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Don’t Forgive. Don’t Forget.




I saw on a recent podcast a story about a guy cave diving. One of the rules in cave diving is that if someone – or both divers – get in trouble, and one starts panicking, you save yourself.

You save yourself because that’s who you’re responsible for.

In situations like that, when you even try to help the guy in a panic, it often leads to both guys losing their lives.

Save yourself.

Focus on yourself.

This goes more to friends that bring you down than anything else.

Be the guy that runs into the burning building. Be the guy that lays his life on the line. You train and lift and practice for that stuff. Don’t be the guy who gets pulled down by losers because he attempts to help those who don’t actually want it.

Be your own man. Cut the cords of people who want to bring you down with them. Move upward, onward, and forward.

Now, don’t forgive and don’t forget.

I put that subject in the title because of what happened on September 11, 2001.

Some things should never be forgotten.

Some things should never be forgiven.

We should not forget the men who ran back into the buildings to save lives, risking and often losing their own in the process.

We should not forget who hijacked the planes and drove them into those buildings. We should not forget who sent them and trained them and the ideology that bred them.

We should not forget the near 3,000 men and women, fathers, sons, mothers, sisters, that we caught in burning buildings that collapsed.

Forgiveness should not be given to those who trained and sent those terrorists to kill innocent victims.

We should not have short memories in instances like this.

We should teach what really happened in our schools. We should keep memories alive. We should not forgive and we should not forget.

We cannot forget the men and women who, after the attacks, walked into recruitment centers all over America and joined up to fight.

We can’t forget those who joined and died, truly sacrificing everything for something they believed in.

We have to remain alert, diligent, and victorious.

When it comes to revenge, while the destruction of such enemies mentioned is necessary, true and great revenge comes best – or also – in one’s own victory.

If someone wrongs you, your best course of revenge is to be victorious, to leave them in the dust, to turn them into envious onlookers and you dominate life.

In part, that’s what has to be done to honor those who died and who signed up to fight, you have to win.

Get up.

Get after it.

Get victory.

Honor those who can no longer do the same.

Be Legendary,

Chad Howse


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Chad Howse

Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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