How to Dress Like a Man

The biggest misconception of what an alpha male is has to do with presentation.

Web sites and magazines are obsessed with telling guys how to dress so as to appear powerful. What they end up creating are followers, victims, and idiots riddled with debt who have no power at all.

An article with this title should have a guy in a nice suit and a Rolex sitting in his Ferrari, or at least that’s what we’re led to think. The truth is, odds are the guy in the nice suit sitting in the Ferrari is a victim. He bought those things – each of which are depreciating daily – because he thinks it fits who he wants to become. He bought them to impress other people. His spending habits and his aspirations are dependent on the approval and even the envy of others.

He’s a sucker.

An alpha, that is, a leader, a guy who others look to for guidance and inspiration and protection, cannot, by definition, be a sucker. A sucker, someone who’ll live their life to gain the approval of others, isn’t a leader, he’s a follower.

Statistically, the millionaire doesn’t look like a millionaire. He doesn’t waste money on things that other people tell him he should want. Instead, he’s investing, saving, and building wealth, which is freedom and power. He’s making moves to acquire more wealth and gain more power. This is the alpha when it comes to finance. We can follow a similar approach to other areas of life as well.

We all know a goofball who’s married a cutie because he thought she looked good, which he thought made others look up to him or even envy him, then a few years into their marriage he finds out she’s absolutely useless, and by association, so is he. He made a massive move not by following his own intuition, but in response to what he thinks others think of him and what he has.

We also all know people who post images and convey the life they want to convey. They spend money to convey this lifestyle so that others will approve and maybe even envy who they are and what they have. (Read This: How to Spend Your Money Like a Winner)

They’re all suckers. In this article we’re going to discover how to actually dress and drive like an alpha male.

Step #1
Take pride.

Take pride in how you look, but don’t be obsessed with what you wear. Take more pride in what you do. It’s what you do that makes you valuable; it’s also what you do that helps you acquire power.

The problem with man’s magazines is that they focus on image and image alone. It makes sense, of course, their existence is dependent on ads and men purchasing what’s in their ads. Image, style, acquiring stuff, cannot be a guy’s focus or reason for being great at what he does, nor can it be what he uses his hard-earned dollars for because it in no way results in him gaining more power.

In fact, purchases like this usually drain his account, it makes him more dependent and less free to do or buy the things that really matter.

Don’t be a sucker, always trying to win approval. It’s unbecoming. Be your own man and follow step #2.

Step #2
Have a hierarchy of what you value.

The word ‘valuable’ doesn’t fit what it describes. Valuables like watches, suits, cars, or jewellery aren’t actually valuable. The pictures you have with your lady on your first vacation likely hold more value to you than your watch.

Your experiences hold more value. A lack of stress from being in control financially would have more value to you than a thing that’s in a box somewhere. (Read This: 9 Wildly Rich Guys That Will Inspire You to Be More Frugal)

Know what you truly value. If you really do care about what others think more than being rich or in control of your path in life and your expenses, then buy whatever you need to buy, but you’re still a sucker. Those people whose approval you’re trying to gain don’t matter. Having them matter means you’re a victim to their opinion as it sways you to-and-fro.

Step #3
Don’t give a flying fuck.

To truly not have what society thinks you should have or be affect who you are or the decisions you make or what you pursue in life is a rarity. It’s also necessary to live life on your own terms, but as our value is more an more dependent on what others think of what we’re doing, this becomes more difficult.

You need self-awareness and discipline and clarity. Few have one, let alone all three.

To be your own man is such a rarity today that we don’t really know what it is. Many of the people we come across who are working hard to improve are measuring improvement by whatever magazine they subscribe to or web site they visit. ‘Men’s magazine’s’ are the worst sources of guidance for a guy who wants real power in life, who wants to be powerful, not dependent or reliant on things that hold no value for meaning.

Being your own man is simple, but not easy. You have to know what you really want, not swayed by others or things, and you have to have the discipline to pursue your goals for your entire life. You don’t change with seasons or trends, you’re you, unabashedly so.

Step #4
Have true confidence.

If you actually don’t care about buying the nicest watch or the best clothes or the nicest, newest vehicle, you’re going to save yourself thousands upon thousands of dollars.
The only way not to care about this stuff is to have real confidence, both in who you are and what you’re doing.

Freedom is more important to you than image. So you’re saving, hustling, and investing, not buying things to impress people you shouldn’t be trying to impress. Power is more important than envy.

