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How to Be an Alpha Male (not what you think)




If you want to know how to be an alpha male, think of the best leaders in history, they know how to be an alpha male because they often led louder, bigger, more aggressive men into battle. Should you WANT to know how to be an alpha male?

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Well, you do, and you may not understand why you do, but no matter what anyone tells you, you want it. It’s something deep in your soul that wants greatness, achievement, to build a legacy, to win and succeed on a scale that you’re not entirely sure is possible.

You call it ‘being an alpha male’, a leader, a winner, but you could call it being a success, being a man, living a great life. Regardless, you should want to know how to be an alpha male. You should want to know how to reach your potential. You should want to know how to be your best and to live your best life and to win and dominate life.

Just as the alpha male ape does what the alpha male ape does (read this article on how the alpha male ape has to maintain power), constantly trying to win and keep power, you have to do the same. It’s who you are. It’s what will make you think that you lived a great and good and meaningful life. So, yes, you should want to know how to be an alpha male, but most of the information out there come from those who are the opposite, who are loud, hiding and trying to cover up weakness rather than trying to win, succeed, and dominate life.

Their’s is arrogance, not confidence, and you cannot have the former if you want to be an alpha male, it just won’t work.

How to Be An Alpha Male

  1. Don’t be loud, it shows weakness.

The line comes from American Gangster. The loudest one in the room is often the weakest. You can see this in confrontation a lot. Growing up, in my early twenties, I knew how to fight. Or I learned how to fight by taking up boxing, having some fights, doing well, improving in the sport, and so forth. Knowing how to fight made me quieter, more confident.

I knew I could handle myself. Noise and false bravado wasn’t necessary. I got into a couple fights with guys who didn’t know how to fight. They would be loud, aggressive, mean, rude, and think that their aggression would make someone else timid, and I’m sure it often did. But they didn’t know how to fight. Not well at least. So when the loudness didn’t work, and they were forced to fight, they’d get beat up, and they’d see that all of their bravado was a lie, the loudness was a cover up for the fact that they weren’t unable to succeed at what they were threatening to do; beat me up.

  1. Achieve something.

Confidence for men comes from achievement, from overcoming obstacles. It cannot be a lie or it won’t stand the test of time. You need to set big goals and achieve them if you want to be a true alpha, as do I. We won’t truly feel powerful unless we become powerful.

Set goals and work hard. Even the daily achievement of doing work well will give you confidence, a deep, true confidence that comes from achievement, not some hippie thought tricks or chants.

  1. Overcome obstacles.

Again, true power and confidence is won by overcoming obstacles. Thus, you have to see the obstacles in your life, whatever they are, or how out of control they make you feel, as opportunities, not as curses. Do not wish for them to go away, that’s what losers do.

Instead, figure out how to struggle well, how to rise above and conquer the obstacle and gain the confidence that comes from winning.

  1. Build a strong body that makes you dangerous.

Part of being an alpha is to be what men are bred to be, protectors. We need more good men who are dangerous than bad men. You also need a strong, powerful body to be able to withstand the life you’re aiming to live, hopefully one filled with daring and ambition.

  1. Learn how to fight and shoot.

Learning how to fight, especially, will give you a deep, inner power and confidence that’s hard to explain. When you know you can handle yourself in any situation, you don’t feel the need to be loud or overly aggressive, you just take care of business.


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Chad Howse

Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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