What should we aspire to do in life?

Every day I ask myself what should I do?

I wonder if I’m doing the right things, and more than that, the best things.

Yesterday I wrote down my perfect weekend, I sat and thought about what my ideal weekend is so as to figure out what I should do on that day. (Read This: How to Create The Perfect Day)

I ended up having a great day. I woke up early and wrote. I drove an hour to the mountains, filming videos (technically working) on the drive out. Hiked up a mountain with Teddy. Drove back home, filming more videos. Opened a beer and a book in the evening when I got back, and wrote once again.

Every second of every day we’re faced with choices. It’s crazy. Every second we’re posed with a decision to make. The more we make the best decision, the better our lives will be, the more we’ll accomplish, the more value we’ll bring to our culture.

Should I watch TV or read a book?

Should I run or walk?

Should I go for a hike or stay home and work?

What should I think about? Should I think about what I should do right now or should I think about how well others are doing? Should I envy or should I focus on my own path, journey, and work?

Before we go through things that every guy should aspire to accomplish, not just do, let’s go over one decision we must make, always.

If you wonder if it’s worth it, do it.

The Necessity of Accomplishment

The purpose of life is to live a great life. Accomplishment is a part of that, no matter what your definition of a great life is. You cannot live greatly without using your talents to their capacity. You cannot live greatly without working hard, solving problems, and persisting.

Accomplishment is what you put to use.

Now, what should you accomplish?

1. Your physical peak.

You look at a guy like Dwayne Johnson as a good model for this pursuit. He’s in better shape today than he was when he was playing football for the University of Miami. He’s also in his forties.

This quest shouldn’t cease. It doesn’t need to be a pursuit of perfection, either. It’s a matter of consistency and persistence. Make training consistent and routine and you’ll constantly improve.

The benefit is that life at your physical peak is better than life at your physical worst. Your physical peak enables you to do more at a higher quality. You can do more when you travel, you can go further, you can live more daringly.

2. Your bucket list top 5.

Bucket lists have become trivial and silly, but think about the core of what it is to make one. A bucket list should be the things you want to do before you die. That’s pretty damn important, or at least it should be.

Dig deep. Make the list. Where do you want to travel? What do you want to do when you travel? Where do you ideally want to live? What house do you want to build? What adventure do you want to partake in? (Read This: A Bucket List for a Legend)

Make it real. Forget about things, automobiles, watches, suits, stuff. Think experiences, accomplishments, victories, adventures. Making a real bucket list and limiting it to 5 things that you’re going to accomplish can be a great exercise to find clarity, but also to reclaim the excitement you once had about the possibilities of life when you were young.

3. The height of your line of work.

The internet is off while I write, so I’m not completely sure of the quote, but Martin Luther King Jr. made the point that every man should do his work as if he were Michelangelo painting the Sistine Chapel.

Set out to become the best at what you do, no matter what you do. This takes time and persistence. If you’re constantly switching jobs and careers trying to ‘find the right fit’, this isn’t going to happen, it can’t happen. It took Michelangelo, Da Vinci, and every other artist at least a decade of purposeful practice to create their first masterpiece.

Set out to create a masterpiece, not to simply exist. Whatever you’re doing right now, stick with it, become great, and the meaning will be found in the pursuit. If you’re always jumping ship you’re never going to find the meaning you want from your work, trust me.

I switched careers a lot from the ages of 20-25, when I finally settled on one I was able to create meaning where it didn’t initially exist.

4. Family.

Men are here to protect, provide, and procreate. We need more kinds raised by good fathers, we have more than enough that were had by absentee fathers or deadbeats. If you’re a good man, who will provide for his family and protect them and guide them, then please, make babies.

Having a family and raising them right, being there for them, providing for them and protecting them is a real accomplishment. It’s as great an accomplishment as a man can create in life.

If you’re a deadbeat who bucks his responsibilities, please, don’t even risk having a baby, get a vasectomy immediately.

5. The ability to discern what is real and what is false influence.

This is a real accomplishment, and one that few – especially today – ever realize. The ability to know what is true and what is false influence is increasingly rare because influence is everywhere, and our ability to understand what’s necessary for us to live our greatest life, for us to win at life, is far more difficult than ever before.

We’re influenced everywhere we go, and by everything, and even if we know how to discern good from bad and right from wrong and true from false, our friends, peers, and family, who are blindly influenced, will have an impact on us.