You don’t want people to envy you, it doesn’t matter to you in the slightest. You don’t care if they look at you and want to be you, you’re happy and proud of who you are and what you’re doing and what you like. It doesn’t matter to you if you’re wearing jeans and old boots and the fella next to you is decked out in the nicest suit he can’t afford, you’re gaining power.

Money is power. Discipline is power. Image is façade.

If you want to dress and drive like a true alpha, you have to have true confidence.

Step #5
Simplicity and Frugality.

To truly dress like an alpha male, know that what you wear isn’t nearly as important as what you do.

We have generations of ‘men’ who’ve been told that image is everything. Marketing toward men isn’t pushing merit or hard work, but what you can buy after said hard work. The problem is that if you’re working merely to purchase you have no value left after the purchasing has been done.

The alpha dresses with pride, sure, but with simplicity and frugality because his money is being put toward more important things. He knows that power isn’t found in fine threads or timepieces.

True power is making your own decisions and what’s best for you without the influence of people who don’t want what’s best for you – that includes media outlets.

A man cannot be deemed a man if he has no power over his decisions, and we measure power based on outcome. If you’re always buying things and you neither keep nor invest what you’ve worked hard to earn, you’re not in control.

Gain power. Have power over what you want and know it’s what you want. Understand what’s important in life. Be your own man and don’t give a shite about what everyone else is chasing.

That’s how you act like an alpha.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

You can contact him at –



Why You Need More Play in Your Life

As men, we get lost in our work and our pursuit to become better than we were yesterday, and we should get consumed by this stuff.

We’re on a quest to create something more than what we had when we were kids. We want to give our kids more, as well. We want to leave a legacy.

We can’t, however, forget how to live.

I wish to se our people hard, vigorous, strong, able to hold their own in whatever test may arise. I wish to see them able to work and able to play hard. I believe in play, and I like to see people play hard while they play, and when they work I do not want to see them play at all. ~ Theodore Roosevelt

Schedule Time for Fun

Over the past few weeks I’ve had exactly zero days off from work. Every week I say this is the week I’m going to hit the mountains, but the mountains keep getting pushed back.

Every week I say I’m going shooting this week, but when the last few days of the week come I find some reason to do just a little more work.

Now, I’m burnt out.

Let’s assume you’re responsible and self-reliant. Let’s assume that you work hard and take your career seriously, and you’re not a kid who bucks his responsibilities to go drink with pals.

I think that’s a fair assumption based on you being here, reading this article.

The thing that’s likely missing from your life isn’t more hours to work, but play.

Playing is living. Playing is hiking and hunting and shooting and yes, drinking with the fellas. As we dive into our jobs and recite our goals and study, play gets pushed and pushed until we’re in such a deep routine of work that the fun, the reason for the work, is lost.

I started this business because I thought it was necessary, for one. I’d suffered from less than optimal testosterone levels and I wanted to give other guys the solution that helped me create optimal testosterone levels.

I’ve been dirt broke, so I wanted to help guys create the habits that got me out of being broke and out of shape.

I also wanted the freedom that this line of work, a business that can be run from anywhere, could possibly give me.

It has, in the past, given me just that. While the hours are a lot longer than any other 9-5 I worked, I did my work from Italy and South America and South Africa.

What’s interesting about each of those trips is that business saw a big bump when I was out playing, exploring, and having fun. The work got done, but the lifestyle fuelled more creativity and more happiness that lead to more accomplishment which, in turn, created more happiness.

Play is a necessary aspect of our lives, and it’s one we forget about and push back as something that boys do.

I push back at it.

If I’m out in the woods or on the range I can feel guilty about not being in the office. It’s stupid because play is as necessary as work for accomplishment.

So how should men best play?

We’re not heading out into the park and playing tag – although that would be a ripping good time. The best play, I’ve found, is when the mind is engaged and learning. When we’re learning and extremely focused, there is nothing but the moment in time that we’re currently in.

This is ‘the zone’ that elite athletes talk about. It’s a state that we can have when we work. Some call it flow. It’s a wonderful state, and when you combine learning with laughing, you experience living.

7 Ways Men Should Play

1. Pick up a weapon.

I have Godson. He’s a great kid, a young fella who likes things that boys like, namely guns. I’ve bought him two toy guns (that his mom’s not too happy about). Guns are fun.

When you’re older you can get real ones and they’re even more fun.

I didn’t grow up around guns, so buying my first couple of shotguns and my rifle and learning how to use them to shoot clays, birds, and other animals, has been a hell of a lot of fun.

As often as we can (not often enough), me and a couple pals head to the shotgun club 45 minutes out of town. We shoot. We laugh. We compete. When the round is done we find a dirt road, pop a couple beers, and shoot the shit.

