity – and it’s different for everyone – our energy levels decline, and our ability to make the best decisions diminishes. So if you’re spending 30-minutes figure out what to wear in the morning, you’re wasting that energy-making power on something that’s useless. (Read This: How to Be More Decisive)
Make fewer decisions, and make them faster.
2. Practice sticking to what you decided
Practice living with your decisions. Make them fast, then see them through.
You see this a lot with younger guys, and older guys who don’t have the respect of their seeds or spouses, they jump from thing to thing, job to job, hobby to hobby. They lack consistency.
Great men are relentlessly consistent. They know what they want and they don’t deviate from the path to get it.
Practice this consistency with your small decisions. It will transfer to the bigger things in life.
3. Spend a day and figure out what your ideal life would be. Without clarity, you can’t be decisive.
Clarity demands our time and attention.
We rarely spend enough time thinking and planning. We’re always being busy for the sake of being busy. It’s useless. Imagine spending your entire life being busy on the wrong thing!
My goodness… the regret of such time wasted would be a tough pill to swallow, so avoid it by spending the time and energy on figuring out just what you want and creating a plan of how to get it.
Read. Research. Take the time to acquire enough perspective to know that what you want is true. And when you create a vision for your life, being decisive in taking actions that lead you toward it becomes easy.
4. Determine the virtues you hold most important. Make a chart. Tick them off daily.
Ben Franklin did this. Copy him.
He was insightful enough to understand that what he wanted in life is dependent on him, who he was, how much he could work, save, and learn, so he crafted virtues that would help him become the man his goals and dreams needed him to become.
Make a list of 10-14 rules or virtues that you don’t break, and track how well you abide by them.
Try these – – – > > The 12 Virtues of Manliness
5. BE the man you want to become, stop waiting to become him. ACT AS IF YOU ARE HIM.
For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. ~ Viktor Frankl
That may be the most powerful quote you’ll ever read.
Success isn’t something you can pursue, it must ensue. It must happen. You do not pursue that man you want to become, you become him. You do not pursue decisiveness, you become more decisive.
People would love for it to be more complicated than that. It isn’t.
What you want is dependent on who you are and you can become the man you need to become, today. You can live the virtues, create the habits, have the thoughts of a billionaire, the habits of a winner, the actions of an explorer, now. You do not need to wait for this to occur.
Those who truly understand this. Those who act with courage now. Those who act decisively today, will become the man they need to become, and the life and the goals and the dreams will soon be their daily reality.
6. Have confidence that you cannot only make the right decision, but that if you make the wrong decision, you’ll win anyway. You’re tough like that.
You’re the man. Whatever decision you make, no matter the outcome, you can and will rise and win as a result of it. Even if you fail, you’ll pick yourself up and get back on the horse.
This allows you to make decisive actions, not from a place of fear, but strength.
You need to be strong. You need to act as though you have nothing to lose and that you can walk away from any deal, decision, and win regardless of where you find yourself.
7. Stop thinking, start doing. Make one big decision right now, do it, and let the chips land where they may.
Practice everything we’ve talked about, but on a big scale.
Book a trip. Buy a domain. Ask a lady out.
Do something that – to you – is big.
Most people won’t do this. But you’re not most people. You know that whatever you do, you’ll make it work, you’ll make victory out of failure.
Get after it.
About The Author
Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.