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The entire basis for this site is to build upon who you are to become who you want to be.

The ‘alpha’, in average to alpha, is your ideal. It’s not necessarily what the rest of society thinks of when they hear the term. We’re not just focusing on the physical, but the mental and the spiritual as well.

I guess I could have called the site average to elite, but it didn’t have the same ring to it.

Why are you average?

You may respond to that claim with a snicker, but it’s true. It’s true for all of us. We’re all average in comparison to who we can be. By adding discipline, working harder, studying more diligently, becoming more self-reliant and so forth, we become what we could have been all along.

What’s elite?

Elite is a higher end human. He’s faster, stronger, smarter, tougher. How you become elite is what we’ll cover in this article.

1. Determine what’s good and what’s bad.

Most people live life blindly accepting norms, ways of living, and habits that don’t seem all that harmful. We do what we do because it’s what’s done by people like me, living where I am, pursuing what I’m pursuing.

What in your life is beneficial, right now, and what isn’t?

Ask that simple question. You’re not going to be elite if you’re constantly on social media or watching TV. You’ll be a dependent, lazy fatty always seeking more ‘likes’ and living to ‘get likes’ rather than living to live.

This is personal. You know what’s good for you and what’s bad for you. Have the balls to remove the waste.

2. Expose yourself to the elements of your ancestors.

In his book, What Doesn’t Kill Us, Scott Carney writes about how our ability to control our environment has made us weaker, fatter, and more prone to illness. By exposing yourself to the elements, namely cold and pain, you awaken a lot evolutionary strength that’s been buried by an increasingly easy way of life.

Think about how evolution happens. It cannot occur in ease, it has to be carried out only under extremely stressful situations.

Thousands – even hundreds and tens – of years ago we were exposed to the elements. Thus, our immune systems had to work harder, our muscles did too. We were tougher, more resilient because we were more exposed.

Expose yourself to the elements. Take cold shows in the morning. Turn your heat down and shiver. Spend time outside in the cold in nothing but your shorts. Force toughness.

3. Be ruthless with your time.

Focus only on one thing at a time. Never try to multitask – it’s a myth that leads to a lack of productivity and wasted time.

Focus only on things that demand your attention. Don’t give your time to that which weakens you. (Read This: How to Use Your Time Like a Winner)

Being elite is being ruthless. You know what’s good and what’s bad and you’re brutal about avoiding the bad at all costs. Read. Write. Study. Train. Embark on adventures. Do the things you dream about doing. Don’t dare watch others pretend to do what you wish you were doing.

4. Hike and hunt and explore.

We’re not meant to spend so much time indoors. It’s unnatural. Men were once wild. We’re bred to fight and defend and hunt and gather.  We’re not designed to sit on our asses. You can see the effects…

…We’re fatter and weaker than ever before. Our suicide rates are the highest they’ve been in decades and yet our quality of life is at its height in our history as humans.

Quality, however, is subjective. True quality demands experience, it doesn’t entail ease.

Get off your ass and get out there. Be a man. Do as men do.

5. Figure out a routine.

I created a program called, The Lost Art of Discipline, where we go through your routine, what you want from life, and how to plan how to get it.

Most people just exist. They don’t exist with a specific plan or much of a focus. They just do as they think they’re supposed to do.

As a result they fall into the trapping of society, both in their aspirations and in their routine.

Break free from this mediocre way of life. Figure out the routine that will help you become a success and live that routine daily.

6. Wake up earlier.

Winners rise early. Losers sleep in. (Read This: Conquer Your Morning, Win Your Life)

7. Train your hands for war.

Learn how to fight. Learn how to shoot. Train your body to be excellent at both.

You’re not much of a use if you’re weak. You’re not going to experience the dangers and the wonders of the world if you can’t hike 20 miles with a 40 pound bag on your back. You’re also not going to venture into the exciting parts of the world if you’re not at least a little bit confident that you can defend yourself if a situation gets hairy.

Learn how to do what men have done since day one, fight.

Our bodies are created for it. If you’re overweight or weak, you’ve compromised your purpose. Turn the ship around.

Start here: Strong Like a Warrior

8. If you’re afraid, go forward.

Think about your real fears, the deep ones that don’t get addressed.

I’m not talking about a fear of spiders or sharks (although both can keep you from doing some pretty badass shit). The fear of failure prevents too many of us from becoming what we can become because it’s halts our most daring pursuits.

If you’re afraid to travel, travel. If you’re afraid to go to a certain part of the world, go there. If you’re afraid to write a book because of the sheer amount of work that could end up as a failure, do it.

Our fear is more often a guiding light than a deterrent. Use it. Don’t avoid it.

9. Don’t aim to be exceptional.

This sounds counter-intuitive, but if you look at those among us or in history who are elite, they were who they were or are who they are every day.

They were in it for the long haul, they didn’t whine and wish things weren’t as they are., They persisted and pursued a way of life every day.

They were their habits.

Be your habits. (Read This: How to Break a Bad Habit)

Determine what those habits are, what that mindset is, who you carry yourself as, and be him daily. Not in moments when all eyes are on you, but in every waking hour and even in your dreams.

This isn’t done so you can show people how good you are or post pictures about this incredible life you have. This is done because it’s how to live, it’s who you are.

Why would you be anything but elite when you have the choice to be great?

It’s simple. Wake up early. Work hard. Be disciplined. And be this way every day.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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Chad Howse

Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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