There are certain things that every man should be able to do. They’re baseline skills and characteristics that form either what it is to be a good man or what it is to be good at being a man.
Here are 20 such things. Add more in the comments section. Let me know where you agree or disagree there as well. And by all means, like and share this article if you wish.
1. Find meaning in suffering
To be a man is to endure what others cannot. Every man should read Man’s Search for Meaning, for an explanation of what it is to find meaning in suffering, but also Unbroken, to understand that no matter what we’re going through, it could be both worse and others have endured worse and come out better for it. Whatever you’re embroiled in, seek the meaning of it, seek the challenge within it, and turn it into something that strengthens you.
2. Bear any burden
We’re asked to not only bear our own troubles but to take on those of others and aid them in their difficulty. Know this. It isn’t just about you, but about those who depend on you.
3. Identify what he wants vs what society tells him to want
A man knows what he wants and who he is. He isn’t on quests to find himself, instead, he creates himself based on the ideal he’s set forth and the goals he aspires to achieve. These goals are not society’s goals. They are not to consume or to be a peacock, a man of show and little worth. A man must set his own course and not be swayed by the trends that society, especially a consumer society, sets for him.
Learn to defend yourself and those under your care even if they don’t know that they’re under your care. Men, we have testosterone coursing through our bodies, this creates denser bones, greater musculature, and a greater ability to fight.
Use this ability. We are seeing women all over the world being raped and assaulted and punished by a warped ideology, stand up to it, defeat it. (Read This: Why You Need to Fight)
Build wealth, not possessions. Valuables aren’t actually valuable unless they’re silver, wine, art, or gold – or stocks.
Invest in things that will increase your wealth, not your social status. Social status is a myth. It’s something founded on image and opinion, not on reality. The more you seem to be worth or have, or the more style or taste you have, the greater your status – perceived status, of course. Have the skill and the guts to ignore such idiotic pursuits and instead invest in things that grow.
Earning money isn’t the most important thing on the planet, but you should be able to earn enough to feed your family and so forth. Money doesn’t measure a man, but there are so many ways to make money today that every guy should have a grasp on how to do it to a degree. (Read This: How to Spend Your Money Like a Winner)
8. Use a gun
Bad guys have guns. Learn how to use them better than those bastards. To ignore the realities of the violence in this world is to be ignorant and unwilling to fulfill your role.
9. Change oil and other auto basics
Self-reliance of any kind, be it protecting your family or maintaining your own house and land, is necessary.
The more self-reliant you are, the better. Being able to, for example, fix your vehicle if it breaks down is a yuge advantage because, as we all know, those bastards break down at the worst time.
10. Not gossip
You should have the ability to completely avoid gossip. It’s a useless use of conversation. Don’t do it, ever.
11. Know his annual budget
Your finances should be planned. The mode of spending what you have leads to stress and dependence, but without a plan it’s incredibly difficult to save and invest enough to gain financial freedom.
12. Deadlift and squat 225 lbs
As a bare minimum, every able-bodied guy should be able to do this. If you’re young and in shape, you should be able to do a lot more for each exercise. Men have testosterone, it’s a hormone that gives us a greater capacity for strength than our wonderful female counterparts. This innate ability to get stronger shouldn’t be wasted. Get stronger, tougher, manlier.
13. Solve problems around the house
Self-reliance is ideal. The more you can do on your own without having to call someone else to help, the better off you are. The only way to learn is to try. Youtube is an insane invention for the ‘do-it-yourself’ type or the wannabe. There’s a video explaining nearly everything.
14. Read at least a book a month
Reading exposes us to new ways of thinking, and to history. It seems as though we’re ignoring history more and more these days, when everything is cyclical. To avoid making the same mistakes over and over again we need to study war and history. Don’t follow this trend to sweep history under the rug, the same things happen over and over but under different circumstances. No matter what’s going on, there’s usually a solution somewhere in our past.
Big game is far healthier than anything you’ll find in a grocery store or butcher, it’s not even close.
Hunting is much more than an experience where you kill your own food, though, it’s getting out into nature in the best way possible. You’re tracking and pursuit and killing, gutting, and transporting. It’s what men have done for thousands of years.
Along the same logic, if you can find your own food you’re not only going to live a healthier life, but it’s an act that connects us to what men have done for as long as men have been men. There’s a peace that you find in nature that you just cannot find in cities, as well. Teach a man to fish…
Some men are born into harsher places than others. Some men have to learn how to survive as it’s an everyday struggle. Every man, though, should test himself in ways that questions whether or not he wants to continue. Every man should spend time in nature, get lost, put himself into dicey situations, travel to new parts of the world and experience different ways of life. Every man should expand his capabilities of all kinds, whether it be hunting, camping, fishing, or earning a buck when his back’s against the wall. A man doesn’t quit, he keeps pushing even if that struggle lasts a lifetime (Read: Man’s Search for Meaning).
18. Find the good in the impossibly horrible.
Man’s Search for Meaning, Unbroken, and Meditations – or any book by or about Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and Epictetus – will provide a map for how to at least find the opportunity where others see crisis. The Obstacle is the Way is another great book that takes ancient wisdom and gives it to the reader in a way that he can apply daily, to any disaster. The point is that there’s always a choice to how we see things and how we react to them. Choose to see them from a place of power, control. See events as a challenge, never as a curse.
19. Be self-aware.
Few know their strengths and are genuinely aware of their weakness. Fewer still are awake to how they’re perceived or viewed by others. Most people live in their own world, in a bubble, that prevents growth and honesty. Like most good, necessary qualities, self-awareness is a necessity if you want to be at your best, both in your character and your accomplishment.
20. Make the difficult decision.
Most people want to make the popular decision. This is what politics in the west has primarily become. Men make the best decision as they see it, popularity or ease plays no role. This has to include choices you make in your own life and for yourself. Don’t make the easy decision. Don’t choose ease. Don’t choose the desire in the present, choose the decision that will bring you the most in your life’s entirety. The best decision, the one that makes you stronger, tougher, better, and more successful, is rarely the easiest one to make or the easiest path to follow
About The Author
Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live.