What you want isn’t free. The greater the goal, the greater the required sacrifice.

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Life is a free market. (Read This: Someone is Taking Your Share of the Market)

If you want something great, you’re going to have to give something of greater or equal value.

Most often this exchange is made in time and effort and uncertainty. This is life.

Most people expect something to happen by chance. That’s not how the game is played.

If you’re an audacious fella (and there’s no sense in NOT being wildly ambitious) you’re going to have to risk a lot in life. Nothing is going to be handed to you nor bestowed upon you in the form of a blessing.

The blessing is your potential.

That’s what’s God-given.

Whatever you use your potential to get or create is on you. You have the capacity to do whatever the hell you want. Don’t be ignorant of this fact. You’ve been blessed with a brain, balls, and an imagination. Use each of them to conjure things no one else thought of while working at a pace no one else can.

Too many people see a blessing as a gift that isn’t earned.

That’s not the blessing.

If you get something that isn’t earned you also won’t have earned the skills and the intelligence to be able to manage such a thing, and you’ll likely lose it (it’s why most lottery winners go broke).

When you see potential as being the blessing, and using it to its extreme capacity not as a good thing to do, but as your DUTY, you open yourself up to accomplishing things even greater than what you can dream about.

Your duty, as a human that’s alive, is to use every second of every day to become who you have the potential to become, while also creating something of value that’s as valuable as your potential will allow you to create.

Stop waiting for a blessing! You already have it. It’s now your duty to carry it out.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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Become great at learning and you’ll become great. Period.

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If you can get as excited about learning as you do about a massive goal, you’re going to win.

It’s falling in love with the process that makes winners. It’s the process that will help you succeed. Everyone daydreams, they focus on the end, where they want to be and what they want to have, but only a select few fall in love with the process, with practice, with learning. (Read This: Practicing to Become a Winner)

Being a great learner means a few things:

  1. You have to be in the moment when you’re practicing.
  1. You have to be interested in what you’re learning and doing.
  1. The process is all that matters. You’re not doing it for a result, the result may be nice but it’s the process that you care about, it’s the sequence, the skill that you want to master more than anything else. The result is just a nice reward, a measuring stick, it isn’t your focus.

You also have to not care about what others think of what you’re doing. You can’t worry about posting results or showing others what you’re doing behind closed doors, in solitude, all because you want to become a master.

This is your journey. The opinions of others don’t and won’t matter.

It goes against our results-focused society, but also our ‘show and tell’ culture.

It’s almost as if everything we do, we do to show others that we’re doing it.

If you go for a hike or a hunt and you don’t take a picture that you post on the Facebook or the Instagram, did it actually happen?

That’s the mindset people have.

The problem is obvious; rather than living for the moment and the experience and themselves, they’re living to show others. They’ve slaves to the opinions of others, be they likes, comments, or texts, opinions become the reason for doing the activity. The activity is almost secondary. They spend as much time thinking about how they’re going to tell people or show people what they’re doing that they’re not in the moment and they’re not focused on what they’re doing.

Twain has a quote, my internet is off right now so I can’t find it, but it goes along the lines of…

If you find yourself on the side of the masses, stop and think.

I hope that’s it.

It’s the same point.

Trends are something you should ideally not be a part of unless, by some strange sequence of events, a trend is actually beneficial. Most trends aren’t. They’re weightless and frivolous.

Thinking and talking about goals and dreams isn’t always beneficial. Learning and practicing and being process-oriented, is.

This is just something to think about and to be mindful of. It’s not bad to post things or to talk about things, but be cognoscente as to why you’re doing something and what you’re focusing on when you’re doing it.

Create environments that force this focus as well.

I, for instance, have adopted the practice of wearing noise-cancelling headphones when I work. I put on calming music or sounds like running rivers or crashing waves, and I write. There’s only one focus. The internet is off. If Teddy’s trashing my house, I can’t hear a damn thing. The work is all that matters and it’s all that should matter.

We’re pulled in far too many directions. As humans, throughout our history, the great creators have always been able to focus on a single thing because there was only a single thing to focus on. Thus, they unknowingly trained to be able to focus for longer periods of time. We’re training to NOT be able to focus because we have so many options and distractions and a sense of entitlement that, if we work for a while, we should be rewarded.

That’s not how life works. You’re rewarded for something when you earn it, and the process of earning something can take a lifetime.

