How to Deal With Sorrow Like Theodore Roosevelt

How to Deal With Sorrow Like Theodore Roosevelt

“The light has gone from my life.” ~ TR

Theodore Roosevelt is a famous figure for what he did and said, but also for what he endured and how he endured it. In his twenties as a man on the rise in New York’s political system, Roosevelt’s young wife and his still vibrant mother (only forty six) died within hours of one another.

Crushed, Roosevelt wrote only the quote above, marking that horrific day with a big X in his journal. Roosevelt’s method of dealing with the tragedy was to thrust himself into a situation he was not completely sure he could endure, as was his default. He went out west to Dakota, bought a ranch, hunted, and became a cowboy, living a far more difficult life than he was, living off of his father’s money in New York.

The escape wasn’t so much running from his problems and memories – though that had to be part of it – but running into something new and arduous and dangerous. The West was still wild. He endured real hardship and harsh conditions, even dicey situations with outlaws and gunmen. It was the unknown, the difficult, the adventure that Roosevelt constantly used, even later in life as he explored unknown and uncharted parts of the Amazon after a crushing defeat in the national election, to get tougher when life had seemed to deliver him a blow that he could not get up from.

From the River of Doubt, by Candice Millard:

He was filled with vigor and perspective after mastering an entirely unfamiliar world of danger on the American frontier – and defeating, by sheer energy and physical exertion, the grief that had threatened to overwhelm him. “Black care,” he explained, in a rare unguarded moment on the subject, “rarely sits behind a rider whose pace is fast enough.”

Again, Black care rarely sits on behind the rider whose pace is fast enough.

In other words, sorrow cannot take hold of the man who’s life is so fast-paced that it cannot catch him.

TR’s default was action, but not only action in the sense of work or climbing the ladder as we’re expected to do, but action in an unexpected direction. As sorrow threatened to grip him he sought stress, pressure, and the unknown. There was always a physicality to how he dealt with malaise.

When you’re trying to survive, to make it to the next hill or outpost or day, you have little time to think about that which aims to keep you down.

Most of our ‘defaults’ when we experience tragedy is to collapse, confine ourselves, try to work through our pain not by acquiring more of it, but by closing ourselves off to any more of it whatsoever. We vacation; we take time from work to work through that which is suffocating us. (Read This: You Don’t Deserve a Vacation)

So what’s the solution?

Should we stay as we are, where we are and accept the sympathy that comes our way, the helping hands that are thrust in our direction with a hint of pity in their touch? Or should we put ourselves in situations where we cannot dwell on what has been done and what has happened because the greater dangers are in our present adventure?

Instead of turning our backs on our hardship, even diving into our sorrow, maybe the path to healing mirrors the path to strength in the gym.

In you’re training you have to progressively overload the muscle to get stronger. That is, you can’t lift the same weight day after day and expect to see real improvement. You need to constantly lift heavier weight. What was difficult to lift a month ago won’t be difficult enough now.

In life, what was tough to handle in the moment won’t be in time if the difficulty of what you attempt to endure on a daily basis is progressively tougher. The tougher you are, the better equipped you are to handle the tragedies life will throw your way – which is inevitable if you intend to live a life of action.

There’s also the aspect of nature and silence. TR spent a lot of time hunting in the Dakota area, be it moose or bison or wolves or grizzlies, he was alone on horseback a lot. Alone in silence, real silence that cannot be found in a city or town where he must have been forced to come to grips with what happened.

Each day should not weaken you, but test you.

When we feel down we sit back, rest easy, feel worthy of complacency. But each day should be a test. We should test our mettle through discipline and by experiencing things we’re not completely sure if we can endure. And when life hurls tragedy upon us, we should test ourselves even further.

Do those things that you’re not sure you can accomplish.

In his wonderful speech, The Man in the Arena, Roosevelt highlights those who are engaged in the struggle, facing their fears, going beyond what they’re certain they can endure, essentially, those who are participating in life. He compares them to the critic who points out how the strong man stumbles.

He clearly didn’t just speak these words, but he lived them. As should you.

When you’re feeling down, act. When you’re in despair, hunt and conquer something that frightens you a little. When you’re worried about whether or not you’re good enough or strong enough, find out if you are or aren’t by going beyond what you currently know and presently know you can endure.