To know what you want in life, to know what you should pursue, usually comes at the end of one’s life.

It’s only after we’ve given our lives to making money that we realize we ignored our family, and its our family that was most important to us.

It’s only after we’ve spent out lives being safe, always choosing the safe route, the safe path, the path of least resistance, that we truly understand that life is found outside of comfort, never within it.

To be able to see where roads lead before we’ve reached the finish line is something that would serve all of us well.

6. Being a man of virtue no matter the situation.

Being consistent in virtue is rare. Most ebb and flow with the circumstance. They morph and change to suit themselves.

Be a man of virtue, no matter the reward. Do your best, regardless of personal acclaim.

Be the constant courage amidst cowardice. Do the right thing, always.

7. Victory over your greatest weakness.

What do you not have control over?

Are you addicted to booze? Do you have control over your finances, what you spend and why you spend it? Are you addicted to porn or sex or eating or smoking or gambling?

To gain control over what you have no control over, is victory.

Maybe your self-talk is horrible. Maybe you’re prone to sadness or depression or a negative way of thinking. You have control over your thoughts.

You may not have control over an event, but in your back pocket is the power to respond to it however you like.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

You can contact him at –



“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality.” – Seneca

I saw a study somewhere, I can’t remember and my internet’s off right now as I write, that showed how our brain acts when it’s tired. It becomes completely irrational. Hence, the worries and fears that crop up at night as we’re lying in bed that keep us awake and prevent us from performing at our best the following day.

Fears, for the most part, whether they’re conjured at night in bed, or during the day or when we start our day, are illogical.

We suffer more often in imagination than in reality, and even our very real sufferings can be a matter of perspective.

1. Be real.

The two best books I’ve come across on suffering don’t prescribe an unrealistic view of what’s occurring. Accept where you are. Accept everything about it, both good and bad. Don’t be ignorant of your reality.

You are where you are for a reason. It is your job to make the best of the situation. You see the glass as both half full and half empty. You accept tragedy for what it is, but you also see the futility in brooding over it. Do the best with what you have and where you are, it’s stupid to wish you were someone else, living someone else’s life.

2. Don’t be an optimist.

Don’t expect something to happen at a certain date. Those ‘two best books’ are Man’s Search for Meaning and Thoughts of a Philosophical Fighter Pilot.

Both authors were unjustly imprisoned. Both authors noticed that the optimists were most likely to go crazy because they had illogical expectations of what was going to happen. They had expectations that were out of their control. That is, they expected to be freed at a certain date. This is how they coped with their imprisonment. When that date arrived and they weren’t free, they lost it.

We build worry, fear, and depression by dreaming and wishing about things that are completely out of our control. We get down on ourselves when we don’t accomplish what we set out to accomplish by the date we aimed to accomplish it at. It’s a product of a society that praises youth over experience and wisdom, that can have all of its needs met in an instant, that can buy something without actually having the money necessary to pay for it in full.

Don’t expect what isn’t under your control. Your job is to be very good every day of your life. What you want will likely come as a result of who you are. Don’t quit because it hasn’t arrived when you wanted it to arrive. You’re better than that.

3. Write down your illogical fears.

Our brains can be assholes. It’s important to shine a light on the prick and the idiocy of what it’s conjuring.

It’s a simple thing, but writing down your fear can be powerful. Seeing it in print exposes it for how illogical it is. Often times the fear can be prevented by us with discipline and persistence.

Next time you’re worried about something, write it down, then write down the logical conclusion and the things you can do to create and even better results.

4. Work your ass off.

If you’re busy, if you’re engaged in your own self-improvement, if you’re trying to become better at something, if you’re consistently practicing, you cannot spare the mental space that worry takes up.

Listen, I’ve been a lazy arse at times in my life. I’ve had self-pity. I’ve been a pussy. There’s absolutely no point to it. There’s no point to laziness. There’s no benefit to waiting around, waiting for something good to happen.

Life is so fucking short, to spend it being lazy does nothing for you. It’s better to live 30 years as a warrior, as a guy who hunts down what he wants than it is to live 100 years as a lazy ass coward. It makes absolutely no sense not to work your ass off.

Find something you want to do, and become great at it.

Or, take whatever you’re doing right now, whether it’s being a student, a plumber, a construction worker, a teacher, a writer, a father, and become great at that. The thing rarely matters. We make it matter.