Keyword: process.

Fall in love with it and forget about the dream. You’ll get there if you love the process.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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A day is a page of a book and, as such, it cannot be written without a reason or direction, as a part of a bigger narrative.

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Write something worth reading or do something worth writing.” ~ Ben Franklin

Each day is a page. Each year is a chapter. Have you ever thought about the book you’re writing?

Think about it. You’re writing a novel, right now, and it may be something grand and great, or, if you’re like the masses, it will be boring as hell. The choice is completely yours, what you write, that is.

Are you paying attention? Are you, on a daily basis, focusing on the life you’re living and where you’re heading and who you’re becoming? Or are you simply existing?

The reality is that most people go through the motions. We go through the motions every day of our lives, save for a few where we genuinely feel alive. It’s those few days that we talk about and remember and tell others about, but, the majority of our lives is still spent doing things we thing we ‘have to do’ rather than doing what we want to do.

For many in the west, we ignorantly feel as though our course is set for us from a young age.

We go through high school, then attend college, then travel a little, then work, then retire, then die.

There are moments of life, but the overall trajectory is embarked upon on autopilot, in ignorance of the choices we can make every day that can dramatically change such a course into a direction that’s much more suited to what our souls ask us to pursue.

Much of this sedated existence is a product of laziness and of fear.

We stick to what we know and who we know and never step out beyond this path. We feel like fish in a stream never realizing that we have the ability to stand up, get out of the water, and climb a mountain and see something few eyes – if any – have ever seen before.

That’s what’s unique about being human. Our existence is more about survival and pleasure. There’s a deeper purpose to what we do if we’re aware of the choice and if we’re courageous enough to make it.

That’s the recipe: awareness and courage.

That’s all. You have the capacity for both. It’s time to start using them and to really think about what you’re doing with your minutes, hours, days, weeks, and years before your last year is upon you which, you have no clue when that moment will come, so be mindful of how you’re spending your time and WHY you’re using it and for what purpose you’re using it.

This is important stuff that we only give minutes a week or even year. Come January we think of this stuff, but after a few days we’re back into a mode of active and living that isn’t exceptional at all, which makes no sense because the potential to be exceptional and to live an audacious and daring life is within all of us if only we’d have the awareness and the courage to make the right decisions and take the necessary actions to live a life worth writing.



A lot of people are going to want to kick me in the nuts for assuming the source of their unhappiness. I get it. However, I’m a human who’s happy and unhappy and I hear from hundreds of humans who explain why they think they’re unhappy, yet miss the underlying reason for said mood. (Read This: How to Beat Depression)

Happiness is almost irrelevant. It’s meaning and purpose that are more important. Happiness is an emotion. It’s something we should be able to control, yet most of us have no clue this is even an option.

Mistake #1: Most people try to find things that make them happy.

We confuse happiness and pleasure. Pleasure is easy to get. You can buy it. You can spend your entire savings on things that give you pleasure or a momentary dump of dopamine. We also want joy and laughter. So we pursue fun.

Fun is momentary; it has to be finite. Fun needs to be a part of your life but it won’t give the underlying purpose and meaning you crave.

Mistake #2: Pleasure seekers ignoring the necessity for goodness.

We all have souls. There’s something within us that maybe is us that needs to feel good about who we are and what we’re doing. If you’re seeking pleasure in things that don’t make you feel as though you’re being good, you’re going to feel icky.

Goodness and morality are becoming forgotten things in our society because they’re judgemental – even judgemental of one’s self, forget about others. Judgements can be tough, though. We need judgement to determine what’s good and bad, right and wrong, and being good is beneficial.

It makes us deeply happy to give and to serve. It’s a more meaningful sense of happiness than what pleasure can give, and it lasts longer.

Mistake #3: You’re searching when you should be creating.

Accomplishment is a massive part of being happy and living with a purpose that many a wanderer or hippie or millennial tends to ignore.

We need accomplishment, and this is the big one that most people miss out on. We don’t just need to accomplish something good and grand in life to prove to ourselves that we were both here for a purpose and a reason, but also to show that we used what we were given, be it talent or intellect. We also, however, need to accomplish things every day.

My path to a happy day is one where my to-do’s are ticked.

My path to an unhappy day is one without structure, where I didn’t get anything done because I was trying to do everything at once. An unhappy day has characteristics:

1. It begins late.

Sleeping in is lazy, it’s devoid of discipline and it starts a day on a whim, not with a purpose.

