Being a winner isn’t an issue of birthplace or birthright. Winning is where you end up and who you end up becoming. It’s the man you become, not the stuff you own or acquire.

The concept of winning in a materialistic society, a consumer society, is all about what you acquire.

That’s not winning at life.

Forget about your neighbors, their envy, or what people are doing on social media, and think about what winning really is. (Read This: 7 Steps to Becoming a Lion Among Sheep)

You need accomplishment. That is, you literally need to win. You need to give your time to something, get better at it every day, then in a decade or two of refining your skills, you need to win at that pursuit.

You need purpose. A lot of ‘purpose’ comes from work, why we’re working, and who you’re working for. Not our boss, but who we’re trying to improve – our families, charities we give to, people we help out. Our work is often just a vehicle to give us purpose.

You need relationships with other humans, good ones, not relationships that are relegated to the phone or social media, but real, deep, emotional relationships.

These are few and far between today as people count their friends not on one hand like humans used to, but by how many ‘friends’ they have on Facebook.

You need health. Thus, you need pain. Pain gets you stronger and tougher. You can’t be an alcoholic or a drug addict and win at life. That’s a massive gap in what winning is, which brings me to the next point.

You can’t be a victim in any sense of the word. You can’t be a victim to society, to a system, to a way of thinking, a way of spending, a way of eating. You have to be self-reliant – not completely, as you’ll always depend on others in some way for something, even if ‘others’ are books. But you cannot be a victim to win.

Possessions are things we buy that end up owning us.

We become victims of all we’ve bought because we love it, we need it for our feelings of self-worth and status. These feelings aren’t real, they’re not tangible nor are they logical. You can’t become a better, more valuable human, nor can you be a winner, simply because you’ve bought more cool stuff.

That isn’t what winning is at life. Sure, some people will think you’re a winner, but you shouldn’t care what people think. When they think you’re a loser, ignore them. When they think you’re a winner, ignore them.

The opinions of sheep hold no weight and they should garner no attention.

Think about what winning is in your own life. Think about the things you really want to accomplish and the life you truly want to lead, the one that will give you purpose, meaning, accomplishment, and happiness.

Then remove all of the things that take you away from that existence, that stand in its way. You’ll have clarity. You’ll have focus. And you’ll have a direction to set your sails and a course to follow for the rest of your life.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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