9 RULES EVERY AMBITIOUS MAN SHOULD FOLLOW

9 RULES EVERY AMBITIOUS MAN SHOULD FOLLOW

Your success is too important to have it be influenced by desires, emotions, even energy levels or marketing. (Read This: Fight Your Desires)

To have our daily actions not defined by set-in-stone laws that govern how we work and act and the decisions we make daily is to let life’s current push us to and fro, whereas success demands that we consistently and persistently improve.

The problem is that we see words like laws, rules, or discipline, and we think restriction. That is wrong. Sure, laws of the government are often made to enact control on its citizenry, but laws that we define are designed to remove the barriers that prevent the majority from living as they could.

Most people are not following the path they’d ideally like to follow. Most people do not perform at their best every day. Most people are influenced by their own emotions and lack the discipline to react to said emotions in a manner that will help them improve.

Most people are led by immediate desires to the behest of the greater desire to win in life and business. More often than not, immediate desires pull us away from the overall desire of victory.

Rules get between the bad desires and our actions. Rules push us only toward the desire to win. Rules are not intentions. They are not suggestions. The rules for your life are set-in-stone. You do not follow them when you wish and ignore them when it’s convenient.

If you truly want to win at life, craft rules for your own life and your own vision of victory, and then live by them daily.

Benjamin Franklin’s Virtues

Benjamin Franklin saw his actions as his vehicle to success. Too many of us see our success based on chance or luck or how we act in a moment of opportunity. If you simply look through history you’ll see that great success is dependent on who you are every single day.

Andrew Carnegie, John D. Rockefeller, and Benjamin Franklin didn’t win on the back of a lottery ticket or a moment of opportunity. Their habits, who they were every day, let them achieve incredible success and each from very humble beginnings.

It isn’t where you’re born, but who you are that will help you either win or lose in life.

Benjamin Franklin saw that, if he were to win, he’d have to clearly define how he was to act. He became what he wanted to become before he had what he wanted to have.

That’s the ‘secret’ to success; become the man worthy of the life you want, don’t wait for time or experience to forge this human, this persona, this being, instead, be him now.

To do that he knew he needed guidelines, a sort of road map to success, a guide that would keep him on the correct path and help him avoid the pitfalls that claim too many.

Here are the 13 virtues that Franklin lived:

  1. Temperance. Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.
  2. Silence. Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.
  3. Order. Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.
  4. Resolution. Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.
  5. Frugality. Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.
  6. Industry. Lose no time; be always employ’d in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.
  7. Sincerity. Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
  8. Justice. Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.
  9. Moderation. Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.
  10. Cleanliness. Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, cloaths, or habitation.
  11. Tranquillity. Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.
  12. Chastity. Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation.
  13. Humility. Imitate Jesus and Socrates.

In these virtues Franklin found an answer to every problem he confronted.

This is the benefit of having rules for your life. When our minds trick us into wanting or doing something that isn’t in our best interest long term (which is all that should matter), our rules can bring us back to the right path.

Rules for Men

Rules aren’t necessary if you’re simply after what everyone else is after. You don’t need rules for your life if you don’t care about being as productive as you can possibly be, as free as you can possibly be, as successful as you can be.

Rules define who you are no matter how things are going because no matter your energy levels, no matter how motivated you are, no matter how successful you are in this moment, you act as if you’re already the guy worthy of the life you want to live.

Rules are defined by that guy, the best guy you can be, not who you currently are.

Thus, each of these rules are modeled after the goal, the person we’re trying to become, not bound by the traps we fall currently fall into. They’re also performance-based. Each rule exists to help you and I produce more, more efficiently, and to become better at what we do with our time, be it work or play.

1. Rise early

Waking up early gives you more control over your day.  You can get a lot of done in the wee hours before distractions wake up and start texting, calling, and emailing you. There’s also a slower pace to the day, which we’ll get into later.

This slower pace doesn’t mean less is accomplished, quite the contrary. More is produced in less time because you’re able to focus better than you are when the distractors are awake, and when you’re in a rush to complete what you’ve set out to do.

Waking up early – between 4 and 5am – has greatly reduced stress in my life, increased productivity, and given me more freedom. Winning the first couple of hours of the day inevitably means winning the rest of the day, and to win your days repeatedly is to win at life.