2. There’s no pain.

We need pain. My pain has to come in the form of physical activity and training. Pain shows me I’m improving. An easy day without any activity whatsoever feels like a waste.

3. There’s no plan.

This is big. If I have no plan and the success of my day is left to chance, then chance will take my success and throw it in the garbage. We all need a plan. If we don’t have one we’re simply wandering, we’re not doing or being or living. (Read This: How to Create The Perfect Day)


how to be happy every day

Your life will have variety; it has to. You should travel and explore. You must get into dangerous situations. You need to be in nature.

Each of these things are a must. On a daily level, even with these facts of life in mind, you need to win.

The topic of ‘being happy’ seems like it would be a weightless topic devoid of structure and completely made up of theory. Those who aim to create consistent happiness only with theory and nothing concrete will having nothing consistent in their lives.

Thus, happiness must be won and it must be routine.

To achieve this, forget about your grand goals, forget about the things you want to chase that you think will make you happy and simply win your mornings.

If you win your morning you’ll accomplish things, you’ll win, you’ll feel good about yourself and you’ll improve every day.

Follow these simple steps:

1. Wake up one hour before you need to.

how to be happy every dayEase into your day. Wake up. Do something active (100 push-ups). Open a book and read as well as a journal and write. Plan your day.

When you wake up when you ‘need to’, you rush. Rushing and being busy is being lazy. It’s a lack of planning and attention to detail. Don’t be lazy, it’ll make you unhappy.

2. Choose one thing to do.

Choose only one thing to do during the day. This is your most important task. It’s what you need to do to feel as though you’ve won the day. It’s not the only thing you’re going to do today, but it will get your best hours and your most intentional focus.

3. Block off 2-3 hours during your day for this one thing.

Today (Monday) is my article-writing day. I write 3 long articles. The internet is off, I have no clue where my phone is, and there’s only one thing I’m focusing on, and that is writing those articles.

There are other things in my day that need to be done, but this is the only thing I have to get done. From 6-9am I write three, 1,000+ word articles for this web site. I get this done before 9am and I feel good, as if I’ve done something good.

That’s it.

Of course, be good, don’t do things that make you feel icky, whatever those things are, they can be watching porn or watching TV, they can be spending money frivolously or being a dick to people. Whatever they are, don’t do them.

Being happy is tied so closely to accomplishment and accomplishment rests on our habits that we need to create habits that help us win so we can be happy.

Trust me.

Create an effective morning routine that helps you accomplish all that you want to accomplish. You’re going to have more free time to do the things that bring you joy, to embark on adventures, and you’re going to have far less happiness-killing stress in your life.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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A major goal in life is to be confident. Confidence is merely a choice. There’s much hoopla made about this choice as if it’s a code to crack and only a few crack it, but the more confident you get the more you realize that it was just a simple decision all along.

Travel helped me realize this choice was, in fact, a decision I could make no matter the evidence in front of me. It’s shown me that no matter how unconfident I should be, and no matter how new a situation or place is to me, the decision to act confidently can be made, and must be made if I’m to fully enjoy and experience whatever I’m faced with.

There are a few quotes that sum up what I understand about travel:

“The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only a page.” ~ Saint Augustine

That a man said this before plains and trains and automobiles is incredible. When travelling was an arduous endeavor, to see its benefits is incredible. That’s a man who had courage. I agree with the statement. Had I not travelled – and I’m certainly not finished with it – there’s a lot about the world and about myself I would not know.

Travelling isn’t a matter of finding yourself, that’s nonsense. You discover things that were already there, but it helps you forge the man you’re aiming to become. There was never anything to ‘find’.

“A man travels the world over in search of what he needs and returns home to find it.” ~ George A. Moore

I took two, three-month trips almost back-to-back. One to Italy, the other to Argentina. After the trip to Argentina I was done with the lack of a home base, I was done with the uncertainty that comes with always being on the road. It’s travel that got me to buy a house, a dog, and stay in one place for well over a year.

While travelling is wonderful, a man still needs a place to call his own, a castle, as it were.

“A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.” ~ Lao Tzu

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I’ve never traveled with plans. It’s resulted in stress, which created an ability to deal with stress. It also allowed me to do things at the recommendation of locals. No book can tell you the hidden treasures of a land that only people who’ve lived there for decades could possibly know.


