15 Steps to Be a Better Man

15 Steps to Be a Better Man

To be a better man is a constant and never-ending quest. To be a better man isn’t just a goal, but a duty. There’s this idea that our life is ours and we can live it however we want to live it that leads some to think that laziness is a right, that mediocrity and minimal effort is something that they can aspire for if they so choose.

The fallacy in this belief has nothing to do with what it will get the individual who believes it – though it will bring a lack of happiness, meaning, and purpose, and a lack of self-respect and confidence – but with the fact that our life is not just ours, but in part, those who’ve allowed us to have such a life, one filled with opportunity that we don’t necessarily deserve.

Think of your life not just as your own, but as the latest line in generations. There’s your parents, grandparents, great grandparents, and your other ancestors. For you to live, at some point, people made sacrifices. Your parents made many, but so did your ancestors. To survive as a human 5,000 years ago meant you had to be strong, courageous, and formidable. The weak would die, they would not procreate because they couldn’t protect.

You’re also a part of a society. If the Second World War had been lost, we would not be free. We would be speaking German or Japanese. It’s an easy example of men you don’t know sacrificing their lives so that you could live yours, whether you know it or they knew it at the time.

Your life is owed, it’s a gift. Thus, the gift must be repaid by not remaining as you are born, but improving, growing, evolving, and giving.

To be a better man is not just a goal, but a duty, and one that every man has to fulfill every day.

The Weight

As man, you’re going to have a lot of weight on your shoulders. You’re the guy others look to for support, be it emotional, financial, or physical. That’s what being a man is. It’s about taking on more weight, not pushing it to someone else.

This is tough, it’s difficult, but it is what it is, it is who you are, there’s no escaping it. It’s this reason why your improvement as a man in many different areas is so important. The stronger you are, the more you can carry.

  1. Be better at being a man.

There’s being a good man and being good at being a man. Being good at being a man speaks more to the basic reasons for men, the providers and protectors. You’re the fella at the city gates fighting and protecting those within the city. They may not know that you’re fighting for them, and that’s the goal. You should be working so hard, fighting so hard, that they’re free to live how they want to live, without the stress, worry, and fear that you take upon your shoulders.

On a basic level, this means you at least need the capacity to fight, protect, and provide. Get better at being dangerous. We need more good men who are dangerous, the bad ones will always train to develop that capacity.

  1. Get stronger.

Men need to be strong. If you think about the differences between men and women, our testosterone levels are important. For women, 70ng/dl is good, even high. For men, 1192ng/dl is high. That massive difference in testosterone means we’re going to be able to get stronger than women can.

Thus, it’s a duty to do so. It means you’re going to be more helpful, both when it comes to combat and even fixing and lifting things around the house. There’s nothing more useless than a weak man.

  1. Get good at fighting.

You may never have to fight, but you better be good at it in case. Not only will being good at fighting enable to you help those who need it and can’t fight themselves, but it’ll give you a quiet confidence that comes when you know you can handle yourself in any situation.

  1. Daily reflection.

Reflection is a necessity. Keeping a journal, writing thoughts, making sure you’re going in the right direction rather than in just any direction, is vital. Spend 30 minutes a day at the end of the day in reflection. Were you good? Did you work hard? Did you live well? Did you focus on what you can control and not on what you can’t?

Reflection is as important to growth and improvement as planning.

  1. Daily reading.

I’m sure they exist, but I haven’t met a successful, good, honorable man who doesn’t read. Usually the more voraciously they read, the better they are at whatever they do.

Read for pleasure, of course, but read to improve. Read the stoics, about business, about historical figures you admire and would like to emulate.

Great lives have been lived. You nor I have to rewrite the journey, it’s been done, all we have to do is work our asses off and emulate.

  1. Do what you set out to do.

If we can simply do what we set out to do, we will live a great life. And I mean a GREAT life. Most people don’t actually do this. They set out to do a million things and maybe do one or two. Imagine if you actually did, finished, completed, everything you set out to do. That would be a life well lived.

  1. Be great at something.

You’re not just here to be, you’re here to do, to achieve, to prove that you were here for a reason. The work you do is evidence of that reason. Don’t jump from thing to thing, sit down and choose one thing, and become great at it.

  1. Do what you don’t feel like doing.

If you don’t feel like doing something it’s probably a good barometer for something that must be done. Don’t think your way out of doing it. Don’t push it off. If you don’t feel like doing something, just do it.