I’ve also picked up archery.

Adding the competition component is great. It forces you to focus, to be in the moment, if you listen to your pals or think about the next shot or the score, the moment is lost and you’re far likely to miss.

When you add hunting to the equation the experience is even more fun and you get the reward of bringing a meal home to your family.

2. Play a sport.

Sports are great to play, but most men merely observe them.

Playing sports hones your athletic ability, it keeps you nimble, powerful, and dangerous. It’s also a hell of a lot of fun to grab a ball and get a game going.

It brings us back to our youth. It’s also hard to think about other things besides the game when you’re in the middle of it.

The more we can be in the moment in life, the better.

3. Run.

Running is something I did a lot of when I was boxing, but almost completely turned my back on up until a few years ago.

Running sucks, but it’s also beautiful. When you’re in nature, exploring, pushing yourself not to quit, always trying to make it to the next turn and then the next one after that, life is good. As humans, we’re also designed to run. (Read This: How Running Can Make You A Better Man)

Thousands of years ago that was our best mode of transportation while on the hunt for food to help out tribe survive for another day.

Running is primal. I’m convinced that we need to do it. It isn’t necessarily ‘play’, but the endorphins that are released during a good run has a similar effect.

4. Hike.

Nature is where we find clarity. It’s where we come to realize just how small and insignificant our perceived problems are.

Hiking is also process-driven. The more process-driven activities we do, the better.

On a tough hike you’re constantly focused on making the correct step, and the more difficult the hike, the more you’re simply trying to make it another 10 feet without quitting and looking like a pussy in front of your pals, your lady, or your dog.

Nature is where we’re bred to live, to be, to explore. If you’re a hiker, or if you’ve been on a hike, you’ll know that this is where true beauty exists.

5. Hunt.

Hunting is hiking on steroids. When you hike you’re typically on trails and routes laid out for humans by humans. When you’re hunting you’re in the bush, and if you’re using trails they’re usually laid out by animals, for animals.

It’s also primal.

Humans are predators. The food we hunt is also far healthier than the food we’ll find in a grocery store.

Hunting is a spiritual experience, too. To be out in nature doing what men have done for thousands of years gives you a connection to who you are and what you’re here to do that cannot be found in a city.

Killing an animal isn’t a fun thing. While the culmination of a hunt can result in high fives and smiles, when you walk up to the animal you’re not laughing at it, but appreciating it, thanking it for the sacrifice.

I’m new to hunting. I’ve done it for just over a year now. To be good at it you need to be in the moment, you need to be in shape, and comfortable being uncomfortable. (Read This: 9 Things Every Man Must Do Before He Dies)

To give a few weeks or the year to hunting is a wonderful way to spend time away from the rat race that consumes our lives.

6. Fight!

Fighting is something I know a bit more about. Again, it’s primal. Men have been doing it forever. To get good at fighting takes a ton of practice. It also changes how you look at fighting.

Before I started boxing, fighting was an emotional response. I’d get pissed off and I’d fight.

When I was actually fighting in the ring, it changed my view of combat. It isn’t emotional. You’re no longer running at someone in anger, but responding in a reasonable fashion and simply trying to win.

Every guy should learn how to fight. If you’ve never learned, start. It’s weird to not know how to punch. Join a gym. It’s a great time. Sparring is awesome, it’s a challenge, and as you improve you’ll just love the sport more and more.

7. Fish.

Fishing is something I’ve never gotten into, but will this summer. It’s a process-driven, patience-required activity.

While you’re focused on getting the fish, you’re also appreciating where you are and what you have and what you’ve been blessed with.

We need to practice slowing down. One of the offshoots of a society where we’re constantly trying to acquire more is that our pace is far too fast for us to enjoy where we are. Fishing is a great way to practice slowing down, especially something like fly fishing.


Here’s a challenge for you:

Try moving slower.

Actually move slower today. Don’t rush at all. When you drive, drive slow. When you walk, walk slow. When you work, work slow.

You’ll find that the quality of your work improves, you even get more done in less time and you’ll have so much less stress it’s incredible.

And, of course, play as well.

Schedule some time this week to play. Use one of the suggested methods or do your own thing.

If I’ve missed anything, let me know in the comments section.

While work is a huge part of who we are and our legacy, play improves the quality of our work and our experience here on this planet. Do BOTH!