This list will change in two years. I’ll likely add to it, edit it, and alter it completely. For now, here are 5 places I genuinely think every guy needs to visit before he dies.

1. Alberta

My home that’s only been my home for a year and a half. I grew up just outside of Vancouver, British Columbia, known as one of the most beautiful cities in the world and routinely ranked as one of its most liveable cities.

So why is it not on the list?
It’s a city. Go to any city and you’ll get a similar experience, save a few that have a history so unique they have to be enjoyed both in the day time and at night. Vancouver’s beautiful, but it isn’t a must-visit. Alberta is, and not because of Calgary or Edmonton – it’s two main towns – but the mountains that they border, the Rockies.

Within the Rockies you can hike, hunt, and explore. If you go deep enough you’ll see things that only a few humans have ever seen. These mountains are where the Revenant were filmed. They’re where Grizzly bears, black bears, elk, moose, deer, mountain lions, and wolves wander. The wildlife is unmatched. The rawness and beauty can’t be touched.

It’s a land of explorers and adventurers where it’s actually wise to carry a gun because you never know what’s keeping an eye on you. Those are the places where men can be men, where your fears can be faced and your skills can be tested.

2. Africa

best places to travelCape Town was beautiful, but it’s still a city. It took a few days to get the gist of it and want to get out into more remote lands, which is where every fella should go.

Africa is a place I went to recently, and will return to again soon, in a different part and maybe for a different purpose. The diversity of wildlife is incredible, and the harshness of daily life in its more remote areas is something that we all need to see, especially western folk. We have it so cushy, so easy. Almost every one of us in the west are automatically in the top 1% as far as earnings are concerned ($30k/year).

Africa is a harsher place, and when that’s all you know, you find happiness even amidst what many would deem as brutality.

3. Rome

Yes, a city, but one that took me a month to fully appreciate. Depending on when you go there it’ll seem like there’s more foreigners in Rome than actual Italians. There are hoards of Chinese tourist groups snapping pictures, Americans dining at the street-side restaurants, and North Africans selling trinkets or, as was my experience a couple times, trying to pick your pockets (fun story for another time).

It’s a tourist haven, which sucks, but you’re not there for the people, necessarily. Go to the smaller towns, like Norcia or Sorano (another place every fella should visit) to meet some of the nicest people you’ll ever meet. Rome is about the history. You can’t walk a minute without seeing something that was built over a thousand years ago.

It’s a spiritual place. There’s a deep connection to the past that every one of us should experience. It’s this Roman tradition that America was based off of. It was the empire of empires for two thousand years and much of it still stands. The Coliseum is in relatively good shape and to be where gladiators fought with beasts in front of 50,000 cheering Romans is an experience.

I’ll be back soon. That history, the architecture, the food and the coffee are incredible. With that said, don’t just go to Rome. Go north and south and see the small towns in Italy that were created as military outposts when Romans ruled the world.

4. Texas

Nothing much needs to be said about Texas. There are horses and guns and lots of land. Not much else a man can need. You can smell the freedom in the open spaces, just be sure to get out of the cities.

5. Argentina

I wanted to put a place, like Calafate or Iguazu Falls, but then I thought about Ushuaia and the Salta region, and Teddy, my dog, who I got from a guy I met in Beunos Aires, and the single place couldn’t be decided upon, so the country it is.

best places to travelIt’s a big country. You go from the north, which is a hot, tropical jungle with the largest waterfall on the planet (Iguazu – power that needs to be experienced first-hand). Travelling south you drive through Grand Canyon-like red cliffs and into a lake region where the Andes begin, all the way down through Calafate, a hiker’s paradise where I rode horses for hours along the foothills of the Andes and walked on glaciers and drank in bars and ate the best lamb I’ve ever tasted. From there you head further south to Ushuaia, the closest piece of land to Antarctica.

There’s adventure there. Ideally know Spanish – I didn’t and don’t and I was useless. But you can hunt and you can experience a world in landscape within a nation because of it’s longitude. The wine and the meat are unbelievable. The culture is incredible. The people are kind and generous, but there’s enough crime there to make it a little dangerous, which is nice.


Uruguay: almost all-coastline, and with some of the best beef on the planet, Uruguay is impressive. There are towns on the coast with no electricity whose seas light up when the sun goes down.

