Respect is not something you are entitled to, but something you earn. To this point you may have not earned it so where most books would tell you to demand what you deserve and to put your mind in the place that is where you want to be, I say hogwash! You cannot demand the respect that a great man has, you must earn it. (Read This: You Don’t Deserve Shit)

It was once understood that anything of value had to be worked for. It was understood because the things we now take for granted had to be worked for. If you wanted to talk to a friend on the other side of town you had to walk or ride. You had to enact some form of effort. We can now text.

If you wanted milk or meat you had to hunt or fish or head to the barn and do the milking.

There has never been a sense of entitlement like there is today and entitlement is about as unmanly a thing as there is in this life. A man cannot feel entitled to anything. Entitlement is the absence of grit and toughness, it’s the incurrence of weakness. It is the pussification of a society that wants without merit.

You cannot gain anything if you feel you’re entitled to it because entitlement prevents you from giving what is necessary to acquire what you want.

Life is the capitalistic system. They do not differ.

Capitalism didn’t happen, it wasn’t the brain child of some mind, it was the evolution of the human condition, the understanding that in order to get something you have to give something of equal value. Sometimes you get something with lesser value, you get a deal. Other times you get something and you had to give something of greater value, either is subjective.

To get pride you must first work to achieve.

To develop toughness you must break yourself, your mind and your body down, then build it back up.

To get love you must give it. To make money you must do something to merit a paycheck. To man up you must stop complaining and do what needs to be done.

Entitlement rids you of the ability to do what’s necessary for success, happiness, whatever, because it’s founded on the principle that things will simply happen. No matter what has been done, who you are, whether you warrant what you want or not, entitlement dictates that you will get it because it’s “deserved”.

The primary flaw in this line of thinking is that the only way to know that something is deserved is to have it happen. The team that deserves the Stanley Cup, wins it. The fighter who deserves the title, has it. The man who deserves a million dollars in his bank account has done what is necessary to get it.

Nothing is deserved unless it has also been earned.

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Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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Chad Howse

Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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