  1. Be careful about what you watch and listen to.

Don’t fill your brain with crap. Read good books. Watch good shows. Don’t watch the filth or read the filth that’s dominant, rampant today. Frivolousness begets frivolousness. Fame, today, is not something earned or warranted. It’s not something to admire. Be careful about what gets your attention, because it influences who you are.

  1. Do what you have to do to be at your best.

Your family, friends, and everyone else around you, benefit from you being at your best. Thus, create a schedule and a structure that helps you become your best. If I’m not following my schedule, I am not at my best.

I rise at 530am everyday. I read for 45 minutes to an hour. I head to the gym. I come back and I work 10-12 hours. I do that 5 days a week. The other day is a half work day. And the Seventh Day is for God, nature, and living. That’s how I’m at my best, and I learn the lesson over and over again, if I don’t create the structure, if I deviate and don’t take care of myself first, I fail those around me.

It’s like in the airplanes when they say you have to put your oxygen mask on first before you put your kid’s on. If you don’t take care of yourself first, you cannot take care of others.

  1. Struggle more. Struggle well.

In Ray Dalio’s book, Principles, he notes that life is struggle. If you try to avoid the daily struggle of work and discipline, you will end up bringing more struggle into your life in the form of obesity, poverty, and just outright failure. If, however, you learn to adopt more daily struggle in the form of work and exercise and so forth, and you learn to struggle well, you’ll live a better life.

  1. Dare mightily.

You have one life, why live it chasing things that don’t really matter to you or excite you? Excitement brings energy. It’s powerful. Be daring, don’t be timid. Face your fears with aggression, not with a timid step or a weak heart.

  1. Don’t be a critic.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” ~ Theodore Roosevelt

  1. Don’t complain.

Do the best with what you have and where you are. Don’t wish you were somewhere else. You have the capacity and potential to create pretty much anything you want. Don’t complain.

On top of that, no one wants to be around a little bitch, or with a little bitch. Don’t be a little bitch.

  1. Be stoic.

Stoicism is not being a slave to your emotions. It’s understanding that you can react to an event however you want to. You hold the power. The event does not.

So much of the pain and sadness we have in our lives is because of how we react, not the actual thing that has happened. Be a man. Be stoic.

How to Be an Alpha Male (not what you think)

How to Be an Alpha Male (not what you think)

If you want to know how to be an alpha male, think of the best leaders in history, they know how to be an alpha male because they often led louder, bigger, more aggressive men into battle. Should you WANT to know how to be an alpha male?

If You Want to Be an Alpha Male Take Advantage of This Gift, How to be the MAN

Well, you do, and you may not understand why you do, but no matter what anyone tells you, you want it. It’s something deep in your soul that wants greatness, achievement, to build a legacy, to win and succeed on a scale that you’re not entirely sure is possible.

You call it ‘being an alpha male’, a leader, a winner, but you could call it being a success, being a man, living a great life. Regardless, you should want to know how to be an alpha male. You should want to know how to reach your potential. You should want to know how to be your best and to live your best life and to win and dominate life.

Just as the alpha male ape does what the alpha male ape does (read this article on how the alpha male ape has to maintain power), constantly trying to win and keep power, you have to do the same. It’s who you are. It’s what will make you think that you lived a great and good and meaningful life. So, yes, you should want to know how to be an alpha male, but most of the information out there come from those who are the opposite, who are loud, hiding and trying to cover up weakness rather than trying to win, succeed, and dominate life.

Their’s is arrogance, not confidence, and you cannot have the former if you want to be an alpha male, it just won’t work.

How to Be An Alpha Male

  1. Don’t be loud, it shows weakness.

The line comes from American Gangster. The loudest one in the room is often the weakest. You can see this in confrontation a lot. Growing up, in my early twenties, I knew how to fight. Or I learned how to fight by taking up boxing, having some fights, doing well, improving in the sport, and so forth. Knowing how to fight made me quieter, more confident.

I knew I could handle myself. Noise and false bravado wasn’t necessary. I got into a couple fights with guys who didn’t know how to fight. They would be loud, aggressive, mean, rude, and think that their aggression would make someone else timid, and I’m sure it often did. But they didn’t know how to fight. Not well at least. So when the loudness didn’t work, and they were forced to fight, they’d get beat up, and they’d see that all of their bravado was a lie, the loudness was a cover up for the fact that they weren’t unable to succeed at what they were threatening to do; beat me up.

