Home Stoic 365 MAN UP: WHO ARE YOU?





It is not what he has, or even what he does which expresses the worth of a man, but what he is. Henri-Frederic Amiel

Who you are doesn’t change for a different audience.

Who you are isn’t dependent on documentation. You don’t need people watching or accountability to be great, good, disciplined, or a winner.

Your motivation to become better shouldn’t depend on an audience, either. Sure, we’ve become a culture that requires likes and shares for an event to be worth embarking upon. But that’s a fickle way to live. It’s the life of a dependent.

When the doors close and you’re alone in your office are you working or searching the internet? Are you reading, training, living, and lifting, or are you being a lazy bastard?

Who are you?

Who are you when nothing is going right?

Who are you when you have no energy, when you have no motivation?

Who are you when it’s easier to cheat than it is to stay the course?

I love John Wayne movies. I think we all do. They’re about men, and not just what men do but who men are.

Honor leads their actions. They may walk a tight rope between good and evil but honor wins in the end.

It’s who they are that dictates their actions. It’s the man they are that determines how they treat others.

They don’t stand for evil even if fighting it means trouble. They do what must be done not because it’s a rule, but because it’s what they do.

John Wayne always creates a fork in his movies, a moment where an easy path is met with the right path and the man does what’s right regardless on the impact to himself.

Today, who we are is dependent on where we are.

That’s not good. It’s not real. It isn’t consistent and when we’re thrust into a situation where right and wrong are foggy, we have no clue how to act so we act with convenience. Our honor, our goodness, our grit haven’t been clarified over years of acting with honor so when ‘the moment’ comes, we don’t act with it at all.

Spend time thinking not just about what you want to be or who you want to be or what you want to become, but who you are and who you want to be.


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Chad Howse

Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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