Big Sur: one of the most beautiful drives on earth is highway 1 from Eureka Oregon, all the way down the Cali coast. It is absolutely stunning. The only thing that pissed me off about California were the rules. There are endless rules, even surrounding dogs. They have great parks, but you can’t bring your dog into national or state parks. It’s a joke. The lack of freedom in California is eye-opening. Makes sense that so many Californians are heading to Texas.



About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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Arrogance and Confidence

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Confidence is often mistaken for arrogance. Can someone who doesn’t want to bow down to socially imposed norms of behavior be considered arrogant? Or do they simply know what they want, who they are, and refuse to adopt norms preached by the majority?

The line that separates arrogance and confidence is a fine one, even though they are in reality polar opposites. They can be viewed as the positive and negative poles of a magnet. Crossing that fine line (or even appearing to cross it) can have different consequences in a variety of personal and professional situations.

Arrogance vs. Confidence

One of the universal truths in life is that everything is in the eye of the beholder. Whether someone is arrogant or confident depends on our subjective experience and judgment. It is also a culturally sensitive matter, but in the end – the foundations you build your attitude on are the key differentiators between arrogance and confidence.

Arrogance is baseless, unwarranted confidence which lacks humility and respect, while confidence has its basis in expertise and experience, with a sense of humility and respect. The fact that the difference is not black and white makes it prone to different interpretations. It is a wide spectrum with dominating shades of grey.

However, you can always tell when someone has trespassed across the line. Take the example of someone who is really good at what they do. Insanely good. And they can either choose to be arrogant or confident about it. If they choose to accept compliments with grace and freely acknowledge that they have a masterful grasp of a certain skill, they can be considered confident. If they choose to brag about their achievements and belittle others, only to raise themselves even higher, they have clearly strayed into the fields of arrogance.

Another aspect which can often be interrelated with arrogance is ignorance. Ignorance is a lack of knowledge, information, education or understanding. We can define arrogance as a sense of one’s abilities or importance that is exaggerated, making one believe to be better than others.

Who Are the Confident Ones?

Confident people are aware of their value and worth, but are also humble and realistic enough to know and accept their weaknesses. Confidence is something internal, but it has a way of rearing its head and is visible to the external surroundings. Knowing where you can crack doesn’t make you less of anything, but rather puts you in a position of knowing what you should pay attention to the most, as well as which aspect of your existence require lifestyle changes and improvement.

To relate to Emerson’s quote from the beginning, confident people know what they want and where they are going, but more importantly – they don’t need the approval of others to live their life in accordance with their own beliefs, not needing to justify their actions and deeds to society at large, but that doesn’t make them rogues or villains in any way. They have determined their own goals and strive to reach them.

Confident people don’t hesitate to share their knowledge. They know that sharing it won’t make them any poorer for it, but will only enrich their interlocutors. Criticism is welcomed with efforts to analyze it from various aspects and implement smart pieces of advice and wisdom into their own mode of living.

Arrogance Repels

Positive people are repelled by the arrogance of others. It hinders progress and is detested in a conversation as it is disrupting of any type of collaborative environment and breaks down trust.

On the other hand, confidence is a magnet because it attracts positive people and promotes progress. In case you have troubles in recognizing whether you are perceived as confident or arrogant by others, ask a family member or a close friend to speak honestly on the subject. It is sometimes hard to gauge how other people see us, because our self-perceptions get implanted in us before we have a say on the subject. We can improve our weaknesses or find our hidden strengths by learning to change how we see ourselves.

Arrogant Villains

Arrogant people have a constant need to brag about themselves and point out how they are the most handsome and agile, the smartest and best individuals that have ever laid foot on this planet. Thus, it is pretty easy to spot them, because they will always perceive themselves as “their own majesty”, no matter if they come in last. Arrogance is not a flaw inherent to only those who have the goods to back up their arrogant ways. In fact, it is often true that those who are indeed an arms length away from the rest of the pack, are those who are most humble and most insecure.

Even if you are in fact the best at what you do, if you have the need to constantly blow your own horn and fashion your own laurels – you will only be taking yourself a peg down. No one likes a showoff.

Criticism is to arrogant people what garlic is to vampires. If they don’t detest it, they find it hard to swallow in the best of cases. It makes them erupt at it and will never admit their wrongs, but engage in counter-attack aimed at those who try to teach them. Criticism reveals their insecurities. However, instead of accepting criticism and trying to use it as a leverage for personal improvement, arrogant people actually never think of bettering themselves but to stand tall on other people’s backs.