About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

You can contact him at –



I spent my entire lifetime trying not to be careless. Women and children can be careless, but not men. ~ Vito Corleone, the Godfather

Children can look to their parents for help. They can blame others for what they’ve done. They can fall back on someone else’s assistance and get careless and have the problem solved for them. (Read This: 10 Lessons Every Father Must Teach His Son)

Men cannot afford to be careless.

Men cannot behave in a manner that would jeopardise our employment. Boys can stay out late, get drunk with pals, lose their job, ride free on the backs of their folks for a few months, and then get another job. Men cannot.

Men cannot spend their money frivolously. They cannot buy what they cannot afford. What they earn they have to use wisely, they have to invest and pay off whatever creditors they have.

Becoming an adult is something that was once done at 19 or 20. Today it seems as though it may happen at 40.

If you look at the statistics of debt held in the west, by-in-large, most people owe more than they bring in on an annual basis. The good cities, the cities or towns where values still hold are closer to the debt to profit margin, while the bad ones, a city like Vancouver, for example, has its citizens earning – on average – half of the debt they’ll carry in a year.

Housing prices aside, this number is driven by an aspiration to portray and image, not the once all-important quest to be of character.

This article treats trivialities like image and consumerism as something that children can do, but not men. If you aspire to be good and manly, there are things that, when you hit 20, you simply have to leave behind.

If you’re in your thirties or forties and you’re still doing some of the things or behaviours on this list, ask yourself if you need to be, ask yourself if these behaviours and habits make you stronger or weaker and if they make you weaker, why have them?

Being an adult male means you have to be a leader. In some capacity people look up to you or depend on you. Don’t be careless with this honor.

1. Keep a budget.

The first change that a young fella has to adopt when he enters manhood is budgeting. You’re planning for something now. You’re saving for a life you want to create in the future and for a family that you may not yet have, but will one day. (Read This: 11 Tips to Budget Your Money Like a Winner)

A budget is as much about knowing what’s coming in and what’s going out that it is about saving. It’s knowing what you have a tendency to spend money on that you don’t need and don’t really want, but you buy anyway.

It’s self-responsibility. It’s taking care of your affairs. It’s not being careless.

2. Think about what you buy.

I saw a video a couple months ago. It was some Youtube guy talking about having an abundance mindset. This notion that things will come into his life led him to spend money frivolously.

An abundance mindset is good. To know that if you work hard and smart that things will come into your life is a good thing. It’s a positive thing. To spend money on things you want on a whim, to let your desires push your purchasing habits is a dependence mindset.

Somewhere along the line the kid used the idea of an abundance mindset as an excuse to buy what he wants in a moment.

Anyone who lets their desires determine their actions is a slave to their emotions. They’re devoid of discipline and they see discipline as restrictive, not as liberating.

Discipline is discerning, it’s having the knowledge to back what you want to buy with logic and reason for purchasing it.

Children can spend money on stupid things. Men cannot.

Next time you have a desire that leads you to want to buy something, stop and think. Think about what this desire really is.

It’s most likely fuelled by an image you want to portray, which is given to you not by your genetics or what’s truly important in life, but my marketing, be it in film, in someone you look up to, in a magazine that skilfully lays out a persona of a man that you’d like to be yours.

This desire isn’t deep, it’s not meaningful, it’s wrought with triviality and once this image is achieved, another purchase will have to follow to further fulfill it.

Stop. Breathe. Think. What is it you really want?

It’s likely something that you think this purchase will get you but you’re wrong. Save your money, buy land, God ain’t making any more of it.

3. Do what you don’t want to do.

Boys can do what they want. If they don’t want to study, all they get is a bad grade, who cares.

Those among us who are men, who are winners, do what they don’t want to do with as much effort and pride as the things they love to do.

Success is often merely a matter of doing the things you’re not passionate about at a high level.

Being a good husband and father is often about the same thing. Of course you want to play with your kids and relax with them, but those dishes need to get done, the chores need to be completed, your lady deserves rest before you do. You’re a man. Rest is something that’s more infrequent for you than for anyone. (Read This: How to Rest Like an Alpha)

4. Take pride in everything you do, in who you are.

Take pride in how you look. Take pride in the work you do. Take pride in the man you are.

That means that you’re not lazy and you don’t sell yourself short.

Too many of us hold incredibly low expectations of what we can achieve in this lifetime and what our life will be. We give a fraction of what we can give to our work, to our family, and we push down the dreams we had as a kid because now they seem so out of line with the path we’ve been pushed into that we see them as not real.

This article is obviously not simply a matter of being an adult, but of being a great one.

Too many ‘adults’ slide into a way of life that is beneath them, both in character and accomplishment.

