how to become tougher

3 Ways to Become Tougher

A Man’s Guide to Toughness

Toughness isn’t won in a single fight; it’s developed by showing up every day of a long, arduous war.

We think we’re tough, yet we haven’t proved it over a long enough period. (Read This: 5 Ways men Are Becoming Little Bitches)

We’ve had acts of toughness. Maybe we’ve won a few fights, or lost a few but didn’t cry or complain or go for a cheap shot. Maybe we’ve been fired and we picked ourselves up by our bootstraps and carried on.

These things are all great and good, but know that toughness is a life-long process. It requires persistence and grit just as much as it demands toughness in the moment.

Endurance is as important as guts and gameness.

Endurance seems to be what’s missing from a culture that demands what they want now.

You’re different, of course, but you still have to be aware of societal tendencies and human nature. We want what’s easy. We want what’s now. But both aren’t necessarily what’s good, especially for our own development.

Actively acquire toughness not because it’s nice to have in your back pocket, but because it’s necessary to possess if you want to live a flourishing life.

While the rest of society hedges toward ease, toward instant gratification, toward instead pleasure and frivolous purchases, instead become stoic, become tough.

1. Develop a tough habit and carry it out for at least a year.

I’ve started the habit of doing 500 push-ups every day. Running could be another habit, one that I wouldn’t necessarily like to do, but would benefit from doing regardless. What can you add to your day, every day, that you don’t necessarily like to do but will benefit you either way?

Is it yard-work every day? Maybe it’s reading every day?

Define a habit you want to form, one that isn’t easy, that takes work, and set out to make it habitual by doing it daily. This shouldn’t end, maybe ever. Toughness is something that happens over years, not merely in moments or weeks.

2. Do something unnecessarily uncomfortable every day.

Cold showers, push-ups, running in the rain, cold, and snow; each is uncomfortable, each will make you tougher. Hitting the bag every day, getting up at 4am every day. Whatever it may be, do it. Make it a part of your life.

It doesn’t even have to be beneficial in the moment, for the act of doing something that’s uncomfortable is beneficial in and of itself.

3. Join a boxing gym.

One of our greatest fears is death. The cousin of death is physical harm, pain, injury. To kill in battle we once had to come within range of our enemy, within range of their weapon, within range of death.

To find food was a dangerous prospect. Protecting our home was as well.

It’s hard to trust a guy who’s never been punched in the face. Will he be there when all hell breaks loose or will he run? To go through a life never getting in a fight is a weird thing for a guy. It’s almost like you’ve never stood for or up for anything in a critical moment.

Many men hold fighting as a fear. Breaking that fear of injury and turning combat into chess versus the emotional act it is for many will translate to other areas of your life. It definitely has for me. (Read This: Men Were Born to Fight)

Rather than getting mad you’re able to think about and determine the best course of action in situations that used to drive you mad.

To be calm in the midst of a storm and while others rage and lose their cool is to be a man amongst children.

Learning any martial art, so long as you actually get in the ring and fight, will help you accomplish this. Take action on this step.

TOUGHNESS

Toughness and grit and gameness, they’re virtues we have to develop. To go through life without developing toughness is to go through life as something less than a man, something short of your potential.

It’s an uncomfortable quest, this pursuit of toughness. Fewer and fewer possess this tough-gotten virtue. Fewer still accept its necessity.

No matter what you want in life, or who you want to become, that goal and that man hang on your level of toughness. So while you practice your craft and acquire skill, know that it’s who you are in times of uncertainty that will determine who you eventually become and what you eventually accomplish.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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