When life knocks you down ask for more, don’t ask for a break.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live. He’s a former 9-5er turned entrepreneur, a former scrawny amateur boxer turned muscular published fitness author. He’ll give you the kick in the ass needed to help you live a big, ambitious life.
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For the past 3 days I’ve had nothing but eggs and oatmeal. It’s a part of a fast of sorts. One not from food entirely, but from the joys and pleasures that food normally brings. It’s a fast of simplicity and frugality.

I’ve worn the same clothes for 3 days and eaten the same food for 3 days. No booze. No steak or bacon. No pleasure from what I ate at all. It’s actually been tough. It’s been tough to not add salt and pepper or ketchup to the eggs and sugar or honey or berries to the oatmeal.

It’s been tough to walk into a kitchen and not get a single ounce of joy from what I was eating. It was difficult to not grab one of the many tasty treats in the fridge that are usually a main part of my meal, fry them up, and eat those bastards like my life depended on it.

What a little bitch.

For one, there are humans all over the world that would kill – likely literally – for 3 days of eggs and plain oatmeal. In times past we as humans would go weeks with just bread and broth. If my ancestors could see me now…

… Struggling to stick to two foods groups when a clear end is in sight and the two food groups aren’t actually all that bad.

Practice Toughness or Weakness

Every day we’re either practicing toughness or weakness. There is no middle ground as clearly displayed by this little fast I had over the past few days.

Every day as we give into our desires we weaken. As we eat whatever we want, even if what we want is healthy and tasty, we are becoming dependent on those little moments for joy.

Now, this isn’t to say a life should be lived in avoidance of joy, but that by constantly giving into our desires we’re training our minds and our spirits to expect said desires to be fulfilled and quenched whenever we want them to be.

This is not healthy. Not for a human who wants to be able to persist through the tough times that life always brings, nor for a human who wants to be able to push themselves further, far beyond their zones of comfort into the world of exploration and adventure.

If you want to accomplish anything in life, and that includes having a meaningful and happy life, you must practice toughness, and if not daily, monthly and weekly. There must be things in your life that buck the trends of our easy society and acquires not ease, but hardship, not endless options but frugality and simplicity.

Limit Your Pleasures

We live in a society devoid of what was once normal and expected. It was once normal and expected for a man to have to hunt for his food, to farm for the same. It was once normal and expected for a man to live primarily in the same place his entire life. Vacations were a luxury only for kings and queens and emperors. (Read This: You Don’t Deserve a Vacation)

Today we have everything we need around us. Our homes protect us from the elements, as do our vehicles. There is little hardship we truly face on a daily basis, and when we do face hardship it’s usually centered around money, not life and death.

We are soft. Even the strong among us are dependent on how our society is now structured.

So, practice grit by limiting your pleasures.

Every couple of months, spend 3-4 days eating only two food groups. Make sure they’re cheap. Make sure they’re boring and bland. I chose oatmeal and eggs, you may choose beans and rice.

Also try the following:

Wear the same clothes for 3-4 days. We’re so tied into image, into how we look and how we’re seen that we depend on our clothes to feel valuable and proud. Dress with simplicity and frugality.

Fast from technology. It’s incredible how dependent we are not just for our survival, but emotionally, to the technology that now almost runs our lives. We can’t experience an event for the sake of the event, it must be broadcast or else it’s as if it never really happened.

Find little things in your life that give you pleasure. Remove them for a period of 3-4 days, longer if you’re up for it, and practice being reliant on nothing, dependent on little, and tougher the more you practice discipline.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live. He’s a former 9-5er turned entrepreneur, a former scrawny amateur boxer turned muscular published fitness author. He’ll give you the kick in the ass needed to help you live a big, ambitious life.
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15 Ways to Become “The Most Interesting Man in the World”

15 Ways to Become “The Most Interesting Man in the World”

Okay, so you may not instantly become the most interesting man in the world, but you will definitely become the most interesting man in the room, not to mention the most desirable man to women, if you partake in these 15 life improvement methods.

If you’re a guy who’s looking to attract high quality people in your life, women in particular, there’s only one fool-proof way to do so; and that’s become a higher quality person yourself. (Read This: Where Dating Gurus Have it Wrong)

Like the old adage goes, “like attracts like”.

You may be a guy that does not have the looks, the cash, the cars, and that’s okay; but that should not be an excuse to becoming a highly interesting, highly attractive alpha male.

You might even know some guys who manage to constantly snag the hot chicks at the bar, despite the fact that he lacks the prestige of a high paying profession and drives around in a 1999 Hyundai Elantra.