2. Have a plan for every day

Without a plan for the day I let the day make the plan for me. It doesn’t work well. I end up doing medial tasks in avoidance of the bigger jobs I should be focused on.

Plan every minute of the day, and end it at the same time every day. Having a firm end to the day gives you a deadline, and if you’re an entrepreneur you’ll know how work can spill over to your personal life and ruin it. Plan the day. End the day. (Read This: How to Create The Perfect Day)

3. Workout every day

Do something active every day. It’s not just about building a better, stronger, healthier body, but about the endorphins and chemicals that the body releases during exercise. Consistent exercise helps improve the quality of my work, and you see the same with many others.

Do something. Follow a strength training program 3-5 days a week, run the others, do a sport, something, anything that will get you out of the house or office and active.

We’ve never moved less as humans, and our testosterone levels, health, and athleticism is plummeting as a result. Be different. Train your body so both it and your mind will be elite.

4. Read 30 pages every day

When this is a habit, I have more to write about, I get more ideas for projects, I’m able to reflect on personal and societal problems if I’m looking at history. Reading is therapy, it’s learning, it’s travel without actually having to go anywhere. Thirty pages a day works out to about a normal sized book per week.

5. Be thankful daily

Practicing gratitude at the end and the beginning of the day puts your mind in a positive, open state. When we’re focused on all that’s going wrong in our lives it’s nearly impossible to recognize the opportunities that inevitably cross our paths.

Simple write down 3 good things that have happened within the last 24 hours.

6. Focus on one thing at a time

I have to actively do this by turning the internet off when I’m writing, and by putting my phone away when I’m with the lady or pals or family. (Check This Out: The ‘Put Your Phone Down’ Challenge)

Trying to do more than one thing at a time is useless. Something has to be degraded. You’re not going to do two things at the same time as well as or as fast as you would if you’d focus on a single thing at a time, that goes for work, hobbies, adventures, and family time.

7. Review goals daily

Do this every morning and again as you shut down for the day. Energy comes from being excited about what you’re doing and where you’re heading. I get a big surge in energy when something I’ve been working on for a while, works. I also need to do this to make sure I’m focusing on the right things, not just anything.

Make sure you’re on the right track and that you’re excited about what you’re pursuing by keeping it always at the front of your mind.

8. Move slowly

This is a new rule in my life, but one that removes stress and increases productivity and clarity, oddly enough. It’s a matter of being purposeful and not needlessly rushed or ‘busy’. Everyone likes to say they’re ‘busy’, even if they’re being busy at things that don’t improve their station in life.

Busy is working, or so we’re told. Being busy, however, is rarely being productive. Being productive is all that matters. By focusing on one thing at a time and by moving more slowly, you’re going to think more clearly, have less stress in your life, and you’re going to do more work that’s at a higher quality. (Listen to This: Why Being Busy Is Keeping You Broke)

When I get away from this the stress piles up, the tasks pile up, and the work suffers

9. Never envy. Never gossip.

You have to have your own shit going on, in a big way. If you’re not after something big, even if it’s creating a good life for your family, if you’re not you can’t help but look at others, what they have, what they’re doing, and it’s a complete and utter waste of time.

No ounce of envy nor time spent gossiping is good. Don’t do it, not even for a second.

Be Who You Aim to Become

Determine what you want to do in life and what you want to be and what you want to accomplish, then figure out who the guy is that will accomplish this stuff, whatever it is.

That guy should be found in your rules.

The essence of the rules above is to simple focus on what you should be focusing on, and leave what doesn’t warrant your time or attention. If that’s done, you’re going to win in life, it will only be a matter of time.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

You can contact him at –
http://www.ChadHowseFitness.com/
https://www.Facebook.com/ChadHowseFitness
https://www.YouTube.com/ChadHowseFitness

20 THINGS EVERY MAN SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO

20 THINGS EVERY MAN SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO

There are certain things that every man should be able to do. They’re baseline skills and characteristics that form either what it is to be a good man or what it is to be good at being a man.

Here are 20 such things. Add more in the comments section. Let me know where you agree or disagree there as well. And by all means, like and share this article if you wish.

