How to Be More Decisive

How to Be More Decisive

Paralysis by analysis is a real thing. It’s something that wastes entire lives. It’s an intention without action. It’s indecisiveness. It’s also something that’s completely under your control, you just have to decide to be more decisive.

Being decisive is a superpower. People follow the decisive. They get behind decisive men, action-takers and not just talkers; doers and not just wishers.

Indecision is rampant today.

We think we live in the hardest period in history, and I always say things, I wish I was born a thousand years ago. The truth is, if you can’t make it in today’s society where there’s never been a greater variety of ways to ‘make it’, then you wouldn’t have made it in past times, either. (read: why I don’t trust intellectuals)

That said, it’s far easier to be indecisive today because of the litany of options we’re faced with.

While we’ve never had so much opportunity, we’re also never had so many options.

Options aren’t good. If we have a goal, there’s usually one best way to achieve it. (read: the winners are the losers who keep…)

We have more options for food to buy, for diets to follow, for what to search online, what to watch on TV, how to watch the show we want to watch, how to make the money we want to make, how to solve the problem we’re faced with.

Out of all of these options, there’s usually one best solution, but it’s better to choose a course of action and act than the sit and constantly try to find the best choice to make.

Being indecisive is unattractive

Forget about what it does for you, it’s also unattractive to women. They don’t want to have to make your decisions for you, nor do they want to have to make decisions for the both of you.

Choose something and practice choosing fast.

How to be more decisive

Decisiveness is so bloody important. It gets you moving in a direction when most people choose to tread water, to wade, to remain in the spot they’re in because they’re too afraid to make a decision.

Decisiveness is in part courage, but it’s also intelligence.

You’re more intelligent if you’re decisive because you understand the futility in being indecisive. (read: 7 quotes that every man must live by)

To be decisive in the bigger things you have to practice being decisive in the smaller things. Practice making quick decisions and living with the consequences.

Choose what movie to watch immediately.

Choose was foods to eat, where to take your lady for dinner, what to have for dinner, what to wear, what to write, what to read, what to say, and so on.

It’s not rocket science.

You can spend your life being indecisive or you can spend your life being decisive, there shouldn’t be much middle ground.

You’re a man, on top of everything, you’re supposed to lead. How are you going to lead if you can’t make simple decisions, let alone big ones?

The world doesn’t need more indecisive boys running around. We don’t need more people who need others to tell them what to do.

We need leaders and trailblazers, action-takers and, well, MEN!

This might not seem like an important article, it may not seem like the most important topic you’ve ever read about, but if you’ve read this far you likely know that you have to – in some way – be more decisive.

So be more decisive!

Start now.

For the rest of the day make fast, definite decisions.

Do it again tomorrow, and then the next day.

Lead your life in a direction because any direction is better than no direction at all.



I’m working my way through Tim Grover’s, Relentless, right now.

Tim is Michael Jordan’s strength coach, and Kobe Bryant’s. He’s spent a lot of time around guys who are killers, winners on another level, they’re beyond competitive.

It’s a great book, one that dives into the darkness of victory, the instinct of it.

Instinct is something many of us have lost. We were born with instincts. I remember being a kid, wanting to beat anyone and everyone at anything.

I’d fight all the time. I loved it. Slowly, however, we all confuse being good with being nice. We see this desire to kill, to do

minate, to hunt, as bad, and we soften it, let it go in an attempt to civilize.

You cannot ever become fully civilized if you want victory. Something within you has to remain true to those instincts and sometimes advice can cloud that inner voice, that ‘gut feeling’ that a man should always listen to first.

While I’m a guy who gives advice, who shows guys how to eat, train and become more disciplined, the advice is something you have to watch out for. Too much of it can lead you to live someone else’s life and lose those instincts that we all need to thrive.

So take advice from people who actually have your best interests in mind, but don’t take advice from everyone. Don’t seek advice from everyone either.

Years ago I stopped seeking so much damn advice and started doing my thing, whether it was business or life, and it’s helped me live life on my terms and build a business on my terms.

Listen, who do we admire, the man in a crowd, one of many, or the original, the man who stands on his own, who leads, who goes his own way?

We’re a tribe here, but no man can lose his ability to listen to his gut, to thrive off instinct rather than advice.

My dog, Teddy, doesn’t for a second think about chasing a deer, he just does it, and it’s nearly impossible to hold him back.

A lion doesn’t think about killing, that’s just what lions do.

Men should spend less time thinking about doing what they know deep down they need to do, and just do it.