This guy probably has it figured out, and it’s likely he knows it’s not about what you have, but the traits and qualities you possess that can make you instantly attractive.

So let’s take a look at 15 very doable life improving methods than can easily boost your attractiveness and interest levels from ordinary to extraordinary.

1. Learn to cook

Knowing how to cook and prepare decent meals if a life skill most men should possess, but sadly, most do not. Every guy should know the basics of handling a pan and spatula, and also have a handful of ‘go-to’ dishes nailed down. The ability to cook will also open your mind to different styles of food, which can lead to learning about different cultures. Not to mention, women find men who cook incredibly sexy. (Read This: 5 Recipes Every Man Should Know)

2. Learn how to Prepare Drinks

Drinks, much like food, have the ability to bring people together and are ubiquitous in social settings. They help ease the tension in the room and can instantly transform people into social butterflies. If you know how to prepare and serve some staple drinks, you can instantly become the life of the party. When the party suddenly revolves around you because you’re the one whipping up martinis and old fashions, how can you not suddenly seem more interesting? Find out what some of the more popular bar drinks are and learn how to serve them up properly. Knowing your drinks can also make you seem like the guy who loves to go out and have a good time which can appeal to women, because as we all know, girls just want to have fun. Bonus points if you can learn a thing or two about different types of wines and their distinctions.

3. Travel More

The more you travel, the more interesting stories you have to tell. It’s incredibly easy to get around the world these days, so there’s almost no excuse for you to not get out of your town for a while and visit somewhere new.

Go somewhere that has a very different culture than your own and immerse yourself in the food, language, and people. Then maybe share your experiences over strategies 1 and 2 above. How can you not seem more interesting by now? (Check This Out: 6 Ways to Travel Like Hemingway)

4. Learn to Dance

By no means do you have to become John Travolta here, but knowing a few dance moves among different dance genres will instantly boost your attractiveness to women. Women tend to associate the ability to dance with his skills in bed. More props to you if you can learn some dance moves on your travels.

5. Learn a Different Language

There is no down side to being multi-lingual. None. The ability to communicate with all kinds of people is a skill everyone should be trying to master. More connections means more experiences, which means more interesting stories. Bone up on your language, or languages and take head from tip 3 and take your new language skills for a test ride in a foreign country.

6. Be Constructive With Your Hands

You don’t have to become a master craftsmen, but if you know how to fix things with your hands, you can become way more interesting than the average Joe sitting at home watching Tv. An interesting man does not dread the words “some assembly required”, but rather looks forward to breaking out his tool (every guy needs a complete set of tools btw). He’s not afraid of getting a little dirty changing his car battery or maybe even building his own furniture. Also, what women doesn’t want a guy around that can be her own personal Mr. Fix-it?

7. Have Passion About Something

Passion is attractive. It’s straight up sexy. When you deeply care about something, whether it’s your career, your hobbies, or especially caring for other people, it shows people around you that you have a purpose in this world. Passion has the ability to draw people toward you and inspire others to find their own passions. If you’re someone who thinks they don’t have a passion for something, think again. It’s always there, you just have to dig deep and pull it out.

8. Make People Laugh

Who doesn’t love to laugh? It’s typically the funny guys in the room who get the most attention. You don’t have to be the best at telling jokes, but a quick wit and good timing and delivery are key to what makes funny things actually funny. Being able to make people laugh is an invaluable skill that really rounds out and completes a personality. Not to mention, chicks dig guys who can make them laugh.

9. Always Strive For More

Interesting guys have a well-rounded personality and lifestyle because they dabble in all types of different activities; whether it’s being a self-employed businessman or a diehard employee to a large company, one thing is certain: they’re always striving for more and challenging themselves to achieve something better. Interesting people are constantly developing their minds, bodies, and businesses.

10. Offer Your Own Perspective

This does not mean being the know it all guy at the party who has to put his 2 cents in on every topic and has contrary views to everyone else. This simply means that a different perspective on an issue may offer somebody a new way of thinking about that issue. Don’t be harsh when offering your suggestions, but rather share something interesting that you recently learned and how it impacted your life for the better.

11. Stay Well-Informed and Be Well-Read

In order to stay well informed, you must first become well informed. Catch up and stay up to date on current events, the latest technology, scientific revolutions, health and fitness topics, and modern popular culture. Anytime these topics pop up in a social setting and somebody asks for your input, you can chime in and contribute to the conversation without hesitation. When it comes to being well read, the only way to accomplish this is to read more. Reading all types of genres, both fiction and nonfiction, really expand your universe and way of thinking. If you can handle reading 30 pages a day, you’ll be able to complete an average book in less than a week! That translates to over 40 books a year. Think about the wealth of information you’ll absorb if you could accomplish even half of that! If that doesn’t make for an interesting man, I really don’t know what does.