1. Find meaning in suffering

To be a man is to endure what others cannot. Every man should read Man’s Search for Meaning, for an explanation of what it is to find meaning in suffering, but also Unbroken, to understand that no matter what we’re going through, it could be both worse and others have endured worse and come out better for it. Whatever you’re embroiled in, seek the meaning of it, seek the challenge within it, and turn it into something that strengthens you.

2. Bear any burden

We’re asked to not only bear our own troubles but to take on those of others and aid them in their difficulty. Know this. It isn’t just about you, but about those who depend on you.

3. Identify what he wants vs what society tells him to want

A man knows what he wants and who he is. He isn’t on quests to find himself, instead, he creates himself based on the ideal he’s set forth and the goals he aspires to achieve. These goals are not society’s goals. They are not to consume or to be a peacock, a man of show and little worth. A man must set his own course and not be swayed by the trends that society, especially a consumer society, sets for him.

4. Fight

Learn to defend yourself and those under your care even if they don’t know that they’re under your care. Men, we have testosterone coursing through our bodies, this creates denser bones, greater musculature, and a greater ability to fight.

Use this ability. We are seeing women all over the world being raped and assaulted and punished by a warped ideology, stand up to it, defeat it. (Read This: Why You Need to Fight)

5. Save

Build wealth, not possessions. Valuables aren’t actually valuable unless they’re silver, wine, art, or gold – or stocks.

6. Invest

Invest in things that will increase your wealth, not your social status. Social status is a myth. It’s something founded on image and opinion, not on reality. The more you seem to be worth or have, or the more style or taste you have, the greater your status – perceived status, of course. Have the skill and the guts to ignore such idiotic pursuits and instead invest in things that grow.

7. Earn

Earning money isn’t the most important thing on the planet, but you should be able to earn enough to feed your family and so forth. Money doesn’t measure a man, but there are so many ways to make money today that every guy should have a grasp on how to do it to a degree. (Read This: How to Spend Your Money Like a Winner)

8. Use a gun

Bad guys have guns. Learn how to use them better than those bastards. To ignore the realities of the violence in this world is to be ignorant and unwilling to fulfill your role.

9. Change oil and other auto basics

Self-reliance of any kind, be it protecting your family or maintaining your own house and land, is necessary.

The more self-reliant you are, the better. Being able to, for example, fix your vehicle if it breaks down is a yuge advantage because, as we all know, those bastards break down at the worst time.

10. Not gossip

You should have the ability to completely avoid gossip. It’s a useless use of conversation. Don’t do it, ever.

11. Know his annual budget

Your finances should be planned. The mode of spending what you have leads to stress and dependence, but without a plan it’s incredibly difficult to save and invest enough to gain financial freedom.

12. Deadlift and squat 225 lbs

As a bare minimum, every able-bodied guy should be able to do this. If you’re young and in shape, you should be able to do a lot more for each exercise. Men have testosterone, it’s a hormone that gives us a greater capacity for strength than our wonderful female counterparts. This innate ability to get stronger shouldn’t be wasted. Get stronger, tougher, manlier.

13. Solve problems around the house

Self-reliance is ideal. The more you can do on your own without having to call someone else to help, the better off you are. The only way to learn is to try. Youtube is an insane invention for the ‘do-it-yourself’ type or the wannabe. There’s a video explaining nearly everything.

14. Read at least a book a month

Reading exposes us to new ways of thinking, and to history. It seems as though we’re ignoring history more and more these days, when everything is cyclical. To avoid making the same mistakes over and over again we need to study war and history. Don’t follow this trend to sweep history under the rug, the same things happen over and over but under different circumstances. No matter what’s going on, there’s usually a solution somewhere in our past.

15. Hunt

Big game is far healthier than anything you’ll find in a grocery store or butcher, it’s not even close.

Hunting is much more than an experience where you kill your own food, though, it’s getting out into nature in the best way possible. You’re tracking and pursuit and killing, gutting, and transporting. It’s what men have done for thousands of years.