When you have a decision to make, make it, follow the first thing that came to your mind and deal with the consequences later.

If you’re wrong, pivot, and fix the mistake, but stop living the safe life, the life led by the advice of others, where the tough decisions of your life can be pawned off on someone else so that, in part, they can share the blame if it’s the wrong decision.

Be decisive.

Trust your gut.

It takes confidence to trust your gut. And if you don’t have confidence, and you want to develop it, start there.

Start by making fast and firm decisions, then follow through on them.

Be the lion, do as lions do. React, forget if everything is perfect. Forget about thinking about every scenario and outcome.

Get after it.


Be Legendary,

Chad Howse

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A lack of decisiveness is what’s wrong with a lot of young men. They wander. They’re not assertive. They lack focus and drive and persistence. It’s an offset of society, we’ve become one where instant gratification is supreme, so we follow every desire we have. (Read This: How to Fight Your Desires)

To get what you want in life, and that’s damn well important, you have to be decisive about every little action you take. You need an overall direction and purpose to your actions, and then the little things you do in the run of a day have to align with that purpose.

Clarity is king.

When you know who you are, what your values are, what you stand for and where you’re headed, being decisive is simple, even easy.

In this article we’ll go through the 7 ways to be a more decisive man…

… And this is important not just to live a great life, but to be the man for your lady.

Let’s get into it.

1. Practice quick decision-making in the short term, for small things.

While being more decisive in the grand scheme is what you want, being more decisive and assertive in the immediate minutia is where you’ll hone this necessary skill. Practice making fast decisions.

Decide what you want to eat, quickly. Decide what movie you want to watch or what clothes you want to wear. This will actually have another effect…

Our brains only have the capacity to make a certain amount of decisions in the run of a day properly and optimally, after we reach our capacity – and it’s different for everyone – our energy levels decline, and our ability to make the best decisions diminishes. So if you’re spending 30-minutes figure out what to wear in the morning, you’re wasting that energy-making power on something that’s useless. (Read This: How to Be More Decisive)

Make fewer decisions, and make them faster.

2. Practice sticking to what you decided

Practice living with your decisions. Make them fast, then see them through.

You see this a lot with younger guys, and older guys who don’t have the respect of their seeds or spouses, they jump from thing to thing, job to job, hobby to hobby. They lack consistency.

Great men are relentlessly consistent. They know what they want and they don’t deviate from the path to get it.

Practice this consistency with your small decisions. It will transfer to the bigger things in life.

3. Spend a day and figure out what your ideal life would be. Without clarity, you can’t be decisive.

Clarity demands our time and attention.

We rarely spend enough time thinking and planning. We’re always being busy for the sake of being busy. It’s useless. Imagine spending your entire life being busy on the wrong thing!

My goodness… the regret of such time wasted would be a tough pill to swallow, so avoid it by spending the time and energy on figuring out just what you want and creating a plan of how to get it.

Read. Research. Take the time to acquire enough perspective to know that what you want is true. And when you create a vision for your life, being decisive in taking actions that lead you toward it becomes easy.

4. Determine the virtues you hold most important. Make a chart. Tick them off daily.

Ben Franklin did this. Copy him.

He was insightful enough to understand that what he wanted in life is dependent on him, who he was, how much he could work, save, and learn, so he crafted virtues that would help him become the man his goals and dreams needed him to become.

Make a list of 10-14 rules or virtues that you don’t break, and track how well you abide by them.

Try these – – – > > The 12 Virtues of Manliness

5. BE the man you want to become, stop waiting to become him. ACT AS IF YOU ARE HIM.

For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. ~ Viktor Frankl

That may be the most powerful quote you’ll ever read.

Success isn’t something you can pursue, it must ensue. It must happen. You do not pursue that man you want to become, you become him. You do not pursue decisiveness, you become more decisive.

People would love for it to be more complicated than that. It isn’t.

What you want is dependent on who you are and you can become the man you need to become, today. You can live the virtues, create the habits, have the thoughts of a billionaire, the habits of a winner, the actions of an explorer, now. You do not need to wait for this to occur.

Those who truly understand this. Those who act with courage now. Those who act decisively today, will become the man they need to become, and the life and the goals and the dreams will soon be their daily reality.

6. Have confidence that you cannot only make the right decision, but that if you make the wrong decision, you’ll win anyway. You’re tough like that.

You’re the man. Whatever decision you make, no matter the outcome, you can and will rise and win as a result of it. Even if you fail, you’ll pick yourself up and get back on the horse.