12. Develop Your Own Unique Style

“Swag”, as it’s now known, is the way you present yourself and speaks volumes about who you are. Your outer appearance is something you have almost complete control of, so why not make the most of it and show people that you’re worthwhile and quite interesting. Is your body physically fit? Do you have long or short hair? Do you have tattoos? Are your shoes in fashion? All of these individual parts can be used to sculpt a unique identity that people (especially women) might find irresistible.

13. Get Artistic

Being artistic isn’t limited to paints and sculptures. The ability to create art is the ability to create beauty and contribute to society. That may be a broad, esoteric definition of art, so let’s narrow it down to more traditional mediums. Instead of being the guy who sits around playing video games, invest your time in learning a musical instrument, taking up photography, or learning how to draw. There’s no limit on this one. A creative soul is a captivating soul, and everyone wants to be captivated.

14. Be Adventurous

Nothing says “I’m an interesting guy” than being spontaneous and living adventurously. This no doubt will lead to better life experiences, which lead to better interesting stories to share. Sometimes the best way to break free from the chains of day to day life is to shake it off with something you wouldn’t normally do. Go for a hike, take a camping trip, or take a road trip with some buddies. Heck, even something as simple as exploring a new bar on a Thursday night can get the ball rolling. You’ll never know who you might meet or what experiences you might gain when you live your life a bit more adventurously. (Read This: A Man’s Guide to Adventure)

15. Lift Weights

Nobody’s expecting you to suddenly become the next Mr. Olympia, but developing your physical appearance through weight lifting is something every guy should be doing. A strong, powerful physique exudes confidence and commands attention. Guys around you will respect you more, and more importantly, women will definitely notice how much better you look in clothes (or without if you’re lucky) than guys who don’t lift.

By no means do you have to accomplish everything on this list to become a more interesting man. Honestly, being good at even just one of the things on this list may make you more interesting than most of the ordinary guys out there.

The best thing you can do is pick a few off the list that truly interest you and apply them to your current life. Little by little, day by day, you’ll see yourself become the guy you’ve always dreamt of becoming. The one that gets begged to tell their stories at parties. The one sharing jokes at the bar. The one the ladies can’t help but notice.

You’ll have grandiose life experiences and stories to tell that other guys will envy, and women will want you to share with them.

You want to be the guy who stands head and shoulders above all the average guys who lack, ambition, desire, and motivation in their lives.

If you can handle that, there’s no reason you can’t live a more fulfilled life and get the women you have always wanted, while you become the most interesting man in the world.

About The Author

With a background in mechanical engineering, John Craven’s never ending search for “how everything works” and problem solving skills have carried over to helping individuals achieve their best physiques possible. His passion is to contribute science-based information about nutrition and training to anyone looking to take control of their body composition while improving the overall quality of their lives.

You can contact him at –
What Are You Craven Website
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The Hard-Core Approach to Rock Hard Abs

The Hard-Core Approach to Rock Hard Abs

Virtually everyone will tell you that they want to have six pack abs. Those same people will tell you that they want to live in a huge mansion with a Lamborghini in their driveway.

These are nothing but preferences that people set for themselves. Everyone believes that they want the finer things in life. Unfortunately, very few people are willing to do what’s required to achieve their goals.

Before you start pursing a goal, you need to come to terms with what it will take to achieve it.

Many of my clients have told me that they will do everything and anything to get the body of their dreams. However, their actions indicate that they’re not willing to sacrifice a Friday night at the local bar.

If you’re motivated by the vanity of getting in shape, you will most likely fail each and every time. I’m NOT saying that there’s anything wrong with having a Greek God body that makes women salivate. But if your primary motivation is “to look good on the beach this summer”, then it won’t be enough fuel to get you to the finish line.

You have to possess a deeper, more meaningful reason to transform your body. If you’re doing it to impress external third parties, then you might as well not even embark on this journey.

The True Benefits Of Six Pack Abs

Before we get into the different exercises and nutrition techniques, it’s important to understand the physical benefits of six pack abs. Your core is the stabilizer muscle for your entire body. Your core is made up of your abdominals and lower back. When you build a durable core, it will accelerate growth in all your major muscle groups. Your chest, arms, shoulders, back, and legs will be able to support more weight, which will allow you to build on your gains more rapidly.