  1. Achieve something.

Confidence for men comes from achievement, from overcoming obstacles. It cannot be a lie or it won’t stand the test of time. You need to set big goals and achieve them if you want to be a true alpha, as do I. We won’t truly feel powerful unless we become powerful.

Set goals and work hard. Even the daily achievement of doing work well will give you confidence, a deep, true confidence that comes from achievement, not some hippie thought tricks or chants.

  1. Overcome obstacles.

Again, true power and confidence is won by overcoming obstacles. Thus, you have to see the obstacles in your life, whatever they are, or how out of control they make you feel, as opportunities, not as curses. Do not wish for them to go away, that’s what losers do.

Instead, figure out how to struggle well, how to rise above and conquer the obstacle and gain the confidence that comes from winning.

  1. Build a strong body that makes you dangerous.

Part of being an alpha is to be what men are bred to be, protectors. We need more good men who are dangerous than bad men. You also need a strong, powerful body to be able to withstand the life you’re aiming to live, hopefully one filled with daring and ambition.

  1. Learn how to fight and shoot.

Learning how to fight, especially, will give you a deep, inner power and confidence that’s hard to explain. When you know you can handle yourself in any situation, you don’t feel the need to be loud or overly aggressive, you just take care of business.

THE BEST A MAN CAN BE: BE TOXIC

THE BEST A MAN CAN BE: BE TOXIC

Teddy’s massive, dogo argentino head is on my lap. He’s snoring loudly, so I have to turn the volume up on the TV. The movie that’s on is Darkest Hour, the brilliant film about Churchill’s insertion into the Prime Ministership during the conflict of the Second World War.

He wakes with a glass of scotch of his own, a cigar, champagne for lunch, and port and wine in the evening. He’s witty, crude, and sees there can be no peace with the evil that is the Nazi regime under the leadership of Adolph Hitler. 

As western civilization stood on the brink of speaking German, we needed a man that would now be deemed as suffering from the affliction of ‘toxic masculinity’ at our healm. The truth is, what they’re (and by ‘they’ I primarily mean the APA, the American Psychological Association who came out with a report saying that masculinity is bad for those who are masculine) labeling as toxic, is actually quite good, even necessary, not only for the individual, but for the family (which is the most important institution of a free society), and for the society.

Of course, there was also the Gillette ad that some see as a call for men to be better, but others see as a company, or a group of social justice types, telling men that they’re what’s wrong with society. Of course, both men and women created the greatest and freest nations the world has ever seen, together, but heavily on the backs of men who built the roads and bridges, who fought the wars and built the homes.

I see it as the latter, as a company telling men that they’re the problem, that who they are is wrong, that the roughness and toughness is toxic, that their competitiveness is bad, is harmful to the fairer sex. Of course, they’re not separating the jerk from the man. They’re not exclaiming the truth, the fact that there are jerks in both sexes, but a jerk can only be stopped by a good man who has a greater capacity for danger.

This toxic masculinity, this toughness, brutality, and strength, is necessary in the hands of a good man. We need more good men with the capacity of danger than bad men with that same capacity.

On top of that, you will not tell a rapist not to rape and be successful. They’re evil, and telling them not to be evil isn’t a good defense or deterrent, it’s stupid. Yet, labeling all men as toxic is just as retarded, just as infantile.

The APA is where the real problem lies. Sure they’re a majority of feminist women who hate men. Sure they want more clients, more people with mental problems, not fewer. Yet they shape policy, they influence how we school our boys. Thus, let’s look at what they deem as toxic, and see that what they see as bad is actually good, is actually something that you should aspire to be not try to hide from or avoid or suppress or destroy.

From the APA:

“The main thrust of the subsequent research is that traditional masculinity—marked by stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression—is, on the whole, harmful.”

They go on to say:

“For example, a 2011 study led by Kristen Springer, PhD, of Rutgers University, found that men with the strongest beliefs about masculinity were only half as likely as men with more moderate masculine beliefs to get preventive health care (Journal of Health and Social Behavior, Vol. 52, No. 2). And in 2007, researchers led by James Mahalik, PhD, of Boston College, found that the more men conformed to masculine norms, the more likely they were to consider as normal risky health behaviors such as heavy drinking, using tobacco and avoiding vegetables, and to engage in these risky behaviors themselves (Social Science and Medicine, Vol. 64, No. 11).”