Too many people spend their lives trying to find themselves. It’s stupid. So stupid. Create yourself. Take pride in whatever you do, whenever you’re doing it. The object of that pride is of little consequence. (Read This: Forget Finding Your Passion. Just Work.)

If you’re trying to do your best at whatever you’re engaged in, you’re not going to have the mental capacity to worry, it just won’t fit in your brain.

5. See life as a warrior does.

Life is a series of challenges; it is not a series of curses.

As a damn man you cannot pity yourself, within you is too much potential to have pity. It’s up to you to realize that potential, to conquer the challenges you face in life. These challenges, however, are not curses, they are not things happening to you, but things that you can react to however you want. React to them like a warrior, not like a coward.

7. Stop being a pussy.

Stop being afraid. It’s a choice to be afraid. It’s a choice to be small and timid. Be a man.

It really is that simple. Make the choice to be a warrior. Make the choice to face your fears like a man. Accept both the best outcome and the worst as a part of your learning. Stop worrying. Stop fearing. Stop being timid.

8. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.

Worry can come from comparing our situation to others. The thing is, we never truly know the situation that others have, nor do we see the place we’re in objectively.

A simple thing you can do is to write down 3 things that happened in the past 24 hours that you’re grateful for.

Do that every day and you cannot help but appreciate where you are and what you have.

9. Don’t buy things you don’t need.

Don’t spend money like an idiot. Don’t spend money like a consumer, trying to impress people you don’t really need to be impressing.

So much of what we worry about today is financial. It doesn’t have to be. You don’t need to make a lot of money to become wealthy, you just need to budget, invest, and have patience and discipline. (Read This: How to Spend Your Money Like a Winner)

Spending money on things that depreciate will bring you more worry. It’s self-inflicted nonsense. Don’t be that guy. Save, invest, work hard, and know what really matters in life.

It isn’t the things you own, but the experiences you’ve had, the people that you influence and have in your life, and what you do.

10. Focus on the task, not the outcome.

By focusing on the process, on practicing, on doing what you’re doing as best you can, you don’t have room to worry about its outcome.

When you focus on the outcome you brings yourself out of the present, and into a state where worry can thrive.

Focus on where you are right now, on what you’re doing, and nothing else, ever. As soon as you think about the outcome, you’ve lost.

On a bigger scale, with your life, focus on where you are and being the best you can be where you are. Don’t dwell on where you want to be. That constant pulling yourself out of the present leads to worry and fear.

Listen, if you work hard, work smart, and are consistently good, you’re going to be alright. You don’t have to worry about what life throws at you.

11. Accept that bad things will happen.

Bad things are not bad, they are merely things.

They are not evil. They happen. Your friends and family will die. Someone you know will get cancer. Something horrible will happen at some point. Don’t worry about it happening. It’s going to happen, and you’re going to deal with it. (Read This: Life Is Hard. Deal With It)

Enjoy the people you have while they’re here and while you’re here.

To make the best of your time here you cannot give a second of it to worry. Don’t let that bastard take up your time or energy. It’s under your control. Don’t allow it to win.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

You can contact him at –



How to Define Success

We’re more influenced than ever before in our history as humans. Success used to mean survival. At times it’s meant something as simple as victory in battle or living to a certain age or having a certain number of kids to carry on your name.

Today, however, we’re told what success is in every facet of life. Our parents have their opinion of what it looks like, as do our friends and foes and peers. Our TV’s tell us what success is. Magazines tell us what to aspire to own. (Read This: Don’t Follow The Rest of Society)

The truth is, however, that success is defined by you, and you either craft a vision of what victory is based on what you really want, or you let other influences tell you what to aspire to achieve.

One version of success will lead to meaning, purpose, and being a man of value. It will be an abundance of things that are genuinely important.

The other version is based on consuming things you don’t need and trying to impress people you may genuinely not care about – you may not even like them in the slightest.

Your Definition 

You have to define your own verdict of what victory is, and it has to be true to who you are and the life you want to lead. It has to be your definition. Your folks should raise you rightly to seek things of real value, like family, friends, being great at what you do for work, building wealth instead of purchasing possessions, but victory still has to be decided by you.

Now, define it.

Picture your perfect life. (Read This: How to Create The Perfect Day)

There are no boundaries in what you can have or where you can live or the lady you can have by your side.

Choose things you genuinely want, and not things you want because you want to show others everything you’ve achieved.

