I live in a bubble. Many years ago I read a book that explained the notion of a person being a collection of the 5 people you hang out with the most. What I realized is that from a young age I’ve gravitated toward other humans who have like interests, be it sports and competition, business, or the simple desire to improve daily. I’ve also shied away from people who lack ambition.

As I read through the book I realized that I’m proud of who I hang out with most. They’re all hustlers. None of my pals complain. They don’t gossip. They don’t blame others for things that happen to them but when they claim a massive victory they rarely give credit to themselves.

In short, I don’t hang out with what we’re seeing from my generation on a larger scale, nor from the younger generations.

So, I don’t see this lack of ambition all that often, except for when I open my facebook or twitter accounts, but even then, I delete or ban people who act like little bitches, who complain, who try to bring others down, and I’ve built a business for myself where I work with people who are seeking to improve, to take responsibility for their own lives and I absolutely love the emails I get and the vast majority of the people on my Facebook Page.

But when I venture into the world, when I come across others my age that aren’t in my group of immediate friends, I’m shocked by the cynicism, ignorance, and downright weakness of the majority of these humans. And when I delve a bit further, the commonalities are glaring and often institutional.

So, are we raising a bunch of pussies? (Read This: You Know You’re a Pussy If…)

Yes and no. Good parents will always raise strong kids, but weak parents usually raise weak kids and our education system is rooted in weakness.

Here’s how we are raising pussies.

1. We Push Safety Over Reality

Safe spaces, these incredibly weak things that now exist on campuses could not have (and have not) existed in any other period of time.

The fact that these even exist and are guarded by faculty and ‘school law’ prove that there is institutional pussification.

This is a weakening of our youth to the point where they can’t hear opinions nor read words that they don’t agree with. They cannot exist in the real world and must be sheltered by sights and sounds in order to feel safe.

Safety is something we feel when we’re free from viable threats. But the viability of a threat has mutated into things that should not offend nor in any way effect our safety.

Words cannot actually hurt another person, especially when they’re not threats but mere different points of view.

When you allow young humans to flee from any form of conflict you create a little bitch. You create a quitter, a cheater, someone who will grow up to destroy a society that fought and fights for freedom of thought, speech, and belief.

What you will eventually create is a monopoly on opinion.

There will be no room for disagreement if disagreement impedes on that little bitche’s feeling of safety.

We’re becoming a society that rewards the weak and attacks the strong.

2. Participation isn’t Victory.

We pattern our societies in the West in the Judeo-Christian theme, but also in the theme of the Ancient Greeks. We applaud their philosophy and politics, yet we’ve grown to completely ignore their motto…

aien aristeuein

Which translates to, always be the best.

That’s it. That’s the call to action that our society was based upon and it’s now frowned upon.

What are you left with when you don’t encourage hard work, competition, and winning?

Well, you remove the men that build our streets, design our buildings, and run our country. You remove innovators. You remove free thinkers.

The pursuit of always being the best cannot be minimized to a single area of focus, either.

The Greeks competed in athletics, art, science, literature, and any other aspect of life that they could compete in.

We as humans need competition. We live and excel and innovate because of it.

Without competition we won’t improve and as a society moves further and further away from it, its citizens fail to excel.

And again, participation awards and removing grades from report cards is institutionalized pussification. (Read This: OUR SCHOOLS TEACH OUR BOYS TO BE PUSSIES)

These are structural adaptations that create weakness, and though there are ideologies that seem to crave more victims, the masses have to wake up and use the common sense that knows that a society that doesn’t have strong winners to lift others up can only have a greater collection of people who are willing to blindly be led by an institution.

The more we remove competition, the more losers we have.

The desire to make people feel good without having earned that feeling will destroy a nation from within.


This isn’t merely a “must” for those on the brink of winning and losing. This isn’t something that only a few benefit from.

When you have more winners you have more leaders, and a society led by good, hard working, high achievers is in a far greater position to thrive from top to bottom than a society who has to take care of its majority.

When a few have to take care of the many and “care” comes in the form of taking from those who’ve earned, you run out of things to take. When, however, “care” comes in the form of work, of teaching skills, those who were once taken care of will learn to care for others when they win their keep.

To do this you cannot have safe spaces, you must encourage conflict and differing thought.

You cannot award mediocrity but must encourage even those who lack talent to figure out how to win.

When you encourage discipline, not anything, you end up with people who aspire for nothing.

About The Author

Chad Howse: Chad’s mission is to get you in the arena, ‘marred by the dust and sweat and blood’, to help you set and achieve audacious goals in the face of fear, and not only build your ideal body, but the life you were meant to live. He’s a former 9-5er turned entrepreneur, a former scrawny amateur boxer turned muscular published fitness author. He’ll give you the kick in the ass needed to help you live a big, ambitious life.
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  1. Chad, your words inspire me. This world is full of pansies where men don’t act like men anymore. I look forward to reading more of your articles.

  2. So it seems that christian monks, Gandhi, Dalai Lama are just pussies, and really cool guys are pure alfa-males like Hitler, Stalin, Trump or Putin. We need more greed, more power, more alfa-baboons. Kill em all, get all their money and women, they are weak pathetic weirdos doing “strange things”. Way to go, dude.

    • Jeez pal, of course not. Monks, Gandhi etc… are calm, assertive, they understand what matters and what doesn’t.

      But you can’t discount the necessity of being a man as men are bred to be, warriors and protectors within our own clan and tribe. Trump, Putin, they’re alpha’s, they’re leaders, Trump is awesome, he’s doing great things that no one talks about (ended TPP, got out of that horrific Paris environmental nonsense, has gone after pedofilia rings, limiting useless regulation, imposed a ban on lobbying within his administration etc…). Putin is leading his country as his people want him to lead. Don’t bunch them with Hitler or Stalin, my goodness, cowards that sent millions to die, men who took from other men. They were communists and socialists, and thus, cowards.

      Anyway, politics aside, there’s being a good man and being good at being a man, we need both.

      • this two alpha’s are driving the world to next “carribean crisis” full speed just to cherish their ego. btw putin is just a mobleader (please believe a russian guy in this question), but i’m talking not about politics – but about the way we, people, deal with each other. it is impossible for everyone to be alpha’s, because if all are – then nobody actually is. so all this story will end up as a “king of the hill” fight between wannabe alpha’s. can you imagine Einstein in a fight club?
        “serve and protect” is pretty different from “go and fight”.

        • Dude… do you actually think we’re raising tougher, stronger, better men than we were during the Depression or the second world war?

          That’s the point. We’re raising cowards who can’t hear differing ideas, cowards who can’t shoot a gun or throw a punch to defend their home, cowards who take money from the government because they’d rather not work. I hate saying it like that because there are so many strong men raising strong boys, but we’re giving out participation trophies for fuck’s sake!

          • I got your point. Agree. But old style of raising kids was too harsh in my humble opinion. There was a guy named Philip Larkin, he wrote this poem, my personal best:

            They fuck you up, your mum and dad.

            They may not mean to, but they do.

            They fill you with the faults they had

            And add some extra, just for you.

            But they were fucked up in their turn

            By fools in old-style hats and coats,

            Who half the time were soppy-stern

            And half at one another’s throats.

            Man hands on misery to man.

            It deepens like a coastal shelf.

            Get out as early as you can,

            And don’t have any kids yourself.


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Chad Howse

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