It is silly that they think not seeking out health care for who knows what issues, and smoking cigars, avoiding vegetables, and engaging in risky behaviors is an enemy that demands destruction.

The real issue, however, is with the wonderful qualities they deem as being a part of ‘toxic masculinity’, an absurd statement and label.

They make a man want to be more toxic. It will mean more happiness, more success, more power, a better family life, and more achievement. It’s as if they want to mold losers, only to leave a society eventually undefended, unsuccessful, and dependent on others for its care.

If you’re a man, and society is telling you that being a man is toxic, then you have no choice but to be as toxic as you can possibly be.

The Best a Man Can Be

Let’s look at the virtues – because that’s what they are, they’re not things to avoid, but attributes to develop – and how to best develop them.

Stoicism

The dictionary defines stoicism, in part, as the endurance of pain or hardship without the display of feelings and without complaint.

The whole purpose of life is to struggle well. The better you can struggle, the better your life will be. Life will not be devoid of struggle. Even the avoidance of struggle – ie. the avoidance of work or ambition or self-improvement – will bring upon even more struggle. You’ll be broke, fat, and useless.

Struggle is a constant. It’s the entirety of life. Those who struggle well, live well. Those who do not struggle well, live bad lives.

For resources on how to become more stoic, check out https://dailystoic.com/what-is-stoicism-a-definition-3-stoic-exercises-to-get-you-started/

Also get the following books on Amazon:

The Lost Art of Discipline

Meditations 

Letters from a Stoic

The Art of Living

Competitiveness

Competitiveness is both necessary for the individual and for society. Without competitiveness, we’d still be in caves. For the man, being competitive is how you improve, grow, and evolve, and how you make the lives for others around you better.

If you’re competitive, cultivate that competitiveness into success. It’s good to be successful. Some would say it’s necessary. It’s the act of inching closer to your potential.

From a hormonal standpoint, competition will create increases in testosterone, which is important. Men need testosterone as high testosterone levels lower your likelihood of experiencing depression, heart disease, certain cancers, and impotence.

If you want to learn more about testosterone and how to increase it naturally, pick up a free copy of my book, the Man Diet below:

Dominance

On the surface, dominance seems harsh, it seems like a bad thing to dominate others. But victory, high performance, being elite can be seen as being dominant.

Michael Jordan was most certainly dominant. Is there anything better than seeing someone who’s truly great at what they do? Everyone should aspire for dominance in that light.

To dominate is to be the best at what you do, and why would someone aim to do anything if they’re not trying to be the best? That simply makes no sense. It doesn’t make sense to try, one must always give their all or there’s really no point in attempting whatever it is you’re trying to do.

That they deem dominance as a negative attribute, makes me think of this quote taken from Theodore Roosevelt:

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

Let them criticise, while you’re in the arena, amongst the blood and sweat, winning.

Aggression

Surely aggression is bad? Unless, of course, you need it. To put it bluntly, if a bad guy is attacking someone, a good guy needs to be aggressive to defeat the bad guy. We need more good men who are more dangerous than the bad men.

Aggression is a beautiful virtue when used correctly, and it’s good men who use it correctly. We cannot have a society filled with soft, weak, good men. If good men are soft, the bad men dominate.

Aggression is also the antidote to fear. In your own life, when you face adversity or long odds, face those obstacles not with a timid, soft soul, but with aggression. Meet your enemies on the battlefield of life and don’t take a step backward.

Be aggressive. Be dangerous. And in the eyes of the APA and Gillette, by all means, be toxic.

The Barbarian Virtues

If you want to develop the virtues above, and others, along with developing your body to be stronger, healthier, and improve your ability to be dangerous and deadly, learn more about the Barbarian Virtues course, along with the 12 Virtues of Manliness, and the Average 2 alpha Tribe:

To Be Great You Have to Be a Little Weird

To Be Great You Have to Be a Little Weird

To be great… If you have that ambition, that desire to be great, you have to be a little weird at the same time. To be great, you have to think differently than everyone else, while at the same time acting differently than everyone else. You’re literally trying to be different.