16. Fish

Along the same logic, if you can find your own food you’re not only going to live a healthier life, but it’s an act that connects us to what men have done for as long as men have been men. There’s a peace that you find in nature that you just cannot find in cities, as well. Teach a man to fish…

17. Survive

Some men are born into harsher places than others. Some men have to learn how to survive as it’s an everyday struggle. Every man, though, should test himself in ways that questions whether or not he wants to continue. Every man should spend time in nature, get lost, put himself into dicey situations, travel to new parts of the world and experience different ways of life. Every man should expand his capabilities of all kinds, whether it be hunting, camping, fishing, or earning a buck when his back’s against the wall. A man doesn’t quit, he keeps pushing even if that struggle lasts a lifetime (Read: Man’s Search for Meaning).

18. Find the good in the impossibly horrible.

Man’s Search for Meaning, Unbroken, and Meditations – or any book by or about Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and Epictetus – will provide a map for how to at least find the opportunity where others see crisis. The Obstacle is the Way is another great book that takes ancient wisdom and gives it to the reader in a way that he can apply daily, to any disaster. The point is that there’s always a choice to how we see things and how we react to them. Choose to see them from a place of power, control. See events as a challenge, never as a curse.

19. Be self-aware.

Few know their strengths and are genuinely aware of their weakness. Fewer still are awake to how they’re perceived or viewed by others. Most people live in their own world, in a bubble, that prevents growth and honesty. Like most good, necessary qualities, self-awareness is a necessity if you want to be at your best, both in your character and your accomplishment.

20. Make the difficult decision.

Most people want to make the popular decision. This is what politics in the west has primarily become. Men make the best decision as they see it, popularity or ease plays no role. This has to include choices you make in your own life and for yourself. Don’t make the easy decision. Don’t choose ease. Don’t choose the desire in the present, choose the decision that will bring you the most in your life’s entirety. The best decision, the one that makes you stronger, tougher, better, and more successful, is rarely the easiest one to make or the easiest path to follow

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

You can contact him at –
http://www.ChadHowseFitness.com/
https://www.Facebook.com/ChadHowseFitness
https://www.YouTube.com/ChadHowseFitness

WHY YOU WON’T RISE TO THE OCCASSION

WHY YOU WON’T RISE TO THE OCCASSION

There’s a myth that we all hold…

Each of us thinks and dreams that when the time comes we’ll rise to the occasion.

The occasion can be a job interview, an economic crisis, a financial crisis in our own homes or a fight that needs to be fought. The truth is that none of us rise to the occasion, we simply fall back on our training.

If you lack training, you’ll fall back and into the bad habits you’ve already created.

Your ‘training’ is your habits and what you practice. If you expect to rise to the occasion and defend your family, then you’d best start training how to fight or how to use a gun in stressful situations. If you expect to rise to the occasion when you face a financial crisis in your life you’d best start practicing frugality today, heck, why not just stop doing the things that will lead you to a financial crisis in the first place?

Save, invest, and don’t get caught up in the consumerism trap, one where image is more important than wealth and worth and value.

No, you won’t rise to the occasion, at least not if you don’t train and prepare yourself to be equipped to do so in the first place.

Take action on the Lost Art of Discipline

THE 5 STEPS TO DRESS LIKE AN ALPHA MALE

THE 5 STEPS TO DRESS LIKE AN ALPHA MALE

How to Dress Like a Man

The biggest misconception of what an alpha male is has to do with presentation.

Web sites and magazines are obsessed with telling guys how to dress so as to appear powerful. What they end up creating are followers, victims, and idiots riddled with debt who have no power at all.

An article with this title should have a guy in a nice suit and a Rolex sitting in his Ferrari, or at least that’s what we’re led to think. The truth is, odds are the guy in the nice suit sitting in the Ferrari is a victim. He bought those things – each of which are depreciating daily – because he thinks it fits who he wants to become. He bought them to impress other people. His spending habits and his aspirations are dependent on the approval and even the envy of others.

He’s a sucker.

An alpha, that is, a leader, a guy who others look to for guidance and inspiration and protection, cannot, by definition, be a sucker. A sucker, someone who’ll live their life to gain the approval of others, isn’t a leader, he’s a follower.

Statistically, the millionaire doesn’t look like a millionaire. He doesn’t waste money on things that other people tell him he should want. Instead, he’s investing, saving, and building wealth, which is freedom and power. He’s making moves to acquire more wealth and gain more power. This is the alpha when it comes to finance. We can follow a similar approach to other areas of life as well.