You may have heard the phrase, “Your abs are made in the kitchen” before. Although there is an element of truth to this, you should train your core regardless of your body fat percentages. If you perform the right exercises and follow The Man Diet, you’re abs will start developing much faster than you imagined.

The Overwhelming Importance Of Nutrition

If you want your abs to show, then you need to get your body fat percentages down the appropriate levels. If you’re a male, you’ll need to get down below 10%. If you’re a female, you should aim to get down to around 15%. This is where the majority of people struggle. For over a decade, I simply didn’t believe that the foods you consumed mattered more than the sweat equity you put into your workouts.

Despite I was training 6 times per week, I could never develop any definition in my abdominals. When I finally decided to hire a trainer, he asked me a question that changed my entire perspective on nutrition.

How long do you train each day? 30-45 minutes? What are you doing those remaining 23 hours? You are eating, working or sleeping.

When I realized that my training accounted for less than 5% of my entire day, I finally decided to prioritize my eating habits. Within a few months, I was able to lose 40 pounds of fat and get six pack abs for the first time in my life.

Before you start preparing your meals, you need to possess the proper mindset. People eat foods for one of two reasons:

• To satisfy their taste buds
• To fuel their body

When you eat to satisfy your taste buds, you are investing in the short-term satisfaction of taste. Anything that presents short-term gratification is usually back ended with long-term pain. Although that pizza might taste delicious, it will cause you to feel lethargic for the next few hours. The digestion process expends the most energy in the human body. This will hinder your energy levels during the day, and end up accumulating inches to your waistline.

When you eat to fuel your body, you aren’t concerned with the five minutes of eating tasty foods. Instead, you are investing in your energy levels, body, and long-term health. You don’t go into your workouts looking to feel “comfortable”, right? Instead, you embrace the rigors that come with your training because it’s an essential part of your growth. You need to incorporate this same approach with your nutrition.

Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to eat raw chicken and broccoli six times per day to get abs. You simply need to follow a high protein, high testosterone diet along with a structured workout plan. Stop investing in the temporary gratification of taste, and start treating your body like a machine.

The Best Exercises For Six Pack Abs

Your abdominals are made up of three subsidiary muscle groups – the upper abs, obliques, and lower abs. If you want to get symmetrical definition in your abs, then you need to target each of these regions accordingly.

Whether you train in the gym or at home, there are specific movements that isolate region of your abs.

• Upper Abs – raising your shoulder blades off the floor
• Obliques – twisting your torso from side to side
• Lower Abs – raising your legs past the point of your waistline

Your abdominals are a muscle group that can be trained frequently. In my experience, the best way to get six pack abs is by doing short, high intensity circuit workouts that last between 3-10 minutes. This will elevate you heart rate into a fat burning zone and allow you to target all 3 regions of your abdominals.

Today, I’m going to show you a 3-minute circuit workout that you can do at home, the gym, or even during your lunch break. You’ll be doing three different exercises – one for the upper abs, obliques, and lower abs.

Cycle through this workout 2-4 times. Keep your rest to a minimum, and focus on executing proper form, especially with the leg lifts.


The benefits of six-pack abs go way beyond the aesthetics of getting in shape. Building a strong core will enhance the performance levels of your workout. From a visual perspective, having abs demonstrates that you are part of the 1% of people who lets their body speak for itself.

Focus on getting your body fat percentages down to the appropriate levels. Find a nutrition plan that is conducive to your goals, and then stick with it. Remember, persistence is the most important part of transforming your body. There will be days when you miss a workout and have a cheat meal. That’s ok, as long as you get yourself back on track.

For maximum results, start training your abdominals 3-4 times per week for 3-5 minutes circuits. Whether you train at home or the gym, make sure your workout regimen isolates the upper abs, obliques, and lower abs. As you continue to progress, you can gradually increase your time to 7, and eventually 10 minutes. Always focus on proper form, and never neglect your nutrition.

About The Author

Kiley Lynch runs an online fitness business at Sculpted Muscle.

He loves training hard and specializes in getting clients shredded, from home, with hardcore bodyweight workouts!

Kiley is also one of the leading experts in at home bodyweight training for anyone who “doesn’t have the time.”

You can contact him at –
The Sculpted Muscle Youtube Channel