This allows you to make decisive actions, not from a place of fear, but strength.

You need to be strong. You need to act as though you have nothing to lose and that you can walk away from any deal, decision, and win regardless of where you find yourself.

7. Stop thinking, start doing. Make one big decision right now, do it, and let the chips land where they may.

Practice everything we’ve talked about, but on a big scale.

Book a trip. Buy a domain. Ask a lady out.

Do something that – to you – is big.

Most people won’t do this. But you’re not most people. You know that whatever you do, you’ll make it work, you’ll make victory out of failure.

Get after it.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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This includes to stop asking advice from me, or anyone you’d deem worthy of giving you advice before you ask and do a couple things which we’ll get into in a bit.

A couple things you need to know:

  1. You know what you have to do. Often times asking advice is a possible excuse from doing what you know you’ve got to do.
  1. Whomever you’re asking for advice can’t know the complete story like you do. Trust yourself, first, then ask for another perspective if necessary, but if you’re always searching for another way you’re never going to own your own path in life, and you’re never going to act with the decisiveness that a flourishing life requires.

Now, this is going to make me sound like a prick, so I have to preface it with examples from my own life.

I used to ask for advice about nearly everything.

Within business I sought the advice of people I thought knew more and would hang on their every suggestion. It never worked because their businesses were so different than my own.

Now, I’ve since hired coaches and its been wonderful, but we’re working on structure, figuring out what works, and not on offers or topics of content because I know what I have to write, in part, because you let me know.

I’d ask pals about a lady I’d be dating, about what the best move was, when to call, what to do, where to take her.

I’d ask for advice about nearly everything, and what I began to see was a fella not living life on his terms but one influenced by others.

So I stopped cold turkey.

True originals are rare. Men who set out on a unique path and act based on who they are and what they want not predicated on a trend or fad or an external influence, be it friend, foe, boss, mentor, or media.

how to be more decisiveDecisive men are a relic. The joke used to be that men don’t ask for directions, now we ask what we should wear; we look to articles for tips and tactics on how to ‘be’. It’s insane how little we know about ourselves and our truest wants, desires, and dreams.

The purpose of this article isn’t to make men mute. That is, I’m not writing this so we don’t talk to anyone about anything, however, when we constantly hand over decisions in our lives we hand over our lives. To take back your decisions and actions is to reclaim power and purpose, as well as clarity, and where there’s clarity based on your own logic, there’s no need to depend on anyone.

You’re here to walk your own path in life, not the path your folks or society or pals expect you to walk.

Think with more audacity. Act with more decisiveness.

There are two parts to this article and they both fuel one another.

Part I: Why you should stop asking for advice, and how to do it.

Part II: How to use part I to become more decisive.


It is, but not to the extent to which we use it and ask for it.

Asking for advice is often simply the desire to talk about ourselves, to put ourselves in the centerpiece of a conversation.

It’s also, as discussed earlier, a possible ‘out’ for not doing what we know we have to do.

For example, we know we have to break up with a lady who’s just not right for us, but we ask for advice, hoping someone else will provide us with an alternative. Or we know that in order to live the lives we want to live we have to get rid of our bottom-feeding friends, but we hope that someone else’s advice will excuse us from such a tough decision.

We ask advice about quitting our jobs and starting a business – an incredibly difficult and long road – because we’re hoping someone will excuse us from such a tough task.

Or we’re asking for permission.

Since when does a man need permission?

What advice does is remove decisive action from our lives. We float on the influence of others never taking full action on what we want to pursue, do, and chase.

We don’t do, we ask.

Decisiveness often beats correct action because it’s able to figure out what’s right and wrong faster than someone seeking the approval and influence of others is able to realize.

Act quick and with purpose.


how to be more decisiveAsking for advice is a habit. Create a new one.

It starts with awareness. The more aware you are of the habit you want to break the more likely you’re going to be able to identify it when it creeps up and root it out instead of blindly doing the same thing over and over again.

Start with small things, stuff that isn’t that important but you ask for advice with it anyway.

Start acting. Don’t even think, just go with your gut and the first thing that comes to mind.

Do this for a day, then begin to do the same with bigger decisions in your life.

The caveat

Take more advice from literature. That is, read more and take action on the things the books, authors, philosophers suggest.

We can take the written word and decide whether to use it or not far better than we can take the advice of someone we respect and trust and determine whether it’s worth following or not.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.
You can contact him at –