We all know a goofball who’s married a cutie because he thought she looked good, which he thought made others look up to him or even envy him, then a few years into their marriage he finds out she’s absolutely useless, and by association, so is he. He made a massive move not by following his own intuition, but in response to what he thinks others think of him and what he has.

We also all know people who post images and convey the life they want to convey. They spend money to convey this lifestyle so that others will approve and maybe even envy who they are and what they have. (Read This: How to Spend Your Money Like a Winner)

They’re all suckers. In this article we’re going to discover how to actually dress and drive like an alpha male.

Step #1
Take pride.

Take pride in how you look, but don’t be obsessed with what you wear. Take more pride in what you do. It’s what you do that makes you valuable; it’s also what you do that helps you acquire power.

The problem with man’s magazines is that they focus on image and image alone. It makes sense, of course, their existence is dependent on ads and men purchasing what’s in their ads. Image, style, acquiring stuff, cannot be a guy’s focus or reason for being great at what he does, nor can it be what he uses his hard-earned dollars for because it in no way results in him gaining more power.

In fact, purchases like this usually drain his account, it makes him more dependent and less free to do or buy the things that really matter.

Don’t be a sucker, always trying to win approval. It’s unbecoming. Be your own man and follow step #2.

Step #2
Have a hierarchy of what you value.

The word ‘valuable’ doesn’t fit what it describes. Valuables like watches, suits, cars, or jewellery aren’t actually valuable. The pictures you have with your lady on your first vacation likely hold more value to you than your watch.

Your experiences hold more value. A lack of stress from being in control financially would have more value to you than a thing that’s in a box somewhere. (Read This: 9 Wildly Rich Guys That Will Inspire You to Be More Frugal)

Know what you truly value. If you really do care about what others think more than being rich or in control of your path in life and your expenses, then buy whatever you need to buy, but you’re still a sucker. Those people whose approval you’re trying to gain don’t matter. Having them matter means you’re a victim to their opinion as it sways you to-and-fro.

Step #3
Don’t give a flying fuck.

To truly not have what society thinks you should have or be affect who you are or the decisions you make or what you pursue in life is a rarity. It’s also necessary to live life on your own terms, but as our value is more an more dependent on what others think of what we’re doing, this becomes more difficult.

You need self-awareness and discipline and clarity. Few have one, let alone all three.

To be your own man is such a rarity today that we don’t really know what it is. Many of the people we come across who are working hard to improve are measuring improvement by whatever magazine they subscribe to or web site they visit. ‘Men’s magazine’s’ are the worst sources of guidance for a guy who wants real power in life, who wants to be powerful, not dependent or reliant on things that hold no value for meaning.

Being your own man is simple, but not easy. You have to know what you really want, not swayed by others or things, and you have to have the discipline to pursue your goals for your entire life. You don’t change with seasons or trends, you’re you, unabashedly so.

Step #4
Have true confidence.

If you actually don’t care about buying the nicest watch or the best clothes or the nicest, newest vehicle, you’re going to save yourself thousands upon thousands of dollars.
The only way not to care about this stuff is to have real confidence, both in who you are and what you’re doing.

Freedom is more important to you than image. So you’re saving, hustling, and investing, not buying things to impress people you shouldn’t be trying to impress. Power is more important than envy.

You don’t want people to envy you, it doesn’t matter to you in the slightest. You don’t care if they look at you and want to be you, you’re happy and proud of who you are and what you’re doing and what you like. It doesn’t matter to you if you’re wearing jeans and old boots and the fella next to you is decked out in the nicest suit he can’t afford, you’re gaining power.

Money is power. Discipline is power. Image is façade.

If you want to dress and drive like a true alpha, you have to have true confidence.

Step #5
Simplicity and Frugality.

To truly dress like an alpha male, know that what you wear isn’t nearly as important as what you do.

We have generations of ‘men’ who’ve been told that image is everything. Marketing toward men isn’t pushing merit or hard work, but what you can buy after said hard work. The problem is that if you’re working merely to purchase you have no value left after the purchasing has been done.

The alpha dresses with pride, sure, but with simplicity and frugality because his money is being put toward more important things. He knows that power isn’t found in fine threads or timepieces.

True power is making your own decisions and what’s best for you without the influence of people who don’t want what’s best for you – that includes media outlets.

