Work. Eat. Sleep. Football on Sundays and maybe a hike or two a month. You relax with a stogie and a book and the nervous butterflies that paralyzed you the first time you laid eyes on your then future wife, or the first time you visited a strange land where they spoke a different language and the fear of the unknown wasn’t a deterrent but a challenge, are gone.
Work becomes an excuse not to do things, to not dare mightily even when the best things you’ve done in your life were the most exciting things you’ve done in your life.
Testosterone decreases the moment you hold a baby. It does again when you get married. Why? The theories are that we go from adventurers and conquerors to protects, providers. We were once warriors, now we become worriers.
We worry about the safety of our family. We worry about being able to give them the life we didn’t have. We worry about every little thing in life and we completely stop living dangerously, but it’s this risk, this danger, this thirst for competition that both makes us feel alive and fills our bodies with the most important hormone we have access to.
We see an increase in testosterone when we win. We need to win and we need to compete and we needs to live ambitiously and aggressively.
Don’t decay, please don’t decay.
Just because you have more responsibility, does not mean you have to be comfortable in how you live because there’s so many other things that make you nervous, that worry you.
Your family, your lady, and you need you to live dangerously, to aim audaciously in what you pursue, and to experience the invigorating experiences that you embarked on when you had fewer responsibilities.
Last year at about this time I was on a flight, on my way to hunt in Africa. On that trip I played with lions, stalked warthogs, and chased (but didn’t kill) giraffes.
Before that I explored Argentina and Uruguay, Italy and Scotland, where spontaneity was a daily habit, and discipline allowed me to win in work while I was winning at life.
Recently, I’ve settled into certain realities that don’t have to be so.
While routine and habit are important, if you’re focused on one thing at a time, and you work on the right things, you can do your work and experience a great, adventurous life as well.
Just because you’re ambitious in your work and you want to be a good husband or boyfriend or father, does not mean that your ambitions in other areas of life, with experiences and journeys and adventures, should cease.
If you want to increase your testosterone levels with your mind, you have to do it with your attitude and actions.
Testosterone is your ‘mojo’, and that’s something you should never relinquish, whether you’re married or a father, old or young. You need to be a man, and to be good at being a man.
When you die you’re going to regret the things you did but the things you didn’t do, especially if they’re things you didn’t do enough.
Living an adventurous life isn’t just about boosting testosterone, though that’s an effect of living in such a way. Living a daring life is living, in its truest sense. It’s feeling life, exhilaration and excitement.
About The Author
Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.