manliness - what does it mean to be manly?

Can you be manly? Of course. You don’t call an effeminate ‘manly’. You don’t call a weak, timid man, manly. You wouldn’t look at a guy who’s always afraid, who gets pushed around by people and the world, manly.

Every man should aim to be manly. While we’re told to be good, be kind, and be successful, but a part of success is being good at being a man, something that’s almost completely forgotten by our society and culture.

Aspiring to be more manly is aiming to become a more successful man. But instead of using money or popularity as a barometer for success, you’re using masculinity. The more masculine you are, the more of a man you are.

Our society has messed up what it means to be a man in a big way. Hence, sometimes we need articles like this one to help clarity.

Here’s the reality, we know a man’s man when we see one and meet one. There’s something unspoken that stands out about the guy, how he carries himself, who he is, and even how he looks.

If you think this is an archaic topic, then you’re on the right site. If you believe in the myth of toxic masculinity, then again, wrong site. If you think that masculinity is in some way bad, wrong site, wrong article.

This article is for guys who want to improve every area of their life, including how masculine they are, and I applaud you for doing so.

You don’t make a society safe by making weak men, they’ll stab you in the back, they’re devious. You make a society safe by building strong men, by allowing them to be strong and dangerous so as to keep the rest of the flock in check.

  1. Be a sheepdog

Evil exists. It cannot be won through peace or compassion. It is evil. It’s illogical. It’s dark and it preys on the weak. Men must be the sheepdogs guarding the weak that evil aims to decimate and enslave.

  1. Do manly shit

“Over-sentimentality, over-softness, in fact, washiness and mushiness are the great dangers of this age and of this people. Unless we keep the barbarian virtues, gaining the civilized ones will be of little avail.”

Masculinity is barbaric. Society needs it to be. It is not soft, though once it’s strong it can be softened and refined. You cannot aim to be soft first, you need to be tough, gritty and barbaric, and you practice being so by doing manly, barbaric things.

Hunt, fight, practice the art of being dangerous. If you don’t have the capacity to be dangerous, if you can be pushed around and beat up, you’re not doing this manliness thing correctly.

  1. Be responsible

Too many think that ‘being the man’ is doing whatever the hell you want. If you’re not providing for your family, if you’re not saving for a rainy day, if you’re not someone that your family can depend on, you’re definitely doing this man thing wrong.

You’re the rock, the shoulder, the constant. You can’t be a boy. You can’t show up. You have to be the leader of the house, the tribe, and everything else.

The Lost Art of Manliness

Being manly is a necessary quest for every man to take part in. From the time you’re a boy, you aspire to be so. You don’t look up to wimps or whiners, but strong, self-reliant men. You aspire to be like them. You grow and age and you must continue this pursuit until, eventually one day, you’re the man that everyone looks to for protection, help, and guidance.

Be that guy

Don’t go the soft route of society, go the route that men took to build nations, not the weakness that threatens to see them crumble.