The alpha is the dominant male…
In nature it’s easy to see and define. He’s the male lion in charge of the pride, the silver back gorilla, the dominant chimp.
Human dominance and leadership, however, is more nuanced.
In certain situations, physical domination is necessary – or at least its threat. In other situations, leadership is what’s required.
To lead is to inspire, to guide, to carry and aide.
That’s the alpha we’re after. (Read This: What Is An Alpha?)
He’s the leader, the warrior not the worrier, the guy who’s calm while everyone else loses their heads. He can dominate physically, but also mentally.
He’s led by virtues not by desires.
The true alpha male in human circles cannot be confined to the laws that alphas live by in nature. He needs to be much more than dominant and domineering, he must be inspiring, he must lead, he must win, while helping others win.
1. He knows where he’s going.
First and foremost, if you’re going to lead you have to know where you’re leading people. You cannot just exist. You have to have a clear destination if you’re to choose the path wisely.
2. He inspires others.
People cannot be told what to do, they have to make the decision on their own, but that’s a decision you lead them to make. You give them the power to decide, but you inspire them to make the decision you want them to make.
Decide through actions and words. People are looking for someone to follow. Don’t bark orders; instead inspire.
3. He’s decisive.
Knowing where you want to go is great, but not nearly as powerful as going where you want to go, choosing a path, and trudging forward.
Make a decision and stick to it.
Practice making faster decisions. Trust your gut. Trust who you are and what you want and that, regardless of the path you choose, you’re going to make it work.
Practice being more decisive in every area of your life. Choose what you want to eat, the movie you want to watch, the book you want to read, the lady you want to talk to. Then get after it.
4. He is his beliefs and virtues, regardless of the masses, of the fads, of the situation.
You cannot be an alpha and be a fraud.
That is, you cannot tell people to do one thing while you do another, or believe one thing while your actions convey something very different.
Know what you believe in, know your values and virtues, and then live by them, become them.
5. He’s dangerous.
Part of being an ‘alpha male’ is being a man. And being good at being a man entails you can do what men are bred to do, which is to protect. You have to have the capacity for danger in that you have to know how to fight, and win.
When you’re at least good at fighting, your confidence in social situations becomes more concrete, more real, more calm.
6. He’s calm, even quiet, while all around him is in chaos.
A lot of these self-help fellas will say that an alpha male is loud. He isn’t.
This is where we can look at nature.
The alpha lion in a pride is calm and quiet, indifferent to everything around him until there’s a viable threat. It’s only when that threat’s viable that he becomes loud and aggressive.
The loudest one in the room is typically the weakest. He’s after attention. He’s not a leader, he’s a jester, a child.
Be so calm that you don’t have to show your strength or toughness or intelligence at every opportunity. It’s there and you know it and you could care less if everyone else does as well.
7. He’s humble enough to know that talent on its own is useless.
As an alpha you have to accomplish. You cannot go through life without accomplishment, and your goals are likely going to be greater than the rest of the crowd, so you’re going to have to understand that you are not talented enough to win without discipline, hard work, and persistence…
… No one is.
Be humble enough to know that everyone can teach you something, and that you’ll get nothing without working harder and smarter than your competition.
8. He’s willing to do what others aren’t in order to get what he wants.
This doesn’t mean he’s devious. In fact, a good leader isn’t. A good leader is willing to delegate when a bad one wants complete control.
A good leader is willing to give praise to a subordinate when it’s earned, he doesn’t need the glory, he’s confident enough to pass it to another.
An alpha isn’t scared of a challenge, nor of the talents that another possesses. Instead, he uses them, rewards them, and builds them up.
9. An alpha male is able to use others for the greater good.
Snake’s have their purpose. It’s better than you use them to accomplish your goal than to let them get under your skin or to do evil.
Don’t get bent out of shape because someone’s a snake. Don’t let them get in your head if their actions are devious and cunning. Become more cunning. Use them to help you reach your goal rather than letting them do their devious deeds without benefit to others.
Most will let a snakey person push them off their game. The alpha doesn’t. He’s the leader of the good, the bad, and the ugly.
10. An alpha male is able to detach his emotions from every situation if needed.
Most people live their lives as a victim to their emotions and desires.
More than just detaching emotionally, you have to be able to detach from the situation itself if you’re to see what’s really happening.
To win and to lead you cannot be in the bubble of emotion to make a clear and good decision. Step back, assess, make a decisive decision, and take action.
About The Author
Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.