Building Confidence

This is a construction process that requires time and patience. As well as a lot of different bricks and a fair amount of mortar. Here’s how you can set yourself off on the road to becoming more confident in yourself, yet not assuming the learning mask of arrogance.

Mind your manners. Pleasure lies in selflessness. Be a gentleman, say “please” and “thank you”, and never jump into the middle of people’s sentences. Open doors, hold up coats and pour drinks. Turn this into a state of mind and let it be a reflection of your own personal philosophy.

Read. There are no rules about what you should read whatsoever. Read anything you like, whether it’s classic literature, modern bestsellers, or Hegelian philosophy. Reading is beneficial in many ways, and will help you expand your vocabulary, improve your memory, strengthen your analytical skills. Improve your cognitive performance by regularly solving a crossword puzzle in the papers. Don’t be afraid to tackle the New York Times on a Sunday.

Physical fitness. Work on improving your appearance, because it will also contribute to sharpening your mind. You don’t have to work out to become Mike Tyson, but to feel better in your own skin. Once those endorphins get released into your bloodstream and your posture gets improved, your confidence will slowly start to show.

Smart use of technology. You want to learn a foreign language? Install Duolingo. Don’t know how to adjust your fitness routine and nutrition? Use Daily Yoga, Fooducate, or Sworkit. Human inventiveness goes far beyond Netflix and Pokemon Go.

Dress well. Knowing that we look our best can boost our confidence in an instant, and affect people’s perception of us as well. This doesn’t mean you should wear a suit, but find your own style that fits your personality, career, personality, and of course, your pocket.

The Opposing Powers of Magnetism

Fire can provide heat during the cold days, but it can also burn down your house. Magnetism can generate electricity, but also destroy your computer’s hard drive. In a similar way, confidence creates while arrogance destroys, but the downside is that destructive forces can destroy anything in just the blink of an eye, while it takes time to build something of value. It is beautiful to see people are able to carry their confidence with respect and humility. It shows their passion, purpose, strength of character, and determination. When someone is able to walk that fine line between arrogance and confidence, it is precious and rare, because it is very challenging. I know that chivalry may be dead to all the world, and it may not even be considered a quality worth having – but you don’t need to be falling in with the crowd.

Finding that kind of balance requires digging deep within yourself in order to get to know your true self, and it is one of the most difficult challenges that we, as human beings, face in our lifetime. Finding that person, accepting it for who it truly is with all the irritations and limitations that come with it is something that no one manages to do completely, but that’s exactly what stands behind the “we live what we learn, then learn what we live” saying.

Maybe you think you’re great, but do you have anything to show for it? Confidence is achieved through hard work and dedication, so if you’re finding you have to defend yourself against criticism and protect the beautiful picture of yourself that you’ve constructed, but don’t have anything to back it up with, ask yourself: could it be that I have lost my map and am now trudging deep in the valley of arrogance?

About The Author

Mathews McGarry is passionate about many forms of strength training, and has spent years lifting, dragging and flipping all manner of heavy objects. After graduating from the Faculty of Health Sciences, he started writing about his experiences, and sharing tips for a better life.

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The struggle, the pain, the excruciating process has to be your goal because the goal doesn’t sharpen you, it finishes you.

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The metaphor of  the road to success being a mountain isn’t right. (Read This: Life Has No Summit)

There is no end. Thinking that there is takes you away from that thing that’s sharpening you, strengthening you, making you tougher, and that thing is the grind, it’s the process, it’s the minutia and the struggle of a life that’s ambitious.

To expect the grind to dissipate is to desire and end to that thing that makes you better. To rest on top of a mountain and to think you’re done is to finish life, it’s to give up or give in.

You’re not working to some end. You’re not hustling trying to find a place in the sun, a place of silence and peace. No, you’re hustling because you love the hustle, you see the good in it, the necessity of it.

To be great is to forego the mindset of the many and acquire the hard view, the torturous view that every damn day you’re going to wake up and thrive at what others run from; the struggle, the hustle, the pain that makes weak men strong and strong men great.


The struggle gives, it doesn’t take. It seems like it’s breaking you down, and it may be, but you decide whether it makes you stronger or if it defeats you.