They sell themselves short. That doesn’t mean that the line of work you’re doing is beneath you, but that the work you’re doing, how you’re performing, and the pride you’re taking in what you’re doing is short of what it can be.

In no way does it make sense to give less effort, to pay less attention to detail. You end up giving close to the same amount of time, yet the results you create are far less than what they can be. Why not give your best? (Read This: Be A Man Of Action and Victorious Effort)

It’s like laziness, it makes no sense to be lazy. There’s no logic behind it, no benefit at all to the individual, yet we do it day after day.

Take pride in how you dress. Keep yourself well-kept and your body in shape. Don’t get fat and lazy, it’s unbecoming of what your potential dictates you should be.

5. Never be lazy.

6. Never blame someone or something for where you are right now.

7. Don’t change.

Don’t get careless or soft or lazy when things are going well. It’s easy to hustle when you have to. When you don’t, when things are taken care of and the bills are paid, people slip.

Marvin Hagler made a great point:

“It’s hard to get out of bed in the morning to go for a run when you’re sleeping in silk sheets”.

Yet, you still have to get up and out of bed, not because you need the money but because that’s who you are, you’re a man for shite’s sake, act like one.

A grinder, a worker, a man who takes pride in who he is doesn’t change or soften or weaken. You are who you are. Be the same guy when you’re at the bottom as you are when you’re at the top.

Highs and lows come and go. Life is a never-ending ebb and flow. Be the constant.

8. Give time to your family.

All of this work we do, all of these dreams we have, the goals we hustle to bring to reality, are for no reason if we don’t give our time to our family.

The excuse that so many men use is that they do all of this for their families. It’s not true. They may think it’s true, but what your family really needs is you.

You can make a few hundred grand or a few million less in your lifetime without diminishing your degree of happiness or value or worth and instead give those hours where that money was earned to the people that matter most.

The greatest regret for most men is that they were so focused on earning and they used their family as an excuse to spend more time earning instead of giving them their time.

9. Let your lady rest before you do.

The best example of what men have become today is in how we do chores around the house that our lady typically does. Let’s take the dishes, for example. Maybe that’s something that your lady does normally, but tonight you have to do them, and you do them just good enough to pass, but bad enough that she doesn’t want you to do the dishes anymore because you didn’t do them well enough.

I’ve heard this complaint from many a lady. I’ve done this myself, too. It’s less than who you are, who we are.

It goes back to the take pride in everything you do change in mindset. This includes chores and things that you don’t want to do at all.

If you’re going to do something, do it well.

More than that, do things you don’t have to do, let your lady rest before you do. Be the man, not just a man.


The problem with our society today is that youth is praised more than age and wisdom. It used to be the elders we looked up to, now it’s the young, the person living with no responsibility and a care-free lifestyle.

That’s ass-backwards. It doesn’t reflect what our priorities should be. We praise the dependent, the immature, the weak.

Be the strong, self-reliant, masculine male that you need to be to be called a man or a man’s man or a leader. It’s the same guy you need to be to live the life you genuinely want to live.

If this is heaven, if we’re not moving toward heaven, how would you live?

What would you spend your time doing, building, creating? What adventures would you embark upon? Who would you spend your time with and sacrifice for?

Be the man that your idea of living demands you become, not the boy that your desires make you act like.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

You can contact him at –



There’s no rest for an alpha! OK, I don’t mean that literally, everyone needs some time off to cool down and recharge their batteries, in order to keep moving, faster and stronger. What I meant to say is, if you want to rest like a man, then coming home after a workday, sitting down in front of the TV with a pizza and a six-pack is out of the question. Idleness kills manliness, and there are other ways to really rest, which don’t include passively lying around, doing nothing.

If you don’t rest adequately, your body will tell you so. You have to work a lot? There’s not enough time for managing all the things in your life? So, you decide to cut back on your sleep, staying up all night and sleeping during the day. However, sleep deprivation is just another brick in the road that leads to nowhere. Here’s what you can do to rest your body and mind. To rest like an alpha.

Save Stress for the Morning

What is the point of having a bedtime ritual in the first place? It’s to relax and calm the body and set the stage for setting off into an REM phase. However, you can’t relax if you are dealing with things that can raise your blood pressure – thinking about business problems, worrying about late bills, pondering on the world’s problems, and other things. Deal with heavy and stressful things when you feel refreshed, so wait until morning comes.