A man cannot be deemed a man if he has no power over his decisions, and we measure power based on outcome. If you’re always buying things and you neither keep nor invest what you’ve worked hard to earn, you’re not in control.

Gain power. Have power over what you want and know it’s what you want. Understand what’s important in life. Be your own man and don’t give a shite about what everyone else is chasing.

That’s how you act like an alpha.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

You can contact him at –
http://www.ChadHowseFitness.com/
https://www.Facebook.com/ChadHowseFitness
https://www.YouTube.com/ChadHowseFitness

7 WAYS MEN CAN LIVE BETTER BY PLAYING MORE

7 WAYS MEN CAN LIVE BETTER BY PLAYING MORE

Why You Need More Play in Your Life

As men, we get lost in our work and our pursuit to become better than we were yesterday, and we should get consumed by this stuff.

We’re on a quest to create something more than what we had when we were kids. We want to give our kids more, as well. We want to leave a legacy.

We can’t, however, forget how to live.

I wish to se our people hard, vigorous, strong, able to hold their own in whatever test may arise. I wish to see them able to work and able to play hard. I believe in play, and I like to see people play hard while they play, and when they work I do not want to see them play at all. ~ Theodore Roosevelt

Schedule Time for Fun

Over the past few weeks I’ve had exactly zero days off from work. Every week I say this is the week I’m going to hit the mountains, but the mountains keep getting pushed back.

Every week I say I’m going shooting this week, but when the last few days of the week come I find some reason to do just a little more work.

Now, I’m burnt out.

Let’s assume you’re responsible and self-reliant. Let’s assume that you work hard and take your career seriously, and you’re not a kid who bucks his responsibilities to go drink with pals.

I think that’s a fair assumption based on you being here, reading this article.

The thing that’s likely missing from your life isn’t more hours to work, but play.

Playing is living. Playing is hiking and hunting and shooting and yes, drinking with the fellas. As we dive into our jobs and recite our goals and study, play gets pushed and pushed until we’re in such a deep routine of work that the fun, the reason for the work, is lost.

I started this business because I thought it was necessary, for one. I’d suffered from less than optimal testosterone levels and I wanted to give other guys the solution that helped me create optimal testosterone levels.

I’ve been dirt broke, so I wanted to help guys create the habits that got me out of being broke and out of shape.

I also wanted the freedom that this line of work, a business that can be run from anywhere, could possibly give me.

It has, in the past, given me just that. While the hours are a lot longer than any other 9-5 I worked, I did my work from Italy and South America and South Africa.

What’s interesting about each of those trips is that business saw a big bump when I was out playing, exploring, and having fun. The work got done, but the lifestyle fuelled more creativity and more happiness that lead to more accomplishment which, in turn, created more happiness.

Play is a necessary aspect of our lives, and it’s one we forget about and push back as something that boys do.

I push back at it.

If I’m out in the woods or on the range I can feel guilty about not being in the office. It’s stupid because play is as necessary as work for accomplishment.

So how should men best play?

We’re not heading out into the park and playing tag – although that would be a ripping good time. The best play, I’ve found, is when the mind is engaged and learning. When we’re learning and extremely focused, there is nothing but the moment in time that we’re currently in.

This is ‘the zone’ that elite athletes talk about. It’s a state that we can have when we work. Some call it flow. It’s a wonderful state, and when you combine learning with laughing, you experience living.

7 Ways Men Should Play

1. Pick up a weapon.

I have Godson. He’s a great kid, a young fella who likes things that boys like, namely guns. I’ve bought him two toy guns (that his mom’s not too happy about). Guns are fun.

When you’re older you can get real ones and they’re even more fun.

I didn’t grow up around guns, so buying my first couple of shotguns and my rifle and learning how to use them to shoot clays, birds, and other animals, has been a hell of a lot of fun.

As often as we can (not often enough), me and a couple pals head to the shotgun club 45 minutes out of town. We shoot. We laugh. We compete. When the round is done we find a dirt road, pop a couple beers, and shoot the shit.

I’ve also picked up archery.

Adding the competition component is great. It forces you to focus, to be in the moment, if you listen to your pals or think about the next shot or the score, the moment is lost and you’re far likely to miss.

