Gaining true, deep, unbreakable confidence can essentially help you achieve anything you want to achieve.
As Henry Ford put it,
If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.
Others have said similar things…
Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.
You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them. – Michael Jordan
And the list could go on.
The reality is, and this is a reality, no one will believe in you unless you first believe in yourself.
And this goes to grandness as well. We are not here to do small, timid, achievable things, we’re here to go beyond what we know we can do and into the world of what we believe we can do; however, many of us suffer (apt word usage) from a lack of confidence.
Having a lack of confidence is suffering, it’s relegating yourself to a life with less happiness, less achievement, and less joy. Confidence is something that’s under our control.
It isn’t developed through mystical practices or humming with your fingers circled as you sit cross-legged trying to will yourself to confidence, it (and I’m talking about the best form of confidence, real confidence, confidence that’ll help you live as the man you always dreamt of becoming) is developed through habit.
The Habit of Thought, the Battle of Good vs Bad Thoughts (the most important and frequent battle you wage)
We think at 1200 words a minute, in all kinds of directions, often comparing who we are or what we have to who someone else appears to be or what they appear to have. Thoughts can be crippling when it comes to confidence, but they can also be empowering. How to think better, more confident, and more powerful thoughts…
Clean your environment in a few ways. If you have a spouse or close pals that are negative, get them thinking postively. But also clean, it’s hard to be confident amidst a mess. Your environment should reflect you. If you’re impressive, have an impressive environment, if you’re a mess, live in a mess.
Practice gratitude every day. I like speaking it out loud, but writing it is great too, don’t keep it in your thoughts, though, voice or write what you’re grateful for.
Decide who you want to be and affirm that vocally daily. Do you want to be confident, say I’m confident over and over again. Want to be wealthy, impressive, assertive, decisive, etc…? Affirmations work. They change your mode of internal thinking if you say them out loud, they also override that internal thought process that can be so destructive.
4. Idleness is the devil.
Do something productive, always. It’s easy to lack confidence if you’re not improving. Be lifting, running, walking, reading, working, and so on. Don’t ever waste time. Nature fills voids, when you don’t choose what line of thinking you have, bad stuff will inevitably seep in.
Have a definite aim. What is it you’re trying to accomplish right now and what’s your big goal? Have something that you’re pointing your life toward, this is vital.
A dream without a plan is useless. Make it a goal. Plan how you’re going to get it. Set your sights on something big and then create a plan to achieve it. This gives you confidence because you’ll be moving forward. Forward motion breeds confidence because it’s hard not to be confidence when you’re improving.
The thing that can destroy confidence even amidst forward motion is comparison…
7. Stay in your lane.
Don’t ever compare yourself to someone else. If you have that habit, get off social media, identify the thoughts that lead to it, and correct them. You’re on your own path, doing your own thing, stay in your lane and don’t worry about what anyone else is doing.
8. To counteract that, take joy in the successes of others, help them where you can, never ever ever rejoice in someone else’s failures nor despise their success. It’s cancerous to YOU, and to no one else but you.
Take massive, decisive action. Indecision breeds a lack of confidence. It’s a chink in the armor. When you become decisive the world moves to accommodate you.
As Goethe wrote: What you can do, or dream you can, begin it, Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Only engage, and then the mind grows heated, — Begin it, and the work will be completed!
Celebrate even that smallest of victories. I need to work on all of these, but this one the most. We go through life constantly moving on to the next challenge, never realizing what we’ve accomplished already.
This is gratitude, but bigger than gratitude as well. We need to actually celebrate what we’ve done. Have a beer. Smoke a stogie. Book a trip. Take your lady out. Take a lady out. Do something to achnowledge that you’ve actually won some kind of battle, defeated some kind of obstacle.
Confidence is often a missing piece in a great life.
Some try to gain it by building a better-looking body, which may help for a time, but it’s not deep enough.
Some try to gain it with money, which will help, but the amount of rich insecure fellas I’ve met almost rivals the amount of jacked insecure guys I’ve met.
As Thoreau wrote: Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.
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I take Man Greens at 11am or noon every day to get an energy boost and a mental boost, I highly recommend you do the same, PLUS it increases testosterone in men…
Low T increases your chances of experiencing depression.