Choose the Right Time for a Drink

Okay, a scotch may be a part of the alpha-male identity. Alcohol isn’t harmful when drunk in moderate amounts, but it can play a nasty trick on your body if you don’t lay off about 3 hours before going to sleep. Otherwise, alcohol will get metabolized some hours later, while you’re asleep, and will have you tossing and turning in your bed. The kind of sleep you get in the first half of the night is called short-wave sleep (associated with an immune system boost and the repair of body tissues), and can be prolonged by alcohol. This disturbs REM sleep, the later stage of sleep that encourages memory formation and learning. According to a research published in Alcoholism: Clinical and Experimental Research a few years ago, a drink before bed might get you to doze off more easily, but you may not feel as rested in the morning.

Stay Away from the Bedroom

Don’t underestimate the power of association. In 1890, the Russian physiologist Ivan Pavlov discovered something that’s now called Pavlovian conditioning. While he fed his dogs, he discovered that they would salivate whenever he entered the room, even if he didn’t bring them food. What I want to say is that, if you don’t use your bedroom for things other than rest and sex, you will build a mental association between fatigue and bed. Pre-bedtime activities, watching TV, or even working, should be done in any other room but the bedroom. Once it’s time to rest, you’ll enter your bedroom, and your body will take it as a signal to shut down and hibernate.

Turn Your Digital Devices Off

Electronic devices that you use before bedtime may deprive you of quality sleep. People largely use phones and tablets within an hour of bedtime, but it’s the light exposure from these devices that trick our brains, that interpret it as daylight. It then blocks melatonin (responsible for making us sleepy) and triggers a surge of energy. What can you do to prevent electronics from messing with your resting time? First, charge your devices in another room, rather than your bedroom. Don’t use your phone as an alarm, buy a real alarm clock that won’t interrupt your sleep in the middle of the night. Turn off all the computer, phone, and TV screens about an hour before bedtime. If you want to read, read a printed book, not a digital ebook or a PDF version on your tablet. If you can’t manage that, try simply reducing the amount of light that gets emitted from the screen (white letters on a black background). Create a bedtime routine that doesn’t involve electronics, which will keep you engaged and prevent you from turning a device on for work or entertainment.

Rest Days during Training Week

If you’re an iron addict, then resting days may come as a kind of “torture”. However, if you’re trying to get stronger and bigger, the way you handle your rest days can greatly affect your workout results. Rest days have to be timed wisely during the week and you certainly shouldn’t feel like you’re slacking off. It’s not an OFF day, but a GROWTH day, when crucial things happen. If you want progress and growth, then rest days are not something that you want to avoid and become a stimulus addict. Every dedicated lifter knows the importance of rest days, the time when all the magic happens. This is the time when you recharge all your energy, when you build muscle and replenish your glycogen stores, and when your nervous system can get back on track and tune into its optimal working state. You need to remember that your body is not a bottomless well of energy, and that you are dealing with a limited amount of resources – you need to replenish them often and properly. (Read This: 4 Things You Need to Do to Recover Optimally)

If you don’t know how to structure your training week, this could be a good start, and you can adjust this system further:

– Monday – Training day 1 (moderate loading and volume)
– Tuesday – Training day 2 (highest training volume)
– Wednesday – Growth day 1
– Thursday – Training day 3 (heavy training)
– Friday – Growth day 2
– Saturday – Training day (heavy training)
– Sunday Growth day 3

Active Recovery

You might think it’s a mere paradox, but there are many things you can do to enhance your progress and hack your growth. Active recovery means that the earth does not stop turning on rest days, it’s just a routine easier than the one you implement on your regular days. All of your light, rest day activities will only help you recover faster than if you’d spend your days counting the minutes before you can hit the gym.

If you look closely at our bodies, you will notice that we are designed to move – if you stop moving for extended periods of time, all you are doing is telling your body that it’s time to shut down, and prepare for death.

Rest days don’t require you to be sitting at home, doing nothing. You don’t have to be passive. An alpha wouldn’t like to be passive. Instead of hitting the brakes and coming to a complete halt, you should just slow down and do some form of active resting – light exercise in the outdoors, a bike ride around the city, or some mobility drills. If you’re a guy who doesn’t have an aversion towards marijuana, then you can use it as something that can help you slip into a resting state of mind. Marijuana is beneficial in various ways (when taken in moderate amounts), and is known to provide relief from anxiety and insomnia, improve appetite, and decrease nausea. Believe it or not, it can even help you in your growing endeavors, if you are not averse to trying it.