If you have any ounce of ambition or pride you’re going to guarantee that it doesn’t consume you but that you use it daily to become stronger and harder.

The best among us add to the struggle.

They train harder even when they don’t have to.

They wake up earlier and do something immediately to get into the day.

They use discipline to rule every area of their life, not just a few areas that they think are more valuable than others.

They make their lives tougher because they’re tougher.

This should be you if you want to become something more than the weak, soft, sedated male of our modern world. Training isn’t something relegated to the gym, it’s your way of life, it is your life, and you understand that it’s this training that you need to become who and what you want to become.

Get at it.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

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You have a clearly defined role as a result of being born with balls. Use them.

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Over the lifetime of our species, manliness has been consistent up until the last couple of decades.

Churchill and Teddy Roosevelt, for instance, resemble Homer and Samson far more than they do our modern man with his sensitivities and entitlement.

This likely isn’t a comment on you or who you are, but a comment on what manliness is becoming, and it isn’t manliness at all.

For our entire existence we’ve had a clearly defined role: to Protect, Provide, and Procreate.

Today, in many places in the west, we’re being told that it isn’t our role to protect, that it’s instead role of the state, the nanny, the caretaker of the citizens to do that. We’re also being told that it isn’t necessarily our role to provide, that we can be excused from the workforce if we don’t feel like working or if our lady wants to work instead.

We actually have stay-at-home dads.

These aren’t opinions of what manliness is. Our role was defined by our biology. We couldn’t give birth, women could. A man’s sperm was a man’s sperm, they were interchangeable. One man could be lost in battle or on the hunt and his life-giving properties could be taken over by another man.

A woman’s womb, however, could not be lost. It had to be protected. She couldn’t hunt or go to battle, especially when she was pregnant or taking care of the child. Sure, men raised their sons, but they led their sons, care taking was left to women.

As we devolved (men have been devolving for thousands of years as our brains are shrinking and our bodies are weakening) we still fought for and provided for our family.

We’d work horrible jobs simply to bring home food. We’d keep a bat or a gun under our beds to ward off evil men.

At it’s core, that’s what manliness is. It’s a very simple role that our biology dictated we fit into.

Qualities like grit and gameness and intelligence gave us our best men. If a man wasn’t game for battle, he was a coward, he was useless. If a man wasn’t good at battle, he served little purpose. If a man was dumb, but strong and game he still served a purpose and that was to protect those who thought for a living.

Socrates understood that his freedom to ponder was defended by the men outside of the city gates.

Theodore Roosevelt saw it as a duty to serve his country and a duty to live manfully.

Cities and nations were built on the backs of men who did work that no one else wanted to do. Land was conquered by men who were better at killing than the men that stood across from them on the battlefield.


Society loses. Nations that were once strong, steady, and stable, crumble.

The freedoms that we’ve grown accustomed to will be lost, taken by a culture that hasn’t lost its idea of manliness even if that idea is barbaric and even evil.

It’s a weakness that’s spreading, this political correctness, this softness and over-sensitivity that ignores how the world is and how we win.

It’s becoming a bad thing to be a winner. We’d rather have soft leaders, losers who’ve been given handouts, though Trump winning is a sign that there are still humans with brains among us.

Read about the fall of Rome.

Read about the loss of values, of toughness and grit and barbarism that led to a softening of their society and its eventual destruction.

Read about American history and what won the west. Read about the history of whatever nation you reside in, if it’s free it was won by violence, brutality, and honorable men.

This is almost pointless to write this to you. Look where you are, look where you’re reading. You’re not the problem. You can, however, improve. I can improve, clearly. Ideally this finds a fella who hasn’t been taught how to be a man. Maybe he’s grown up around women and doesn’t quite feel like he’s filling his role. Maybe he’s been taught that there is no role, that fixing things and hunting things and fighting things are archaic. They aren’t.

There are aspects of who you are that have to be the same as the man you would have been 500, 1,000, 10,000 years ago. They’ve always been this way. The change we’re seeing is recent. It isn’t good. It’s out of line with our nature, our biology, our hormones, and our identity.

To go the route we’ve been going for the last couple of decades is suicide for a society and the pillars that hold it up. It will also leave you, as an individual, feeling as though you’re living the life of someone else.

For your own mental health, your own identity and meaning and purpose in life, live as a man and as men have lived since men have existed.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.

You can contact him at –