As a guideline, my idea of victory in life is as follows…

I rise early, between 4am and 5am. I walk downstairs. My house is big, but the best part is that I can’t see my neighbors. I’m on 100 achres and I’ve got it all to myself, with the family, of course. I make a coffee, bring it outside to the porch where I read before the sun rises under the porch light. Then I work. I work for 2 hours until the lady gets up. The things are nice, but that’s not the aspiration, the life is the goal. The pace, the place, the space, the people, the work. I know that a certain level of comfort is good, but opulence doesn’t really improve the quality of life or your degree of happiness.

The problem is that as I am right now, I’m surrounded by someone else’s view of success. Every time I turn on the TV or see a pal or walk through my neighbourhood, there are influences trying to tell me what to aspire to have, few, however, push me to know what to be.

It isn’t much of a problem now because it’s something I actively think about – whether or not I’m heading in the right direction and pursuing the right things – but for a long time I just did what was expected of a guy in his twenties. I sought what I was told to seek. Living life on someone else’s terms, whether it’s going to college simply because that’s what’s expected of you, or buying clothes to fit in with a certain crowd, or a car or truck or house to show how well you’re doing, won’t bring you peace.

In the end we just want peace. We want the pace, the purpose, the space, the meaning that I briefly described earlier. We want to do something that excites us, for us, for our family, not to compare to what our neighbour is doing or has.

Your Definition as You Are Now 

Rather than waiting to become, be.

Forget the place you want to be or the things you want to own or the life you eventually want to have, it’s all dependent on today.

Now, picture your perfect day with who you are and what you have, now.

That is, where you live, what you drive, who you’re with, and so forth. Think about perfection. Think about the best way to spend your day – work and training included in it – if you had to live this day every day for the remainder of your life (so it’s not a flight to Vegas that you’ll regret upon return).

How does your work day go? What time do you wake up? What time do you shut your work day down? Do you train, run, hike? Think about the pace to your day, it’s likely not rushed even though it’s effective.

Think about this day.

You can have your perfect day today, it doesn’t need to be something you continually push to the future.

Your idea of success depends on your creating this day, every day, and it can be done.

Spend a Day and Define Victory

Go big or go home. Even though my idea of success in terms of where I want to live and what I want to live in and what I want to drive and so forth is attainable, the means to getting there is audacious. The adventures I want to be a part of my life are going to be tough to accomplish, heck, they scare the crap out of me, thus, they have to be pursued.

This notion of not wanting things cannot mean that the life you want to lead is somehow less ambitious. Going big is the only way to prevent regret.

You can fail. Failure isn’t the worst thing in the world, never trying is.

Spend a day thinking about what you really want to do, the life you want to lead, the massive things you want to accomplish. Be real with yourself. Think big, but don’t let outside forces thrust you into pursuits that are not your own.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

You can contact him at –



Your success is too important to have it be influenced by desires, emotions, even energy levels or marketing. (Read This: Fight Your Desires)

To have our daily actions not defined by set-in-stone laws that govern how we work and act and the decisions we make daily is to let life’s current push us to and fro, whereas success demands that we consistently and persistently improve.

The problem is that we see words like laws, rules, or discipline, and we think restriction. That is wrong. Sure, laws of the government are often made to enact control on its citizenry, but laws that we define are designed to remove the barriers that prevent the majority from living as they could.

Most people are not following the path they’d ideally like to follow. Most people do not perform at their best every day. Most people are influenced by their own emotions and lack the discipline to react to said emotions in a manner that will help them improve.

Most people are led by immediate desires to the behest of the greater desire to win in life and business. More often than not, immediate desires pull us away from the overall desire of victory.

Rules get between the bad desires and our actions. Rules push us only toward the desire to win. Rules are not intentions. They are not suggestions. The rules for your life are set-in-stone. You do not follow them when you wish and ignore them when it’s convenient.

If you truly want to win at life, craft rules for your own life and your own vision of victory, and then live by them daily.

Benjamin Franklin’s Virtues

Benjamin Franklin saw his actions as his vehicle to success. Too many of us see our success based on chance or luck or how we act in a moment of opportunity. If you simply look through history you’ll see that great success is dependent on who you are every single day.

Andrew Carnegie, John D. Rockefeller, and Benjamin Franklin didn’t win on the back of a lottery ticket or a moment of opportunity. Their habits, who they were every day, let them achieve incredible success and each from very humble beginnings.