Most people aim at mediocrity because they know what mediocrity takes. They know that mediocrity won’t take that much effort or sacrifice. They know that they can essentially not improve and achieve mediocrity. And mediocrity is different for different people. For some, it’s a 100k a year, no more, no less. They can make that in their sleep. For others it’s being an average dad, not giving it his all, being lazy and not leading.

Being great, or even entertaining the idea, demands that you not only think bigger, but you accept that this bigger dream will take a lot more work than what everyone else is aspiring to achieve. It’ll take a lot more risk. You’ll have to sacrifice some areas of your life to push this idea of greatness forward.

The question, however, is the following: is greatness a dream, or is it a duty?

GREATNESS AS A DUTY

To be great isn’t a choice, but a duty. It’s something you have to be, aim to be, set out to become, based on the fact that living is a gift. Who you have in your life is a gift. Those who’ve sacrificed to give you opportunity are paid back by using the gift as best you can.

If you’ve read history, any good historical book, you’ll know that those who end up becoming great started out with the same insecurities that you have. They started out with the same doubts. They were just weird enough to be great.

TO BE GREAT YOU HAVE TO BE WEIRD

Somewhere, deep down, buried amongst the influences of your childhood and upbringing, your years in the workforce, who your friends see you as and who your lady sees you as, is the man you were put here to become.

This man isn’t pulled and pushed by outside influences. He’s true to who he most ambitiously can become, that voice in his soul that begs him to want more, to aim higher.

YOU’RE NOT DIFFERENT FOR THE SAKE OF BEING DIFFERENT

Being weird doesn’t mean coloring your hair or getting a nose ring. It’s not being different simply to look different or to stand out. Being different, in the case of greatness and of your potential, is being more ambitious. It’s not believing that where you’re born is where you have to die. It’s not believing the limited self-talk that we all have, and fighting against it.

Being different is doing more work, being more disciplined, investing properly and spending properly. It’s not falling into the traps that claim most lives before they’ve even begun. It’s focusing and persisting when most would quit. It isn’t dressing weird or trying to look weird and draw attention to yourself.

In fact, it’s the opposite. It’s being great even when no one else is watching.

TRUST YOUR GUT

Ambition isn’t a lie. It’s the truth, the most important truth in your life. As Steven Pressfield wrote in Turning Pro – a wonderful book –

“To feel ambition and to act upon it is to embrace the unique calling of our souls. Not to act upon that ambition is to turn our backs on ourselves and on the reason for our existence.”

If you find yourself being pulled and swayed in different directions, trust your gut about what you want and be who you want to be, audaciously so.

If you want to be great, be great in your own lane. Don’t try to run someone else’s race.

Today, that’s weird. Most people are living life in comparison to others. They’re not ‘staying in their lane’, they’re measuring what they do in comparison to what others do. It’s a habit that guarantees envy and unhappiness.

Be true to who you are, be that man daringly, have the bravado and the pride in where you’re headed to be yourself unapologetically so.

How to be Successful in Life: 3 Important Characteristics

How to be Successful in Life: 3 Important Characteristics

If you want to know how to be successful in life, you first have to commit to going all in. I didn’t cover this in the video, but study any man in history who did anything powerful or great, and you’ll see a guy who had other areas of his life that weren’t as successful as his mission. Thus, if you want to truly know how to be successful in life, especially as a man, you have to go all in, give it your everything, and leave nothing on the table or in the tank. The examples in history are endless, be it Ali or MLK jr with their marriages, Captain Cook with his family and never being there, and so on. There is no such thing as balance.

Now, when we’re talking about the characteristics a man needs to know how to be successful in life, there are 3 that aren’t covered because it’s not ‘nice’ to talk in these terms, terms of power, domination, and victory. We live in a society that rewards participation and condemns being too great. That said, who doesn’t want to be great?

Why even try to do something if you’re not going to try to dominate?

Why would you degrade what you can be and what you can accomplish because you want to be nice?

The reality is that dominating, high achievement, and greatness, is better for your family, and for society, but mainly for your family. You, as a man, have to do what’s best for your family. You have to rise above competition into the realm of domination, and if you want to dominate life, business, whatever else you’re focused on. This isn’t a goal, but a duty.

Your duty as a man is to be victorious and give your family the freedom, peace, and leg up they need to do that same. And these 3 characteristics are not only a must, but they’re intertwined.