Meditating doesn’t require sitting in a lotus position, humming “ummmmm” for an hour, whatsoever. It is a technique for relaxing and calming both the mind and body. If it wasn’t efficient, people wouldn’t be practicing it for several thousand years now. Find a quiet area in your home and sit in a relaxing position, close your eyes, and concentrate on your body’s sensations and breathing. Let go of tension, keep breathing, and take a mental journey to the peaceful place of your choice, and start noticing details (the color of the sky, the smells, the sights, and the warmth). Meditation will improve your focus, it will improve your resilience towards pain and adversity, teach you all about relaxation and awareness. It’ what an alfa is all about.

There are many things you can do to always keep yourself a well-rested alpha, always prepared for everyday life and all the challenges that are lurking behind every corner. Alphas always have a goal and actively work to achieve it. An alpha knows himself, knows where he’s going, and who he can rely on in life. He also knows how to get there, and can tell you what he’ll do if he faces an obstacle that seems to be unsurmountable. Forget all about arrogance, it’s only belief in yourself that keeps your head up, shining with confidence and self-esteem. A real man doesn’t pressure himself to do everything, but knows his limits, and it’s important to know them, in order to know when to rest.

An alpha male creates his own destiny and stays in control. He does not push himself into overdrive when he knows he will only be causing harm. He is perfectly ready to spend time in his den resting, ready to take on another day.

About The Author

Mathews McGarry is passionate about many forms of strength training, and has spent years lifting, dragging and flipping all manner of heavy objects. After graduating from the Faculty of Health Sciences, he started writing about his experiences, and sharing tips for a better life.

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9 Things Every Man MUST DO (not nonsensical clickbait).

When I thought about writing this list I did a little digging about other lists like this online. They’re clickbait.

No time nor thought is put into them. They’re littered with non-essential things like ‘having a threesome’ or ‘buying a luxury watch’. They’re filled with stuff, not experiences that men actually need to experience but are either lost or taken for granted in our society.

In this list you’ll only find things that men should actually do. These are things you need to do to be good at being a man or feel as though you’re actually fulfilling your role as a man.

This has nothing to do with ‘success’, as society defines it, but in feeling the value of fulfilling a role that is as old as time.

1. Hunt.

For thousands upon thousands of years, men have been hunters. We’ve went out into the wilderness, found animals, killed them, brought them back to our cave or camp and provided our tribe with sustenance.

Hunting is about more than taking a life, it’s what we have done for millennia, it’s the act of doing something yourself. Hunting is hiking on steroids. It brings you to places where the average man just doesn’t venture.

Use a bow or rifle or shotgun. Find food that’s better for you than anything you’ll find in a grocery store or at a butcher, and bring it home for your family.

On a moral level, hunters are conservationists. They maintain the balance in nature that’s been thrown off by human expansion. I’ve never been around people that love wildlife and wilderness more than hunters.

2. Procreate.

Protect, provide, procreate. At our base, that’s what we’re here for. We’re also here to create something, to give the world something of benefit, by all means, have that ‘something’ be the child you raise and teach.

As a culture, we need more fathers who stick around to raise their seeds. Be one such man. The ultimate measure of a man is the family he provides for and protects. The simple act of having a family is a vital aspect of fulfilling your role as a man. (Read This: 10 Lessons Every Father Should Teach His Son)

3. Travel to a place you’re scared of.

Go to places that make you uneasy. You’ll find that, often, the uneasy was just the unknown, the unfamiliar, and once it became familiar it became enjoyable.

Theodore Roosevelt is a great example of this. He was scared of the west. So he headed to North Dakota, bought a ranch, and became a cowboy.

How did he deal with his fear? He acted as if he wasn’t afraid at all.

“There were all kinds of things I was afraid of at first, ranging from grizzly bears to ‘mean’ horses and gun-fighters; but by acting as if I was not afraid I gradually ceased to be afraid.”

Act as if you’re not afraid and you shall cease to be afraid. Facing fears makes you stronger. Living a life of safety and ease makes you weaker.

It can be argued that staying safe for your entire life, never venturing beyond your zones of comfort, isn’t actually life. It’s merely existing, waiting for death in a purgatorial state.

Living, the verb, demands that you act and improve. What now brings you fear should, in time, cease to make you afraid.

4. Fix your own vehicle.

Before Youtube existed, my old man relied on the ‘For Dummies’ books. He must have had all of them.

He isn’t naturally a handy fella, but he taught himself to fix things around the house. Such has been the way of men for every generation in existence except for our most recent few.

We want everything now. When we do work around the house or on our vehicle there’s a sense of accomplishment that’s tough to replicate at work, which is, by-in-large, in an office today and devoid of the sense of accomplishment that comes with fixing something or building something with your hands.