When you add hunting to the equation the experience is even more fun and you get the reward of bringing a meal home to your family.

2. Play a sport.

Sports are great to play, but most men merely observe them.

Playing sports hones your athletic ability, it keeps you nimble, powerful, and dangerous. It’s also a hell of a lot of fun to grab a ball and get a game going.

It brings us back to our youth. It’s also hard to think about other things besides the game when you’re in the middle of it.

The more we can be in the moment in life, the better.

3. Run.

Running is something I did a lot of when I was boxing, but almost completely turned my back on up until a few years ago.

Running sucks, but it’s also beautiful. When you’re in nature, exploring, pushing yourself not to quit, always trying to make it to the next turn and then the next one after that, life is good. As humans, we’re also designed to run. (Read This: How Running Can Make You A Better Man)

Thousands of years ago that was our best mode of transportation while on the hunt for food to help out tribe survive for another day.

Running is primal. I’m convinced that we need to do it. It isn’t necessarily ‘play’, but the endorphins that are released during a good run has a similar effect.

4. Hike.

Nature is where we find clarity. It’s where we come to realize just how small and insignificant our perceived problems are.

Hiking is also process-driven. The more process-driven activities we do, the better.

On a tough hike you’re constantly focused on making the correct step, and the more difficult the hike, the more you’re simply trying to make it another 10 feet without quitting and looking like a pussy in front of your pals, your lady, or your dog.

Nature is where we’re bred to live, to be, to explore. If you’re a hiker, or if you’ve been on a hike, you’ll know that this is where true beauty exists.

5. Hunt.

Hunting is hiking on steroids. When you hike you’re typically on trails and routes laid out for humans by humans. When you’re hunting you’re in the bush, and if you’re using trails they’re usually laid out by animals, for animals.

It’s also primal.

Humans are predators. The food we hunt is also far healthier than the food we’ll find in a grocery store.

Hunting is a spiritual experience, too. To be out in nature doing what men have done for thousands of years gives you a connection to who you are and what you’re here to do that cannot be found in a city.

Killing an animal isn’t a fun thing. While the culmination of a hunt can result in high fives and smiles, when you walk up to the animal you’re not laughing at it, but appreciating it, thanking it for the sacrifice.

I’m new to hunting. I’ve done it for just over a year now. To be good at it you need to be in the moment, you need to be in shape, and comfortable being uncomfortable. (Read This: 9 Things Every Man Must Do Before He Dies)

To give a few weeks or the year to hunting is a wonderful way to spend time away from the rat race that consumes our lives.

6. Fight!

Fighting is something I know a bit more about. Again, it’s primal. Men have been doing it forever. To get good at fighting takes a ton of practice. It also changes how you look at fighting.

Before I started boxing, fighting was an emotional response. I’d get pissed off and I’d fight.

When I was actually fighting in the ring, it changed my view of combat. It isn’t emotional. You’re no longer running at someone in anger, but responding in a reasonable fashion and simply trying to win.

Every guy should learn how to fight. If you’ve never learned, start. It’s weird to not know how to punch. Join a gym. It’s a great time. Sparring is awesome, it’s a challenge, and as you improve you’ll just love the sport more and more.

7. Fish.

Fishing is something I’ve never gotten into, but will this summer. It’s a process-driven, patience-required activity.

While you’re focused on getting the fish, you’re also appreciating where you are and what you have and what you’ve been blessed with.

We need to practice slowing down. One of the offshoots of a society where we’re constantly trying to acquire more is that our pace is far too fast for us to enjoy where we are. Fishing is a great way to practice slowing down, especially something like fly fishing.

SLOW DOWN. PLAY MORE.

Here’s a challenge for you:

Try moving slower.

Actually move slower today. Don’t rush at all. When you drive, drive slow. When you walk, walk slow. When you work, work slow.

You’ll find that the quality of your work improves, you even get more done in less time and you’ll have so much less stress it’s incredible.

And, of course, play as well.

Schedule some time this week to play. Use one of the suggested methods or do your own thing.

If I’ve missed anything, let me know in the comments section.

While work is a huge part of who we are and our legacy, play improves the quality of our work and our experience here on this planet. Do BOTH!

WHAT OTHER FORMS OF PLAY WOULD YOU ADD?

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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