1) Confidence.

Confidence is won, earned, not ‘thought’ or wished. You win confidence by winning. You get rid of the fat that’s making you insecure, you get stronger, tougher. You face your fears. You achieve things that you didn’t think were possible.

Men gain confidence by doing things that they didn’t know they could do. They also gain confidence by overcoming difficult obstacles. You’re going to develop real, strong confidence more in your tough times than when nothing exciting’s going on or you’re in the midst of ease. Tough times, and conquering them, build confidence.

Appreciate the struggle.

2) Daring.

You need to have some daring. If you actually want greatness and to know how to be successful in life, in business, in anything, it requires vision. James Cook is a great example of this. He literally wanted to go where no one had gone before. Columbus, another example. He wanted to explore, to do what no one had done before him. The Vikings, again, notorious conquerors and explorers. You need both daring and ambition if you’re going to build a legacy. You do not need safety. You do not to aim low, at the things you know you can accomplish.

Have daring in every aspect of your life. Be a conqueror, a king, and aim to build an empire, not just to make a buck.

3) Aggression.

Aggression? How blasphemous! You’re not supposed to be aggressive! Yes you are! At chasing your goals and facing your fears.

Aggression is the antidote to fear. You cannot be afraid and aggressive at the same time, and if you’re going to be daring, you’re going to be aiming at things, trying to accomplish and achieve things, that will make you afraid. Set MASSIVE goals, and then AGGRESSIVELY go after them.

Don’t be timid, it’s a waste of the goal, of the dream, and of your potential. Be aggressive when facing any fear. Practice it. Practice it on your hunting trips, your hikes, in the gym when you’re sparring, be aggressive. Move forward. Don’t take a step backward.

If you want to know how to be successful in life, adopt those 3 simple but powerful characteristics, but also, go all in.

Don’t aim for balance. Don’t dabble. Give it everything you have and achieve more than you thought possible.

Get after it brother!

Be Toxic

Be Toxic

The APA (American Psychological Association) came out a couple weeks ago with a report that, in their words, “traditional masculinity—marked by stoicism, competitiveness, dominance and aggression—is, on the whole, harmful.”

Who really knows why they came out with this report. It’s likely to try to move more people over to their causes, the social justice warrior type outlooks, the socialism, communism-type thought-police movement that demonizes anyone who thinks differently than they do.

Regardless of their insidious intentions, they’ve actually laid out exactly what you SHOULD BE, and should aim to become by describing masculinity by such virtues.

Of course, traditional masculinity is a blessing. Its virtues have helped create and defend freedom. They’ve helped a culture and species evolve to create the greatest, easiest quality of life in our history. It defends homes, builds buildings, roads, and bridges. We’re better off with more traditional masculinity, not less.

As far as the virtues they demonize, if you’re to live a good, happy, and most of all, successful life, you need these virtues – among others – in spades (I just made a post about this on instagram, like and share it here). If that’s toxic, be that.

Why You Should Be Toxic

Stoicism

You will not live a good life if your emotions control you. That’s stoicism. It’s taking control of how you react to events rather than having them ruin you and control your life. It’s the path to happiness, success, meaning, fulfillment, and purpose.

Competitiveness

You will not provide for your family, feel fulfilled, or benefit your society if you’re not competitive. You will not improve who you are – which is why we’re here, to become better today than we were yesterday – if you don’t have any competitive bone in your body. Our society will also not improve without competition.

Dominance

Dominance is simply leadership. You take command, you lead, you lift others up with you. You need to be dominant. You need to be a force, an alpha male, a leader. If you do not lead, someone worse will, someone weaker, someone who isn’t as good as you are, will take the reigns and dominate. You also should not ‘attempt’ things. Do not try, do. Dominate your competition. That’s the act of winning. Why do anything if you’re not going to go all in?

Aggression

It’s the antidote to fear. You will not live a good life if you’re timid and afraid. Your fears need to be met with aggression. Aggression is a powerful tool, without it you’re a victim to others, and to your fears. Aggression is also necessary to defeat those who oppose you, those who aim to do you or your loved ones harm. Use it.

All of the great men in history, who led us to prosperity and peace, would be called toxic by today’s standards. Theodore Roosevelt, Churchill, Be great. Don’t be soft.

Be Legendary,

Chad Howse