It isn’t where you’re born, but who you are that will help you either win or lose in life.

Benjamin Franklin saw that, if he were to win, he’d have to clearly define how he was to act. He became what he wanted to become before he had what he wanted to have.

That’s the ‘secret’ to success; become the man worthy of the life you want, don’t wait for time or experience to forge this human, this persona, this being, instead, be him now.

To do that he knew he needed guidelines, a sort of road map to success, a guide that would keep him on the correct path and help him avoid the pitfalls that claim too many.

Here are the 13 virtues that Franklin lived:

  1. Temperance. Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
  2. Silence. Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.
  3. Order. Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
  4. Resolution. Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
  5. Frugality. Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.
  6. Industry. Lose no time; be always employ’d in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
  7. Sincerity. Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
  8. Justice. Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
  9. Moderation. Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
  10. Cleanliness. Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, cloaths, or habitation.
  11. Tranquillity. Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
  12. Chastity. Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation.
  13. Humility. Imitate Jesus and Socrates.

In these virtues Franklin found an answer to every problem he confronted.

This is the benefit of having rules for your life. When our minds trick us into wanting or doing something that isn’t in our best interest long term (which is all that should matter), our rules can bring us back to the right path.

Rules for Men

Rules aren’t necessary if you’re simply after what everyone else is after. You don’t need rules for your life if you don’t care about being as productive as you can possibly be, as free as you can possibly be, as successful as you can be.

Rules define who you are no matter how things are going because no matter your energy levels, no matter how motivated you are, no matter how successful you are in this moment, you act as if you’re already the guy worthy of the life you want to live.

Rules are defined by that guy, the best guy you can be, not who you currently are.

Thus, each of these rules are modeled after the goal, the person we’re trying to become, not bound by the traps we fall currently fall into. They’re also performance-based. Each rule exists to help you and I produce more, more efficiently, and to become better at what we do with our time, be it work or play.

1. Rise early

Waking up early gives you more control over your day.  You can get a lot of done in the wee hours before distractions wake up and start texting, calling, and emailing you. There’s also a slower pace to the day, which we’ll get into later.

This slower pace doesn’t mean less is accomplished, quite the contrary. More is produced in less time because you’re able to focus better than you are when the distractors are awake, and when you’re in a rush to complete what you’ve set out to do.

Waking up early – between 4 and 5am – has greatly reduced stress in my life, increased productivity, and given me more freedom. Winning the first couple of hours of the day inevitably means winning the rest of the day, and to win your days repeatedly is to win at life.

2. Have a plan for every day

Without a plan for the day I let the day make the plan for me. It doesn’t work well. I end up doing medial tasks in avoidance of the bigger jobs I should be focused on.

Plan every minute of the day, and end it at the same time every day. Having a firm end to the day gives you a deadline, and if you’re an entrepreneur you’ll know how work can spill over to your personal life and ruin it. Plan the day. End the day. (Read This: How to Create The Perfect Day)

3. Workout every day

Do something active every day. It’s not just about building a better, stronger, healthier body, but about the endorphins and chemicals that the body releases during exercise. Consistent exercise helps improve the quality of my work, and you see the same with many others.

Do something. Follow a strength training program 3-5 days a week, run the others, do a sport, something, anything that will get you out of the house or office and active.

We’ve never moved less as humans, and our testosterone levels, health, and athleticism is plummeting as a result. Be different. Train your body so both it and your mind will be elite.

4. Read 30 pages every day

When this is a habit, I have more to write about, I get more ideas for projects, I’m able to reflect on personal and societal problems if I’m looking at history. Reading is therapy, it’s learning, it’s travel without actually having to go anywhere. Thirty pages a day works out to about a normal sized book per week.

5. Be thankful daily

Practicing gratitude at the end and the beginning of the day puts your mind in a positive, open state. When we’re focused on all that’s going wrong in our lives it’s nearly impossible to recognize the opportunities that inevitably cross our paths.

Simple write down 3 good things that have happened within the last 24 hours.

6. Focus on one thing at a time

I have to actively do this by turning the internet off when I’m writing, and by putting my phone away when I’m with the lady or pals or family. (Check This Out: The ‘Put Your Phone Down’ Challenge)

Trying to do more than one thing at a time is useless. Something has to be degraded. You’re not going to do two things at the same time as well as or as fast as you would if you’d focus on a single thing at a time, that goes for work, hobbies, adventures, and family time.

