Under the radar is the only true path to success.
It’s what you do every day that matters, not what you do every once in a while.
I dream a bit too much. Dreaming can be a good thing, but when you’re constantly thinking about this big, grand, audacious goal, you can get discouraged about the sheer enormity of the mountain before you.
Even if you don’t get discouraged, but always focusing on the dream, you pull yourself out of what really matters, the process. The process, the work, the daily grind is what will get you to where you want to be, and if you focus only on the work, you’ll likely end up somewhere even grander than you initially dreamed.
When you’re focused only on the end, however, clarity can waiver. You can question your process and forget about the habits that will create the goal.
Step #1: fall in love with the process; forget about the goal.
Talkers are rarely doers.
There’s an insecurity involved in being a talker. Insecurities can work in your favor. If you’re continually trying to prove yourself, you can end up working more than your competition merely to show them up.
Talkers, however, rarely fall into that category. It’s those who work in silence, for the sake of the work not to seek fame, that do, that accomplish and create while the talker feels as though he’s accomplished something simply from his proclamation.
Being under the radar is the best way to achieve a daring feat. It is such because it’s not about the individual, it isn’t a contest in comparison to others, and thus it’s not dependent on their praise and affirmation. It’s a personal quest, and therefore it’s habitual in nature, not requiring boisterous actions that are visible to the public.
Success, real success is dependent on hours of solitude and silence, and when you’re doing what you’re doing just to show others than you can do it, silence can be deafening.
To accomplish, you have to simply shut up and work.
Step #2: shut up and work and be okay with solitude and silence.
Arrogance doesn’t fit into a successful story; it’s usually at the heart of the downfall.
To succeed you have to learn and to learn you have to know that you don’t know everything.
Studying, however, isn’t enough, you have to know what to study.
What craft or skill is essential to your success?
What do you have to become the best at to become win?
Find the best books on that topic. They could span a couple of skills, like copywriting, selling, marketing, and running a successful business. Reading for the sake of reading, if you’re attempting to build something great, isn’t enough. You have to study, and you have to explore the topics that will lead to your success.
Identify the ten best, most highly rated books in a given field. Buy a small journal to take notes in for each book, or take notes using Evernote or Google Drive so they’re always there and readily viewable (I like journals, but now I’ve got so many of them I don’t have the slightest clue where particular ones are. I suppose I couldn’t categorize them better, but Drive or Evernote are easier ways to get this done.).
Take notes. Highlight questions. Actively learn from the books you’re reading, study them, don’t just gloss over them. The worst use of a book is to use it as a notch on the belt, for show, so you can have it on a shelf in your library so you can show people how much you’re reading.
It’s better to study a single book than to gloss over a dozen.
Step #3: study like a madman.
Approval shouldn’t be the pursuit.
If you want to ‘show everyone’ just how great you are, you’re not going to do the right things, nor make the necessary sacrifices to achieve what you set out to achieve. When you forget about others, when you remove the desire to compare where you are in relation to where others are, you free yourself up to focus on the work.
This isn’t a race. One effective day doesn’t make you a great man. It’s the incremental victories won daily that produce a lifetime of achievement.
Whatever will help you focus on the process, to be okay with solitude and silence, do it. If it’s finding a mentor, then do that. If it’s getting off social media all together, then get off it.
Know that the process is everything. Who you are every day is all that matters and to expect ‘big things’ right away is juvenile and silly.
If you want to be successful – however you define it – become the man worthy of that success. That isn’t ‘do something that will make you successful’, but become the man, acquire the habits, live your life to a higher daily standard and one day you’ll wake up with the life that was once your dream.
About The Author
Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.