Repairing things that belong to you teach you things that we’re seeing less and less today.

It teaches you to be patient, and to not freak out when you can’t find the solution to a problem right away. It teaches you to solve your own problems rather than pawning them off onto someone else. It gives you pride that cannot be found in much of the work we do today.

5. Build something, anything.

This goes, again, to actually doing things with your hands.

I’m as useless as they come with fixing things. So if I can do a few things, anyone can.

This summer I’m going to build the fences on either side of my house. It’s something that should last a couple decades. Having someone build them for me is an option, but the satisfaction that comes from building them myself cannot be measured.

It will take a ton of time, time that I will have to create. This is where priorities come in. I genuinely see the importance of building said fences as far greater than the money saved instead of having someone else do them. It’s not about money. Not everything is about money.

I’ll have to create the time to build the fences by working longer than normal hours and going without a day off a week for a few weeks.

The things on this list are inconvenient, which is why so few of us will actually do them. Be one of the few. (Read This: 9 Ways You Can Become More Manly)

6. Get in peak physical shape.

Every man should know what it feels like to be elite. Being in truly great shape, where you combine strength, power, and endurance, enables you to do things that others cannot do.

You can go places where people can’t go. You can climb mountains, hunt animals, explore nature, and live life dangerously while everyone else is held captive by their weakness.

In life you’re essentially trying to break down barriers. The less standing between you and the life you want to lead, the better, more exciting your life is going to be, and the more successful it will be.

At least once in your life, feel what it’s like to get in impeccable shape.

7. Gallop on horseback.

One of the things I love to do when visiting a new place is to explore the countryside on horseback.  I didn’t grow up on a farm and I wasn’t raised around horses, so getting on them is still something that’s new to me, but men have hunted and explored on horseback for thousands of years.

The purpose of the actual gallop as it pertains to this list, is to do something thrilling.

Going full speed on horseback on the countryside or in the foothills of the Andes like I did in Argentina, is thrilling. There’s something awesome about hopping on the back of these majestic and powerful animals. The rider has control, but not 100%, complete control, which adds to the thrill. If something pops out from the bushes, the horse is going to get spooked.

Think of something thrilling that you’d like to do, and do it. Don’t wait. It’s these little thrills that make us feel alive, whether it’s cliff diving or scuba diving or hunting in grizzly country with a bow, living isn’t meant to be boring.

When people say they feel ‘alive’ it’s usually because they’ve done something thrilling. Danger is a good thing. It should be a compass, not a deterrent.

8. Get in a fight.

Our greatest fear is death, and the cousin of that fear is bodily harm.

People who think that getting into a fight isn’t a necessary aspect of a man’s life are stupid and afraid. And yes, this is a rare instance where we can paint an entire lot with a broad stroke.

Men have been warriors far longer than we’ve been this soft, sedated, safety-obsessed lot that we’ve become.

For one, if you’ve never been in a situation that demands you fight, then you’ve never thrown yourself into daring enough situations. You also don’t truly stand for what you believe.

Fighting is barbaric, sure. It’s archaic. It’s seen as something we no longer need to do by people who call names but would never put themselves in harm’s way.

Men need to fight. You need to fight. Join a boxing gym and spar, do something that will bring you back to one of our major purposes, which is to protect and defend those we’re charged with caring for.

Please, don’t brush this one off as being Neanderthalic. When you get over this fear you’re going to be a better man for it, and not just for you, but for those around you.

9. Accomplish one massive goal.

There are massive goals that most of us treat like dreams. It may be to own a mansion or make a million dollars in a single year. Maybe it’s to travel to every country on the planet.

Who knows what it is, but we all have one that means a lot to us and our image of what accomplishment and success is. Meaning and purpose are closely linked to accomplishment. If you want to live a fulfilled life, get married, have kids, do things for others, lead others, and win.

Win at what you think is important.

This takes decades. It isn’t won by luck or chance, but persistence. In the end, it’s worth the long hours and the grit that the long journey required of us.

Acting As If

Define who you want to become, and then act as if you are him.

That’s the ‘secret’ to getting what you want in life. It isn’t easy. The guy you want to become is likely accomplished, thus, he’s a worker, he’s disciplined, he’s frugal, he knows what to invest his time and money into and what to avoid.

He’s also likely daring. He’s not obsessed with safety, like most people are. He wants adventure. He wants to feel alive.

This means you’re going to have to face your fears, which isn’t something we naturally do.

You’re going to have to take risks and train your body to be able to withstand said risks.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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