7. Review goals daily

Do this every morning and again as you shut down for the day. Energy comes from being excited about what you’re doing and where you’re heading. I get a big surge in energy when something I’ve been working on for a while, works. I also need to do this to make sure I’m focusing on the right things, not just anything.

Make sure you’re on the right track and that you’re excited about what you’re pursuing by keeping it always at the front of your mind.

8. Move slowly

This is a new rule in my life, but one that removes stress and increases productivity and clarity, oddly enough. It’s a matter of being purposeful and not needlessly rushed or ‘busy’. Everyone likes to say they’re ‘busy’, even if they’re being busy at things that don’t improve their station in life.

Busy is working, or so we’re told. Being busy, however, is rarely being productive. Being productive is all that matters. By focusing on one thing at a time and by moving more slowly, you’re going to think more clearly, have less stress in your life, and you’re going to do more work that’s at a higher quality. (Listen to This: Why Being Busy Is Keeping You Broke)

When I get away from this the stress piles up, the tasks pile up, and the work suffers

9. Never envy. Never gossip.

You have to have your own shit going on, in a big way. If you’re not after something big, even if it’s creating a good life for your family, if you’re not you can’t help but look at others, what they have, what they’re doing, and it’s a complete and utter waste of time.

No ounce of envy nor time spent gossiping is good. Don’t do it, not even for a second.

Be Who You Aim to Become

Determine what you want to do in life and what you want to be and what you want to accomplish, then figure out who the guy is that will accomplish this stuff, whatever it is.

That guy should be found in your rules.

The essence of the rules above is to simple focus on what you should be focusing on, and leave what doesn’t warrant your time or attention. If that’s done, you’re going to win in life, it will only be a matter of time.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

You can contact him at –



There are certain things that every man should be able to do. They’re baseline skills and characteristics that form either what it is to be a good man or what it is to be good at being a man.

Here are 20 such things. Add more in the comments section. Let me know where you agree or disagree there as well. And by all means, like and share this article if you wish.

1. Find meaning in suffering

To be a man is to endure what others cannot. Every man should read Man’s Search for Meaning, for an explanation of what it is to find meaning in suffering, but also Unbroken, to understand that no matter what we’re going through, it could be both worse and others have endured worse and come out better for it. Whatever you’re embroiled in, seek the meaning of it, seek the challenge within it, and turn it into something that strengthens you.

2. Bear any burden

We’re asked to not only bear our own troubles but to take on those of others and aid them in their difficulty. Know this. It isn’t just about you, but about those who depend on you.

3. Identify what he wants vs what society tells him to want

A man knows what he wants and who he is. He isn’t on quests to find himself, instead, he creates himself based on the ideal he’s set forth and the goals he aspires to achieve. These goals are not society’s goals. They are not to consume or to be a peacock, a man of show and little worth. A man must set his own course and not be swayed by the trends that society, especially a consumer society, sets for him.

4. Fight

Learn to defend yourself and those under your care even if they don’t know that they’re under your care. Men, we have testosterone coursing through our bodies, this creates denser bones, greater musculature, and a greater ability to fight.

Use this ability. We are seeing women all over the world being raped and assaulted and punished by a warped ideology, stand up to it, defeat it. (Read This: Why You Need to Fight)

5. Save

Build wealth, not possessions. Valuables aren’t actually valuable unless they’re silver, wine, art, or gold – or stocks.

6. Invest

Invest in things that will increase your wealth, not your social status. Social status is a myth. It’s something founded on image and opinion, not on reality. The more you seem to be worth or have, or the more style or taste you have, the greater your status – perceived status, of course. Have the skill and the guts to ignore such idiotic pursuits and instead invest in things that grow.

7. Earn

Earning money isn’t the most important thing on the planet, but you should be able to earn enough to feed your family and so forth. Money doesn’t measure a man, but there are so many ways to make money today that every guy should have a grasp on how to do it to a degree. (Read This: How to Spend Your Money Like a Winner)

8. Use a gun

Bad guys have guns. Learn how to use them better than those bastards. To ignore the realities of the violence in this world is to be ignorant and unwilling to fulfill your role.

9. Change oil and other auto basics

Self-reliance of any kind, be it protecting your family or maintaining your own house and land, is necessary.

The more self-reliant you are, the better. Being able to, for example, fix your vehicle if it breaks down is a yuge advantage because, as we all know, those bastards break down at the worst time.

10. Not gossip

You should have the ability to completely avoid gossip. It’s a useless use of conversation. Don’t do it, ever.

11. Know his annual budget

Your finances should be planned. The mode of spending what you have leads to stress and dependence, but without a plan it’s incredibly difficult to save and invest enough to gain financial freedom.

12. Deadlift and squat 225 lbs

As a bare minimum, every able-bodied guy should be able to do this. If you’re young and in shape, you should be able to do a lot more for each exercise. Men have testosterone, it’s a hormone that gives us a greater capacity for strength than our wonderful female counterparts. This innate ability to get stronger shouldn’t be wasted. Get stronger, tougher, manlier.

13. Solve problems around the house

Self-reliance is ideal. The more you can do on your own without having to call someone else to help, the better off you are. The only way to learn is to try. Youtube is an insane invention for the ‘do-it-yourself’ type or the wannabe. There’s a video explaining nearly everything.

14. Read at least a book a month

Reading exposes us to new ways of thinking, and to history. It seems as though we’re ignoring history more and more these days, when everything is cyclical. To avoid making the same mistakes over and over again we need to study war and history. Don’t follow this trend to sweep history under the rug, the same things happen over and over but under different circumstances. No matter what’s going on, there’s usually a solution somewhere in our past.

15. Hunt

Big game is far healthier than anything you’ll find in a grocery store or butcher, it’s not even close.

Hunting is much more than an experience where you kill your own food, though, it’s getting out into nature in the best way possible. You’re tracking and pursuit and killing, gutting, and transporting. It’s what men have done for thousands of years.

16. Fish

Along the same logic, if you can find your own food you’re not only going to live a healthier life, but it’s an act that connects us to what men have done for as long as men have been men. There’s a peace that you find in nature that you just cannot find in cities, as well. Teach a man to fish…

17. Survive

Some men are born into harsher places than others. Some men have to learn how to survive as it’s an everyday struggle. Every man, though, should test himself in ways that questions whether or not he wants to continue. Every man should spend time in nature, get lost, put himself into dicey situations, travel to new parts of the world and experience different ways of life. Every man should expand his capabilities of all kinds, whether it be hunting, camping, fishing, or earning a buck when his back’s against the wall. A man doesn’t quit, he keeps pushing even if that struggle lasts a lifetime (Read: Man’s Search for Meaning).

18. Find the good in the impossibly horrible.

Man’s Search for Meaning, Unbroken, and Meditations – or any book by or about Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and Epictetus – will provide a map for how to at least find the opportunity where others see crisis. The Obstacle is the Way is another great book that takes ancient wisdom and gives it to the reader in a way that he can apply daily, to any disaster. The point is that there’s always a choice to how we see things and how we react to them. Choose to see them from a place of power, control. See events as a challenge, never as a curse.

19. Be self-aware.

Few know their strengths and are genuinely aware of their weakness. Fewer still are awake to how they’re perceived or viewed by others. Most people live in their own world, in a bubble, that prevents growth and honesty. Like most good, necessary qualities, self-awareness is a necessity if you want to be at your best, both in your character and your accomplishment.

20. Make the difficult decision.

Most people want to make the popular decision. This is what politics in the west has primarily become. Men make the best decision as they see it, popularity or ease plays no role. This has to include choices you make in your own life and for yourself. Don’t make the easy decision. Don’t choose ease. Don’t choose the desire in the present, choose the decision that will bring you the most in your life’s entirety. The best decision, the one that makes you stronger, tougher, better, and more successful, is rarely the easiest one to make or the easiest path to follow

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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There’s a myth that we all hold…

Each of us thinks and dreams that when the time comes we’ll rise to the occasion.

The occasion can be a job interview, an economic crisis, a financial crisis in our own homes or a fight that needs to be fought. The truth is that none of us rise to the occasion, we simply fall back on our training.

If you lack training, you’ll fall back and into the bad habits you’ve already created.

Your ‘training’ is your habits and what you practice. If you expect to rise to the occasion and defend your family, then you’d best start training how to fight or how to use a gun in stressful situations. If you expect to rise to the occasion when you face a financial crisis in your life you’d best start practicing frugality today, heck, why not just stop doing the things that will lead you to a financial crisis in the first place?

Save, invest, and don’t get caught up in the consumerism trap, one where image is more important than wealth and worth and value.

No, you won’t rise to the occasion, at least not if you don’t train and prepare yourself to be equipped to do so in the first place.

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